Broken Windows Series

Let’s jump in, number 1 is the broken window of Communication. Here’s what I’ve found. We treat communication in a relationship like it’s a little thing, like it’s not that big of a deal, like it doesn’t really matter, it’s just words but I’m telling you today that when communication is a broken window it has a multiplying effect. Broken communication invites more and more disorder because our words are the most powerful tool in a relationship. Now let’s be honest, communication is tough, predominantly because men and women communicate in such different ways.

If you don’t believe it, just look at my children. I’ve got a boy and two girls. My two girls both communicate the same way. They’re expressive, they tell details, they fill in all the blanks, and when there’s a moment of silence, they break the silence because they can come up with something to say. My boy on the other hand, grunts. And that’s the difference between men and women. We communicate differently. My wife looks at me sometimes and says, you communicate for a living, how is it that you’re so bad at it when you come home. And I always tell her that I use all my words on Sunday!

Communication is a broken window in most of our love shacks. Now we could obviously spend hours working on communication but I want to specifically help you know what to avoid in communication because I think there’s a broken window that most women deal with and a broken window that most men deal with. So let’s start with all the ladies. Men sit back and relax for a minute because there is a broken window of communication that for whatever reason, many women, fall into using this as their way to communicate. And it’s so bad, that the Bible actually addresses it repeatedly. I’m just going to show you a few of the verses, this is from the Bible ladies, for you. Men you’re going to like these. The Bible says, Proverbs 19:13b NIV: A quarrelsome wife is like the constant dripping of a leaky roof. Drip, Drip, Drip, Drip. There’s a word picture for you! It goes on and says, Proverbs 21:9 NIV: Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife. And here’s one that tops that one, Proverbs 21:19 NIV: Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife. You see guys what you’ve been missing? You ought to read you’re your Bible more! So women, you’ve got to avoid the broken window in communication of sounding like a broken record. You’ve got to work hard in your communication so that you’re not quarrelsome and nagging, because apparently according to the Bible, that’s your tendency. You’ve got to make sure you’re not always looking for a fight relationally, that you’re not using your words to dig and jab and cut down and belittle. You’ve got to build up your man with your words. You’ve got to cut down on the attitude and the neck rolls and the uber sensitive spirit and the quick comebacks and the short snappy responses. This is not what men want when you are communicating to them. Some of you speak to your man like he’s your child. Some of you speak to your man like he’s your dog. It’s no wonder why some of your men act like children or dogs. You’ve conditioned them with your words to act that way. Knock that mess off! Cut that stuff out. You speak to your man like he’s your knight in shining armor and he might be riding a white horse the next time you see him! This what men need, so women, stop being quarrelsome, it’s a broken window, your man doesn’t want you to talk to him like that, all the men right now are scared to applaud because they’re scared what you might say to them! Fix the window ladies!