Missing Qualities In Family Series

Text: 2 Samuel 3:1-5

Theme: David’s Family

Greetings: The Lord is good; and his love endures forever!

Introduction:

The holy family should take care to be a model family with seven qualities of life based on Hebrews 13:1-8. Now, we will talk about the missing qualities in many families which would lead to destruction and doom of the family. They are family interactions, family integration, and family intercessions.

God ordained family as the most sacred institution in the life of the humanity. Institution of marriage began at garden of Eden. Family is the basic unit of a society even for any church. If a family walks right with the Lord then the whole church becomes right with the Lord.

A home can be classified as : ‘A home could be a cage of social animals living together or a palace of godly people living together. A house could be a place of shelter of many individuals or could be a home of love, affection, fellowship with feelings.’ No house can be neither a military academy nor a chaotic accommodation where everyone does whatever he wants.

David’s Family Life:

Let me tell you the greatness of David. David is a great name with fame. His name appears for the first time in Ruth 4:22. The name continues to the end of the book of Revelation (22:16). He became king at 30 and reigned for 40 years. He lived for 70 years (2 Samuel 5:4). 1 Chronicle 29:26-28 says David died at good old age, having enjoyed long life, wealth, and honour.

According to the Talmud Yerushalmi David was born and died on the same day Shavuot (feast of weeks). Islam gives him high honour as one of the Nabis, calls him Daoud. His name is mentioned 16 times in Holy Quran. Jesus was called the Son of David.

David was a forgotten son (1 Samuel 16:11-12), He was a chased son-in-Law (1 Samuel 18:20), and He was counted as an orphan (1 Samuel 20:3). David was anointed by God (1 Samuel 16;13), He had great zeal for God (1 Samuel 17:45), God was with him wherever he went and whatever he was doing (1 Samuel 18:14). He was a mighty valour (1 Samuel 17:34-36) and He was a champion (1 Samuel 17:40). David became a canon to measure the kings of Judah and Israel. (1 Kings 15:3, 15:11,14, 11:4-6, 12-13).

David had many good qualities such as a man after God’s own heart (1 Samuel 18:12-13). He walked with the integrity of his heart (1 Samuel 18:14-15). He had served God’s purpose in his generation (1 Samuel 18:16). David was much talented musician and singer (Psalms 8,19,23…).

The synopsis of David’s family is recorded in 2 Samuel 3:2-5, 5:13-16, and 1 Chronicles 3:1-9. His sons were 6+4+9=19, and he had many sons a daughter known as Tamar.

“A numerous offspring was always accounted a very great blessing; and it must be very pleasant to a parent to see his children round about his table, placed in their proper order according to their age, partaking of what it is furnished with” as we read in Psalm 128:3. (John Gill in open Bible commentary).

He was not able to enjoy the meaningful family life.

King David:

- failed to train up his children

- failed to resolve the disputes among his children

- failed to do the settlement among his children

His family missed the family interactions, family integration and family intercessions. So, there was a confusion, chaos, disturbances, distress, disappointment, disintegration, vengeance, fight to extinct one another finally ended up in death.

1. Family interactions

“Mom, are flies good to eat?” asked the boy. “Let’s not talk about such things at the dinner table, son,” his mother replied. After dinner the mother inquired, “Now, baby, what did you want to ask me?” “Oh, nothing,” the boy said. “There was a fly in your soup, but now it’s gone.”

FAMILY INTERACTION refers to the communication and engagement between family members, encompassing a wide range of behaviours, patterns, and dynamics that shape their relationships and influence for individual well-being.

These interactions can have a significant impact on a family member's mental health, social development, and overall quality of life. Family interactions are the most proximal means of influence among family members.

It helps to shape family roles, power, affiliations, and cohesiveness.

Mother-father interactions can help shape how both parents impact their children. Family interactions leads to a functional family, parents strive to create an environment in which everyone feels safe and respected. A positive home requires parents to set and uphold rules, but not resort to overly rigid regulation of any one person's behaviour. In a healthy household, slights and misbehaviours are readily addressed, and boundaries are clear and consistent, all of which help avoid disharmony in the longer term.