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Handling Criticism Series
Contributed by Rev. Samuel Arimoro on Apr 10, 2025 (message contributor)
Summary: Criticism is something that everyone faces at some point in their lives. It is a reality of living in a fallen world, where opinions are often shared freely, sometimes with little regard for how they may impact the individual receiving them.
HANDLING CRITICISM
By Rev. Samuel Arimoro
Main Text:
Proverbs 15:31-32 (NIV):
"Whoever heeds life-giving correction will be at home among the wise. Those who disregard discipline despise themselves, but the one who heeds correction gains understanding."
Supporting Texts: Matthew 5:11-12, 1 Peter 2:23, Proverbs 9:8, Galatians 6:1, James 1:19-20
INTRODUCTION:
Criticism is something that everyone faces at some point in their lives. It is a reality of living in a fallen world, where opinions are often shared freely, sometimes with little regard for how they may impact the individual receiving them. How we respond to criticism can either help us grow or cause us to stumble. Whether it is constructive criticism that helps us improve or destructive criticism that seeks to tear us down, handling it wisely is crucial to our spiritual growth.
In the Bible, we see many examples of individuals who faced criticism and how they responded to it. Jesus, the perfect example, endured the most severe criticism from His enemies yet handled it with grace, wisdom, and humility. As believers, we are called to follow His example and learn how to respond to criticism in a way that honors God and promotes peace.
This message today is a reminder that how we respond to criticism matters. It is not the criticism itself that defines us but the way we handle it. When we understand the purpose of criticism and the biblical principles for dealing with it, we can navigate through these challenging moments with wisdom and grace.
1. UNDERSTANDING CRITICISM
Before we can respond to criticism properly, we need to understand what it is and why it exists.
a) Criticism as a Tool for Growth
Constructive criticism can help us identify areas for improvement. It often comes from people who genuinely want us to succeed (Proverbs 27:17).
b) Criticism Can Be Misused
Not all criticism is intended to help. Some criticism is rooted in jealousy, hatred, or bitterness, and its purpose is to tear down rather than build up (Psalm 31:13).
c) Everyone Faces Criticism
No one is exempt from criticism. Even Jesus faced criticism, and He responded in a way that we can learn from (Matthew 5:11-12).
d) The Danger of Ignoring Criticism
Ignoring valid criticism can lead to personal and spiritual stagnation. The Bible urges us to embrace correction for growth (Proverbs 12:1).
Biblical Example: Jesus was harshly criticized by the Pharisees, but He responded with wisdom and truth, not defensiveness or anger (Matthew 23:1-39).
2. RESPONDING WITH HUMILITY
A humble heart is key when handling criticism, especially when it is difficult to hear.
a) Not Defending Yourself Too Quickly
Often, when criticized, our first instinct is to defend ourselves. However, sometimes it is better to pause and listen to what is being said before responding (James 1:19).
b) Acknowledging Mistakes
If the criticism is valid, humbly acknowledging our mistakes shows maturity and a willingness to grow (1 Peter 2:23).
c) Choosing Not to Be Offended
It is easy to be offended by criticism, but we must choose to respond with grace and not let our emotions control us (Proverbs 19:11).
d) Learning from Criticism
Even when criticism stings, there is often something to learn. A humble heart is willing to accept correction and grow from it (Proverbs 15:31-32).
Biblical Example: David received harsh criticism from his wife, Michal, when he danced before the Lord. Instead of reacting in anger, he responded with humility, explaining his joy before God (2 Samuel 6:16-23).
3. RESPONDING WITH WISDOM
Wisdom is required when dealing with criticism, especially when it is unjust or hurtful.
a) Assessing the Motive Behind the Criticism
Not all criticism is given with good intentions. It is important to discern whether the criticism is constructive or destructive (Proverbs 9:8).
b) Responding in Love
Even when criticism is harsh, we are called to respond in love, remembering that we represent Christ in all that we do (Galatians 6:1).
c) Knowing When to Speak and When to Stay Silent
Sometimes the best response to criticism is silence. Jesus remained silent when falsely accused before Pilate (Matthew 27:12-14).
d) Seeking Counsel When Needed
If the criticism is confusing or overwhelming, seeking wise counsel can help us process it appropriately (Proverbs 15:22).
Biblical Example: When Nehemiah faced criticism and mockery from his enemies, he responded wisely, continuing the work God had given him without getting distracted by the critics (Nehemiah 4:1-6).
4. LEARNING TO LET GO OF BITTERNESS
One of the biggest dangers in handling criticism is allowing bitterness to take root in our hearts.
a) Forgiving Those Who Criticize Unjustly
Holding on to grudges against those who criticize us can be harmful to our hearts and our relationship with God. We are called to forgive as Christ forgave us (Ephesians 4:31-32).
b) Not Holding on to Past Criticism
