Are You Fit To Be Tied? Part Iii

night betwixt my breasts." Now when we say, that in our communication there are some things that are PERSONAL, we mean that there are things you talk to your mate about that you can not talk to anyone else about.

Illus: We should be shocked. It is wrong when people will talk in mixed company (male and female), about things that they should not even discussed with their best friends. What a sad commentary on our nation today that people so freely do this.

When we say "personal things," here, we are talking about things that are so intimate that they should only be shared by two beings. For example:

A. We have an intimacy with God. We can tell God those

things we cannot tell anyone else. Some may disagree about this, but there are some things we all have done that we would not want anyone, even the pastor or our mate, except God to know about. This is one of the problems we are constantly hearing about that the Catholic church is having. Women confess to the priest about things they should only be confessing to God. Then we wonder why we hear about immorality in the priesthood.

Illus: This causes problems in the ministry. Perhaps a woman is having problems in her marriage, and she wants to pour her heart out to her pastor and tell him how LONELY and NEGLECTED she is. Soon the pastor may become a little more than sympathetic, and the devil takes advantage of the situation, and the pastor thinks he is in love with the woman and they fall into sin.

What I am trying to tell you is, that there are some things that only God can help you with, and YOU ARE WASTING YOUR TIME, AND SOMEONE ELSE'S TIME WHEN YOU ARE CONFESSING TO THEM. It does no good to sit down with anyone and have a pity party. If you want help, pour your heart out to the One who can help you - God! You can tell Him things you would not, and should not, dare tell anyone else, knowing that He will never tell anyone what you talked to Him about. We have an intimacy with God that we do not have with anyone else!

B. We have an intimacy with our marriage partner. We can share things with our marriage partner that we cannot share with any other human. God saw it was not good that man should be alone. He knew man needed a helpmate to communicate with.

The devil will waste no time, when a couple gets married, trying to wreck the line of communication between a man and his wife.

Illus: General Schwarzkoph has been on many television programs since the Persian Gulf War. Many times he has been asked how he went about defeating Iraq's army. When he is asked this, he talks about how he had to destroy their lines of communication. He says that once they had destroyed the communication then victory was a sure thing!

The devil knows this strategy. He knows if he can destroy the communication between a husband and wife, the marriage will fail. We need the same kind of communication today in our marriages that Solomon and the Shulamite girl had. In the book of Solomon their words were PLENTY, PLEASANT, and PERSONAL.