#4putting Out Fires: Commination Skills: Outline Series

#4 PUTTING OUT FIRES: POLISHING OUR COMMUNICATION

STUDY GUIDE, short outline of the overview.

I give a copy of the overview to everyone, to enhance the study.

PUTTING OUT FIRES: POLISHING OUR COMMUNICATION SKILLS!

By Wade Martin Hughes, Sr. Kyfingers@aol.com

Proverbs 18:21

I will email this in three parts, but the lesson being taught is a multiple part series. I did this lesson in 8 parts.

Introduction:

Today we have many problems that come from a lack of wisdom and poor communication skills. We need to polish our communication skills and learn to put out fires and emotions by good conversation and communication.

James warns us the tongue is full of deadly poison.

James again warns that the tongue can ignite many fires that bring great destruction.

Let us look at some literary tools and devices both good and bad and let us come to the Father justified by our words.

A word can be very powerful. Your words can launch you to new heights.

Your words can become a trap and a snare.

Few ever learn the power of a word.

Words are tools. Words can aid us to accomplish God’s works, or we can hinder God’s work by poor word usage.

Your brain should be in gear before you ever open your mouth.

Words can never be recalled. A word is a shadow of a deed!

A word spoken in due season, how good it is!

But what about an ill word at an ill season?

Once a word has been allowed to escape, it cannot be recalled.

Proverbs 18:21 Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.

Matthew 12:36 But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment.

27 For by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned.

STUDY GUIDE

PUTTING OUT FIRES: POLISHING OUR COMMUNICATION SKILLS!

By Wade Martin Hughes, Sr. Kyfingers@aol.com

Proverbs 18:21

I. GOD TEACH US TO CONTROL OUR TONGUE AND PUT OUT FIRES.

Matthew 12:36---37 1 Timothy 6:18; Hebrews 13:16

II. GOD GAVE MAN A HINT AS TO WHAT IS IMPORTANT:

GOD GAVE MAN TWO EARS AND ONE MOUTH.

WISDOM MIGHT BE FOUND IN LISTENING TWICE AS MUCH AS WE SPEAK.

James 1:19

III. WORDS ARE TOOLS. GOOD PRACTICE GROWS GOOD THINGS.

IV. LANGUAGE SKILLS CAN DEPEND ON HOW YOU SAY IT.

V. HOW DO WE COMMUNICATE?

VI. WHAT DETERMINES WHAT YOU HEAR?

COMMUNICATION INVOLVES MUCH MORE THAN WORDS!

VII. LET US PONDER WHAT IS THE MOST DANGEROUS THING WE KNOW?

James 3:2 -- 10

VIII. GUARD YOUR EARS AND YOU WILL HAVE LESS OF A PROBLEM WITH YOUR MOUTH. GOD GAVE US TWO EARS AND ONE MOUTH FOR A

REASON.

IX. WE DEVELOP POOR COMMUNICATION WHEN WE OFTEN RAISE A STINK!

Proverbs 30:33

X. LEAVE YOUR BURDEN OFF ME?

XII. BASIC LITERARY TOOLS: REPETITION:

XIII. WORDS THAT GENDER STRIFE?

ARE WE INVESTING TOO MUCH IN THE UNPROFITABLE!

Job 6:25 ; Romans 1:29; II Timothy 2:23; Titus 3:9

XIV. INTIMIDATION AND BULLYING COMMUNICATION SKILLS ARE SELDOM

SUCCESSFUL! LOVE OFFERS SOFT, KIND WORDS.

CHECK OUT YOUR DECIMAL LEVEL!

Proverbs 15:1

XV. SEEMS WE LOVE SARCASM, SARCASM IS A MEAN LANGUAGE TOOL!

Galatians 5:15; Proverbs 10:12; Proverbs 17:17

XVI. TO BELITTLE ANOTHER IS TO BE LITTLE.

SOME PEOPLE THINK THEY ARE GOD CALLED HEAD SHRINKERS!

Romans 12:10; Romans 14:19; I Thessalonians 5:11

XVII. FILTHY, DIRTY LANGUAGE IS A MARK OF THE HEATHEN

AND UNEDUCATED. Colossians 3:8

XIII. WORDS THAT GENDER STRIFE?

ARE WE INVESTING TOO MUCH IN THE UNPROFITABLE!

Job 6:25; Romans 1:29; II Timothy 2:23; Titus 3:9

XIV. INTIMIDATION AND BULLYING COMMUNICATION SKILLS ARE SELDOM SUCCESSFUL!

LOVE OFFERS SOFT, KIND WORDS. CHECK OUT YOUR DECIMAL LEVEL!

Proverbs 15:1

XV. SEEMS WE LOVE SARCASM, SARCASM IS A MEAN LANGUAGE TOOL!

Galatians 5:15; Proverbs 10:12 ; Proverbs 17:17

XVI. TO BELITTLE ANOTHER IS TO BE LITTLE.

SOME PEOPLE THINK THEY ARE GOD CALLED HEAD SHRINKERS!

Romans 12:10;Romans 14:19; I Thessalonians 5:11 .

XVII. FILTHY, DIRTY LANGUAGE IS A MARK OF THE HEATHEN

AND UNEDUCATED Colossians 3:8

XVIII. THERE ARE TWO SILENT TREATMENTS, ONE IS POSITIVE AND

THE OTHER IS NEGATIVE, CONTROLLING AND MANIPULATIVE.

AVOID FROZEN COMMUNICATION LINES?

I Thessalonians 4:11; I Timothy 2:2

XIX. WHISPERING IS BAD COMMUNICATION ETHICS!

Romans 1:29--30, II Corinthians 12:20

XX. NAGGING WILL NEVER BUILD BETTER PEOPLE, FAMILIES OR CHURCHES!

NAG: *** to find fault incessantly; complain ***to badger ***to worry

***to be a persistent source of annoyance or distraction

***to irritate by constant scolding or urging

XXI. LIE NOT ONE TO ANOTHER, TO DEAL FALSELY IS A POOR

COMMUNICATION SKILL! WHAT IS TRUTH? WHAT IS A LIE?

Leviticus 19:11; Colossians 3:9

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