#4 PUTTING OUT FIRES: POLISHING OUR COMMUNICATION
STUDY GUIDE, short outline of the overview.
I give a copy of the overview to everyone, to enhance the study.
PUTTING OUT FIRES: POLISHING OUR COMMUNICATION SKILLS!
By Wade Martin Hughes, Sr. Kyfingers@aol.com
Proverbs 18:21
I will email this in three parts, but the lesson being taught is a multiple part series. I did this lesson in 8 parts.
Introduction:
Today we have many problems that come from a lack of wisdom and poor communication skills. We need to polish our communication skills and learn to put out fires and emotions by good conversation and communication.
James warns us the tongue is full of deadly poison.
James again warns that the tongue can ignite many fires that bring great destruction.
Let us look at some literary tools and devices both good and bad and let us come to the Father justified by our words.
A word can be very powerful. Your words can launch you to new heights.
Your words can become a trap and a snare.
Few ever learn the power of a word.
Words are tools. Words can aid us to accomplish God’s works, or we can hinder God’s work by poor word usage.
Your brain should be in gear before you ever open your mouth.
Words can never be recalled. A word is a shadow of a deed!
A word spoken in due season, how good it is!
But what about an ill word at an ill season?
Once a word has been allowed to escape, it cannot be recalled.
Proverbs 18:21 Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.
Matthew 12:36 But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment.
27 For by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned.
STUDY GUIDE
PUTTING OUT FIRES: POLISHING OUR COMMUNICATION SKILLS!
By Wade Martin Hughes, Sr. Kyfingers@aol.com
Proverbs 18:21
I. GOD TEACH US TO CONTROL OUR TONGUE AND PUT OUT FIRES.
Matthew 12:36---37 1 Timothy 6:18; Hebrews 13:16
II. GOD GAVE MAN A HINT AS TO WHAT IS IMPORTANT:
GOD GAVE MAN TWO EARS AND ONE MOUTH.
WISDOM MIGHT BE FOUND IN LISTENING TWICE AS MUCH AS WE SPEAK.
James 1:19
III. WORDS ARE TOOLS. GOOD PRACTICE GROWS GOOD THINGS.
IV. LANGUAGE SKILLS CAN DEPEND ON HOW YOU SAY IT.
V. HOW DO WE COMMUNICATE?
VI. WHAT DETERMINES WHAT YOU HEAR?
COMMUNICATION INVOLVES MUCH MORE THAN WORDS!
VII. LET US PONDER WHAT IS THE MOST DANGEROUS THING WE KNOW?
James 3:2 -- 10
VIII. GUARD YOUR EARS AND YOU WILL HAVE LESS OF A PROBLEM WITH YOUR MOUTH. GOD GAVE US TWO EARS AND ONE MOUTH FOR A
REASON.
IX. WE DEVELOP POOR COMMUNICATION WHEN WE OFTEN RAISE A STINK!
Proverbs 30:33
X. LEAVE YOUR BURDEN OFF ME?
XII. BASIC LITERARY TOOLS: REPETITION:
XIII. WORDS THAT GENDER STRIFE?
ARE WE INVESTING TOO MUCH IN THE UNPROFITABLE!
Job 6:25 ; Romans 1:29; II Timothy 2:23; Titus 3:9
XIV. INTIMIDATION AND BULLYING COMMUNICATION SKILLS ARE SELDOM
SUCCESSFUL! LOVE OFFERS SOFT, KIND WORDS.
CHECK OUT YOUR DECIMAL LEVEL!
Proverbs 15:1
XV. SEEMS WE LOVE SARCASM, SARCASM IS A MEAN LANGUAGE TOOL!
Galatians 5:15; Proverbs 10:12; Proverbs 17:17
XVI. TO BELITTLE ANOTHER IS TO BE LITTLE.
SOME PEOPLE THINK THEY ARE GOD CALLED HEAD SHRINKERS!
Romans 12:10; Romans 14:19; I Thessalonians 5:11
XVII. FILTHY, DIRTY LANGUAGE IS A MARK OF THE HEATHEN
AND UNEDUCATED. Colossians 3:8
XIII. WORDS THAT GENDER STRIFE?
ARE WE INVESTING TOO MUCH IN THE UNPROFITABLE!
Job 6:25; Romans 1:29; II Timothy 2:23; Titus 3:9
XIV. INTIMIDATION AND BULLYING COMMUNICATION SKILLS ARE SELDOM SUCCESSFUL!
LOVE OFFERS SOFT, KIND WORDS. CHECK OUT YOUR DECIMAL LEVEL!
Proverbs 15:1
XV. SEEMS WE LOVE SARCASM, SARCASM IS A MEAN LANGUAGE TOOL!
Galatians 5:15; Proverbs 10:12 ; Proverbs 17:17
XVI. TO BELITTLE ANOTHER IS TO BE LITTLE.
SOME PEOPLE THINK THEY ARE GOD CALLED HEAD SHRINKERS!
Romans 12:10;Romans 14:19; I Thessalonians 5:11 .
XVII. FILTHY, DIRTY LANGUAGE IS A MARK OF THE HEATHEN
AND UNEDUCATED Colossians 3:8
XVIII. THERE ARE TWO SILENT TREATMENTS, ONE IS POSITIVE AND
THE OTHER IS NEGATIVE, CONTROLLING AND MANIPULATIVE.
AVOID FROZEN COMMUNICATION LINES?
I Thessalonians 4:11; I Timothy 2:2
XIX. WHISPERING IS BAD COMMUNICATION ETHICS!
Romans 1:29--30, II Corinthians 12:20
XX. NAGGING WILL NEVER BUILD BETTER PEOPLE, FAMILIES OR CHURCHES!
NAG: *** to find fault incessantly; complain ***to badger ***to worry
***to be a persistent source of annoyance or distraction
***to irritate by constant scolding or urging
XXI. LIE NOT ONE TO ANOTHER, TO DEAL FALSELY IS A POOR
COMMUNICATION SKILL! WHAT IS TRUTH? WHAT IS A LIE?
Leviticus 19:11; Colossians 3:9
IN COURT CASES THE BAILIFF WILL ASK THE WITNESS
TO ANSWER THREE QUESTIONS.
XXII. WE MUST LEARN TO AVOID THE BLAME GAME IN OUR
COMMUNICATION SYSTEMS THAT WE DEVELOP.
Genesis 3:12 --13
XXIII. COMMUNICATION THAT OFFERS EXPRESSION AND ACTIONS THAT COMPLAIN, MURMUR, AND FIND FAULT ARE DARK PESSIMISM. WE ESTABLISH BEHAVIOR PROBLEMS!
PESSIMISM; OPTIMISM; Attitude
XXIV. ANOTHER POOR COMMUNICATION TOOL IS INTERRUPTION AND ALWAYS BUTT IN!
XXV. THE GIFT OF EXAGGERATION HAS IGNITED MANY FIRES!
Hyperbole
XXVI. WE WANT TO WEAR A MASK TO HID OUR IMPERFECTIONS!
COMMUNICATION MUST OFFER SELF DISCLOSURE.
XXVII. GOOD CONVERSATION LEARNS TO TELL TIME
Ecclesiastes 3:1
XXVIII. GOOD CONVERSATION IS CONDUCIVE AND PROMOTES GROWTH!
I Peter 2:2; II Peter 3:18
XXIX. THE FAMILY THAT PRAYS TOGETHER STAYS TOGETHER.
DOES YOUR FAMILY EVERY KNEEL TOGETHER?
XXX. GOD TEACH US TO CONTROL OUR TONGUE AND PUT OUT FIRES.
Matthew 12:36
LEARN TO BE A GOOD LISTENER! PRACTICE GOOD COMMUNICATION SKILLS!
Communication can reveal ones heart and mind, but one can also use communication skills to conceal ones heart.
Critics often communication imperfections and miss
dwelling upon the good.
The goal of communication is to bring understanding.
Where there is understanding there will grow wisdom.
The failure to communicate brings failure!
A good plan with por communication will bring failure.
We say sticks and stones may break my bones,
but words can never harm me, but this is not a
truthful statement.
The words of a tongue, and the written words of a person, can have great effect on others.
Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in God’s sight. Psa.19:14
Are words idle tales to you?
Be not a slave of words.
Good team work flows from good words, good deeds.
If you are unaware of the poweer of words, you will
always know heartache.
Words can infect the soul with evil.
It does not hurt the tongue to give fair words of encouragement.
There are two fatal words: mine and yours.
Words pay no debts.
Words can add fuel to an already burning flame.
A word to the wise will be enough.
For all the sad words of tongue or pen, the saddest
are these: WHAT MIGHT HAVE BEEN?
THE ESSENCE OF LYING IS IN DECEPTION, NOT MERE WORDS.
Why do we save good words about our friends until
they lay in their coffin?
O, ye dry bones, hear the WORD OF THE LORD.
ONCE A WORD HAS BEEN ALLOWED TO ESCAPE,
IT CAN NEVER BE RECALLED.
Matthew 12:36
LEARN TO BE A GOOD LISTENER! PRACTICE GOOD COMMUNICATION SKILLS!
By Wade Martin Hughes, Sr. Kyfingers@aol.com
This is the outline of a four part series.
I did this in 8 lessons.
