What Does It Mean To Be A Man: Man-Boy Syndrome & A Life Of Greatness

What is manhood? What does it mean to be a man? Is it power? Is it strength? Is it having the biggest truck? Or the biggest house? Or the best kept lawn? Is it the family and white picket fence? Is it finding true love in a wife? Is it raising children, and caring for grandchildren, and growing old together? Is it leaving a legacy of family?

Is it sexual prowess? Is it the "bro lifestyle" at the bars? Is it going from woman to woman, conquest to conquest? Is it found in experimenting with smoke and pipe? Or perhaps in a hedonistic search for pleasure?

Is it gathering wealth and possessions? Could it be attaining to total power? Is it creating brilliant works of art? Or might it be immortalizing oneself in writing books and poetry?

Is it in finding oneself? Or perhaps might it be discovering the truth that works for you? Or as some have said, to find your own meaning in the world?

Manhood is a very misunderstood topic today. One could say that western man has in many ways lost touch with what it means to be a man. But there are always the hold outs, the exceptions to the rule. They are around, holding their heads high, living lives of meaning and dignity. They are out there. I aspire to be one of them. I aspire to be a man of strength, courage, and conscience.

What kind of man are you? And if you're a woman, what kind of man would you want to lead your home? What kind of man would you want as your partner in the business of life?

Manhood can be very confusing. If one watches television and culture, one might have some very confusing ideas about what being a man is. If you watch commercials and sitcoms, you might think that men are supposed to be dumb, somewhat out of control, and in need of guidance from his wife who seems to commonly take the superior role in the relationship. That isn't manhood though. That's a fantasy world and it isn't real.

Some say there is a war on men. I don't know, maybe there is. Maybe media means to disarm men, to push a lot of guilt their way for their oppressiveness in the past. But I suppose I don't adhere to that. I won't be suppressed for the crimes of others. I just won't. Society, culture, people groups, and families in general need strong men, strong leadership in men, and overall just good men are needed.

Young men are not especially any of these categories. A lot of them are being told they're suppose to be more feminine. They are being told nothing is ever their fault. They are being told they are victims. They are being told they need to explore homosexual relationships. They are told they are suppose to try to sleep with everything that moves. If you haven't noticed this then you've been living in a box. Young men are for the most part, predators. It's creepy. Young men are being told they are the product of time + matter + chance. They are being told that they are just pond scum, and do whatever feels right. As they say "follow your heart." My heart got me into a lot of trouble, so today I follow the leading of my God. But men are hungry for something else. They are hungry for honor, dignity, truth, and a great cause to stand for.

But today? My goodness. Young guys today make me want to puke actually. Many of them do, truly. Especially the guys who dress up like gangsters. Or even worse, the bar hopping bro guys. They are just insufferable. These are the guys who have read "The Dao of the Badass" five hundred times, and make a practice of manipulating and seducing bar girls. They usually end up paying a lot of child support and drinking heavily. There's no meaning or happiness in that pursuit, believe me, it's empty. And child support is expensive. Welfare queens. It's ridiculous.

Do you know what they call that? In Psychology it's considering something called "King Baby Syndrome." King baby syndrome is characterized by selfishness, rejection of criticism, complaining, refusal to accept circumstances, refusal to mature, and believing that rules of life don't apply to them. The king baby is always looking for the next chance to laugh about something, or have fun no matter what. When people get in the way, they call them a drag and move on to the next. The king baby says things like "I shouldn't have to work, because then I'm just enslaved to my corporate masters." They refuse to face the difficulties of life, and refuse to accept difficult situations. Instead they tend to run from such issues, and often have chemical dependency issues and/or alcoholism problems. So let me ask you: Are you a king baby? If so, maybe it's time to grow up? You can be king of the pen at your mommy's house, or you could allow yourself to mature into a man? Your choice.