Things That Make Christians Different From The World: Marital Intimacy Series

Things That Make Christians Different From The World: Marital Intimacy

As we continue this series on the differences between what the world thinks and believes and what we as Christians think and believe it is important and in my opinion very necessary to talk about a very sensitive and sometimes controversial topic: sex.

I know that this topic can make some people squirm and feel uncomfortable but intimacy between two married people is what God ordained and designed for us as people. And believe me we as Christians believe way differently about this subject than most people in the world do. But we have to learn, as Christians, to be able to talk about this subject biblically, intelligently, and without shame or reservations because this subject is extremely important today because of the way that the world is abusing one of the greatest gifts that God ever gave to us human beings.

We cannot let the world set the tone on this important subject and if we as Christians feel like we can’t even say the word sex without somehow feeling dirty or embarrassed then we will cede this discussion to the world and it will, in the end, ruin millions if not billions of lives worldwide.

The world has been blurring the line between godly, marital intimacy and worldly love or more to the point lust for centuries now. And satan loves this because it is another way to separate people from God through immoral sexual behaviors. But sexual intimacy between two married people, that is one man and one woman, is a wonderful gift from God!

In Genesis 2:22-25 we read this about the way God ordained marriage and intimacy to be lived out:

22 The LORD God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man, and brought her to the man.

23 The man said, "This is now bone of my bones, And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man."

24 For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.

25 And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.

In This passage of Scripture we see how the woman was created by God and what one of her roles was to be and that role was to be the wife of Adam. This is also where we see that God ordained for them to come together in an intimate way and show their love for each other physically in a godly way.

Sexual intimacy between married Christian couples is what God ordained for us as Christians and though many people in the world get married, if they are not in a right relationship with God then they have only a part of the equation for healthy and godly intimacy down and are still lacking a relationship with the one who created marriage and the intimacy that is involved in that marriage. And therefore these folks can and usually do pervert this gift of intimacy on a regular basis.

Now is that to say that Christians cannot and will not defile this wonderful gift that God has blessed us with? I wish that I could say that this was true but it is not. I once had a discussion with a man in my old Sunday School class about the verse of Scripture that reads as follows: Hebrews 13:4 Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge.

The man I was talking to was saying that he and his wife could do whatever they wanted to in the bedroom and that since they were Christians and they were married that it would all be ok in the eyes of the Lord. I was attempting to correct my brother on his very incorrect interpretation of this verse of Scripture. Just because we are Christians doesn’t mean that we get to do whatever we want and justify our bad behavior by twisting God’s Word to suit our wrong desires.

The good news about this episode was that eventually he came to me and said that he was sorry and that he was wrong for trying to justify wrong thinking and wrong actions by misusing Scripture and he changed his ways or at least that was his story and he was sticking to it!

I find it very sad that Christians try to have it both ways like my friend thought he could do. It’s sad that Christians think that we can act godly and worldly at the same time. There are things that the world calls “fun” when it comes to intimacy but the Bible calls a lot of this so called “fun stuff” sexual immorality.