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The Love Language Of Physical Touch Series
Contributed by Michael Deutsch on May 11, 2022 (message contributor)
Summary: A look at how to love one another and love God through the 5 love languages
The 5 Love languages
Physical Touch
May 15, 2022
He gives you flowers, which are really nice, but what you really want is a one on one, soul to soul, heart to heart conversation. She gives you a hug after a hard dayâs work, but what you really need is a delicious home-cooked meal. He gives you great back rubs, but what you really want is someone to clean up the house. She asks you about your day and wants to know every detail, but all you want is someone to give you a hug and cuddle for a bit.
Maybe that describes you and your relationship right now. Maybe thatâs part of the past. Sometimes we think weâre the problem. Sometimes weâre made to think that itâs us, and not somehow the fact that weâre miscommunicating love on a very basic level and thatâs hurting our relationships.
The problem isnât your love â itâs your love language! According to Gary Chapman, author of The Five Love Languages, just as we speak different languages - - - there are also different love languages.
Weâre now on week 4 of our 5 week series and I hope itâs been beneficial for you. Maybe you know your kids a little better, or youâre learning more about your spouse or significant other and the ways to show them love according to their needs, and not yours. Maybe youâve learned more about you, and thatâs great!
Iâm going to say this and maybe step on a few toes. If so, then sorry, but not really! This series is meant to help us learn to love better. So, if you still donât know youâre love language, itâs time to learn it. If you donât know your spouse or kids love language, itâs time to find out. If you donât have access to the internet to take the quiz, then let us know and weâll set you up at church and you can take it.
We want you to learn to love and be loved better. God loves us through each of the 5 love languages and has uniquely designed us to receive and give love. Itâs vital to know, so that you can love better. And spouses, donât ask your mate to guess. Because if theyâre wrong, thatâs embarrassing. Just say, âhey, honey, I took the love language quiz and my love language is . . .â
Normally, we give love the way we receive love. If youâre into Acts of Service, then thatâs what you try to do. If youâre all about receiving gifts, then you like to give gifts. So, sometimes we will be stretched to give love in a different way, especially if everyone in the house has different love languages. It can make life a little crazy, but itâs worth it.
So, if you have not learned your love language or the love language of your kids or those who are really close to you, take the love language quiz. Itâs in your bulletin and on the screen.
www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes
So far, weâve looked at - - -
Words of Affirmation â For some, they best receive love through what we say and how we say it. Finding love through kind and encouraging words.
Quality Time - love through presence. Being with another person, giving them your undivided attention. It can be doing something together or just being together with no distractions.
Receiving Gifts - Gifts are a tangible, symbolic expression of love. We remember the love of the other person when we look at or use the gift. They donât have to be big and expensive, but are reminders we were thought of.
There are 2 more to go. Next week we will look at Acts of Service. Today, weâre going to look at PHYSICAL TOUCH.
This is one of the most fundamental ways that we show love. Itâs one of the easiest. We donât even have to say anything. Have you ever stood with someone who is grieving. There are no words to say other than âIâm sorry for your loss!â But itâs that hug, itâs the touch on the arm, itâs the firm handshake which communicates your presence and love.
A great deal of research has been conducted on physical touch for babies. Theyâve learned that babies who are held, hugged, and kissed develop a healthier emotional life than those who have not.
Theyâve gone to orphanages where babies were not held very much, but given proper nutrition, they found they didnât grow as well, they had emotional issues and some actually died due to lack of physical contact.
Research indicates that holding hands reduces stress. So, next time youâre having a disagreement at home, go and hold hands. Actually, as crazy as that sounds, that may be a great idea.