The Devil's Triangle In Marriage Series

If he tells her they are moving to Montana to work in the wheat fields she doesn’t say, “That is the stupidest thing I have ever heard. You go and you go without me.” That kind of attitude breaks a man down and will kill love quicker than anything else.

But submission doesn’t mean that she has to say, “All right, dear, whatever you think best!” and start packing for Montana. She has the right and responsibility as his partner and as a parent to ask him the whys and wherefores of such a decision.

I thank God for my wife. I believe she would go to the wheat fields with me if it came down to it. But I thank God that she has asked me questions and showed me the “other side” of things, and kept me from dragging her and my children into some “hare-brain” ideas I have come up with.

We all know O. Henry’s beautiful Christmas story about the gifts. A wife, whose prize possession was her long, beautiful hair, was married to a man whose prize possession was a gold pocket watch. Being poor, they had no money to buy each other a Christmas present. The woman cut her hair and sold it and with the money, bought a gold chain for her husband’s watch. But while she was doing that, he was selling his watch to buy a gold clip for her hair. What a Christmas that must have been! It all boils down to this. If a man wants to be happy, he should dedicate himself to do all in his power to make life easier and better and happier for his wife. If a woman wants to be happy, she should dedicate herself to do all in her power to make life easier and better and happier for her husband. Put two people like this together and you have heaven on earth. You have two becoming one. You have God’s triangle in marriage.