The Bruise Of Rejection

THE BRUISE OF REJECTION... THE STING OF REJECTION...

By Wade Martin Hughes, Sr. Kyfingers@aol.com

BRUISE:

Injury, a discoloration of skin, damage to fruit, damage, do wrong

HURT MENTALLY OR EMOTIONALLY, HURT, harm,

REJECTION:

To put aside, to send back, REFUSE TO ACCEPT, vomit, decline, throw away.

I. REJECTION IS ALMOST ALWAYS TAKEN PERSONALLY...

SAMUEL SAW THE PEOPLE'S DESIRE FOR A KING AS A PERSONAL REJECTION...

1 Samuel 8:7 And the Lord said unto Samuel, Hearken unto the voice of the people in all that they say

unto thee: for they have not rejected thee, but they have rejected me, that I should not reign over them.

1 Samuel 10:19 And ye have this day rejected your God, who himself saved you out of all your adversities

and your tribulations; and ye have said unto him, Nay, but set a king over us. Now therefore present

yourselves before the Lord by your tribes, and by your thousands.

II. IS OUR LOVE INCLUSIVE OR EXCLUSIVE?

DISSIMULATED LOVE... To conceal or disguise, one's thoughts, feelings, to

Romans 12:9 Let love be without dissimulation. Abhor that which is evil; cleave to that which is good.

[10] Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another;

DISSIMILAR: unlike, not similar, different

CLIQUE: small exclusive groups of people...

DON'T ALLOW YOUR LOVE TO BECOME DIVIDED...

DISSIMULATED LOVE MEANS:

1. You must buy my love...

2. You must earn my approval

3. You will have to conceal facts and intentions

4. Inadequate, insincere

III. JESUS KNEW THE DEEP BRUISE OF REJECTION AND JESUS WARNED US TO EXPECT TO

BE REJECTED...

Mark 8:31 And he began to teach them, that the Son of man must suffer many things, and be rejected of the

elders, and of the chief priests, and scribes, and be killed, and after three days rise again.

Luke 9:22 Saying, The Son of man must suffer many things, and be rejected of the elders and chief priests

and scribes, and be slain, and be raised the third day.

Isaiah 53:3 He is despised and rejected of men; a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief: and we hid as

it were our faces from him; he was despised, and we esteemed him not.

[4] Surely he hath borne our griefs, and carried our sorrows: yet we did esteem him stricken, smitten of God,

and afflicted.

IV. WHAT HAPPENS WHEN WE CARRY THE DEEP BRUISE OF RREJECTION...

REJECTION CAN CAUSE US TO LOOSE HEART...

A. REJECTED PEOPLE REJECT OTHER PEOPLE....

B. Rejected people are often VERY IMMATURE...

C. REJECTED PEOPLE START DEVELOPING A LOVE VACUUM... absence of normal contents...

THEY TEND TO SMOTHER, suffocate, overwhelm, choke...

1. They either love and worship their friends

2. THEY GET ANGRY AND HATE

D. Rejection gives birth to SELF-CENTERNESS

1. Loneliness

2. FEAR

3. JEALOUSY

4. OVERBEARING

5. WITHDRAWL FROM THE GROUP...

V. REJECTION BY OTHERS WILL ALWAYS LEAD TO SELF-REJECTION...

A. Unworthiness feelings, I just don't fit in...

B. LOSS OF SELF VALUE, ... love neighbor as self

C. REJECTED PEOPLE BECOME JUDGMENTAL AND CRITICAL OF SELF // OTHERS

D. Rejected people try to CONTROL OTHERS, or be controlled by others...

E. REJECTED PEOPLE TEND TO DEVELOP A RUN-AWAY SPIRIT, wear mask, and hide emotions

until they blow up...

F. Rejected people tend to fall to PEER-PRESSURE, go along with the crowd...

G. REJECTED PEOPLE ---REJECT OTHER PEOPLE...

AND OFTEN THEY WILL REJECT GOD

H. REJECTED PEOPLE WILL TRY TO BUY LOVE, THIS IS CALLED BARGAINING...

G. REJECTED PEOPLE ARE OFTEN UNSTABLE IN THEIR RELATIONSHIPS WITH PEOPLE

AND GOD.

VI. CAN WE GET OUT OF REJECTION'S DEATH GRIP? SURE YOU CAN!

A. LEARN TO FORGIVE AND ACCEPT FORGIVENSS...

Luke 6:36 Be ye therefore merciful, as your Father also is merciful.

[37] Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and

ye shall be forgiven:

[38] Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and

running over, shall men give into your bosom. For with the same measure that ye mete withal it shall

be measured to you again.

B. SET YOURSELF FREE, SET OTHERS FREE...

Job 42:10 And the Lord turned the captivity of Job, when he prayed for his friends:

also the Lord gave Job twice as much as he had before.

C. BE QUICK TO ACCEPT OTHERS EVEN IF THEY ARE DIFFERENT...

D. FIND YOURSELF --- YOUR IDENITY IN GOD...

E. RECEIVE GOD AND HIS LOVE...

His servant, Wade Martin Hughes, Sr. Kyfingers@aol.com

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