Ten Commandments For Marriage Series

Just remember that the first few minutes inside the door set the tone for the rest of the evening. Meet him at the door and welcome him home.

Don’t meet him at the door with the news that Jimmy has been bad, the sink is backed up and oh, yea the bank called and we are overdrawn.

II. Five Commandments For Husbands

1 Peter 3:7 (NKJV) “Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life…”

Men listen carefully this may be the most important message you will hear all year. If you want bonus points with your wife today at least pretend to be listening. Extra points go to any man actually writing something down.

1. Assign Top Priority to your Marriage Relationship

Ephesians 5:25 (NKJV) “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her,”

Don’t take your marriage or your mate for granted. You may even need to help around the house. Some men actually seem to believe that God created Adam and noticed all the clothes lying around all over the garden and created a woman to pick them up. One woman said that her husband’s idea of helping out was to lift his feet when she is vacuuming.

Guys we need to put our relationship with our spouse back at the top of the list. Guys where do you think that your wife would say that she is on your priority list? Does she have to compete with you work? With your hobbies?

2. Dare to Talk (Give Praise) and Reassurance

In the book of Proverbs (16:24) we find this wise words of advice, “Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, Sweetness to the soul and health to the bones. (NKJV)

Have you ever witnessed two guys trying to express affection for one another. “Hey ugly how’s it going.” “Good, easy money. How about yourself.” Don’t even think about trying that on a woman.

Guys you need to work at verbalizing your feelings for your wife, (i.e. tell her how you feel).

“There is a story told about a businessman whose wife was experiencing depression. She began to mope around and be sad, lifeless, no light in her eyes, no spring in her step, joyless. It became so bad that this “man of the world” did what any sophistic-ated person would do. He made an appointment with a psychiatrist. On the appointed day, they went to the psychiatrist’s office, sat down with him and began to talk. It wasn’t long before the wise doctor realized what the problem was. So without saying a word, he simply stood, walked over in front of the woman’s chair, signaled her to stand, he took her by the hands, looked at her in the eyes for a long time, and then gave her a big warm hug. You could immediately see the change come over the woman. Her face softened, and her eyes lit up. She immediately relaxed. Her whole face glowed. Stepping back, the doctor said to the husband, ‘See, that’s she needs. With that the husband said, ‘ Okay, I’ll bring her in Tuesday and Thursday each week, but I have to play golf on the other afternoons.” (# 263)

Somme couples are literally “out of touch” with each other!