Straight Talk About Sex – What Does The Bible Teach About Sex Series

Straight talk about Sex – What does the Bible Teach about Sex

Gladstone Baptist Church – 28/8/05 pm

Little Billy took his girlfriend downtown to get married.

The marriage license clerk smiled and explained that they were both much too young.

Little Billy asked, "Could you give us a learners’ permit then?"

Tonight I want to talk about marriage and I am aware that some of you are way too young to be married, but that is okay. I still want you to listen, because marriage in God’s eyes goes hand in hand with sex. God says, if you are too young for marriage, you are too young for sex. This sounds pretty stodgy and old fashioned doesn’t it. But there are some very good reasons for laying down those guidelines and that is what I want to delve into a bit tonight.

Last week we began our 4 week series on Straight Talk About Sex. Last Week we talked about 5 common myths about sex. Tonight we are going to look at what the Bible teaches about Sex. Next week, we’ll be tackling the differences between girls and guys and the week after we are going to consider the question – How far is too far? After that service we are going to have a coffee shop and a forum to answer some of your questions. So if you have thought of any questions. Write them down on a piece of paper and post them in the letter box opposite the church office.

If you were here last week, you know that we tackled 5 myths about Sex … Can anyone remember any of the myths we covered?

1) God is down on sex – We are going to talk a bit more about this one today. But last week, we learnt that God invented sex – Wow – you say. Yes – God created it, but not just that, he commanded Adam and Eve to have sex and have it often. Really he didn’t have to command them too hard, because God made Sex wonderfully enjoyable.

2) Sex is purely Physical - Sex is not just physical. It is not just an instinct for us humans, but is deeply emotional and spiritual because God designed sex that way. He said in Gen 2 that when 2 people have sex, they become one flesh. Remember our paper cutouts that became one flesh - You try to break that bond and you cause pain and damage. Sexual intimacy creates memories that we carry for the rest of our lives. There is no such thing as a quickie.

3) Sex is No big Deal – society and our friends often want us to believe this one, but it is a big deal. The problem is that we have become so inundated with sexual images, that we don’t even think about it anymore. Sex brings with it risks with life – long consequences. We spoke about Pregnancies and STDs last week and blew the myth apart that this won’t happen to me. But another consequence that we didn’t cover is the devastation that comes from being used. Young people … can you tell the difference between a person who really cares about you and one who is pretending to care, so they can use you. It is not just guys using girls. Girls also use guys – typically not for sex, but for security, status, emotional wellbeing, etc. The feelings of being used and abused are very common. If sex was no big deal, these wouldn’t exist – but they do – all too often. Sex is a big deal

4) Everyone is Doing it - No that is not right – statistics showed that in highschool, 50% of students were virgins when they graduated. Have you ever heard the argument “Everybody’s doing it. What’s the big deal?” I head a great answer from a young girl once. “If everybody’s doing it, why don’t you go out with everybody. It shouldn’t be hard for you to get it somewhere else. I’m not doing it” - a great response isn’t it.

5) It is impossible to remain pure – No it is not impossible, but it is not easy either, but that is what I want to talk about a bit more over the next couple of weeks.

Tonight I want to look at what the bible says about Sex. Let’s pray before we do so …

God’s perfect plan for Sex

We need to just recap very quickly some of what we talked about last week from Genesis – because this is the foundation for all of the Bible’s teaching on Sex and Marriage. If Sex was God’s invention, then we need to look at his instruction book because he knows how it was designed for operating