Should I Say Yes Or Should I Say No

SHOULD I SAY YES OR SHOULD I SAY NO?

MARRIAGE SEMINAR FOR THE YOUTHS AND THE MARRIED.

TEXT: LK. 14:28-30

28 For which of you, intending to build a tower, sitteth not down first, and counteth the cost, whether he have sufficient to finish it? 29 Lest haply, after he hath laid the foundation, and is not able to finish it, all that behold it begin to mock him, 30 Saying, This man began to build, and was not able to finish. 31 Or what king, going to make war against another king, sitteth not down first, and consulteth whether he be able with ten thousand to meet him that cometh against him with twenty thousand? Luke 14:28-31

INTRODUCTION

WHY THE QUESTION?

Marriage negotiation can be a very risky venture because no one knows tomorrow. We can only as human make some subjective and objective projections and calculation which in the end may not be accurate.

Marriage is like a black market. In the market you will not be sure of what is in wrapper until you open it up or you start using it.

Marriage transaction is not an objective science but social science where all our projections depends on the human operators. When you project as an economist that when the price of good is less consumers will buy more, there are some instances that they buy less because of so many human factors.

Our experience of the misfortunes that befell others in marriage is one of the reasons for asking the question. We have seen some who were doing well before getting married and their marriage killed their hope and joy

THE REASONS WHY YOU MUST ASK YOURSELF THE QUESTION: SHOULD I SAY YES, SHOULD I SAY NO?

In this world we have to understand action and reaction. Newton's third law of motion states that for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. This means that any time an object exerts a force on another object, the second object exerts a force of equal magnitude but in the opposite direction on the first object. When you are proposing to get marry you are indirectly making a move that will be resisted by some kind of forces.

What are those forces?

• The devil will resist you because he is not in support of unity.

• Your spouse will resist you because you want to gain control and resist her/ his freedom.

• Your parents may oppose you because you are trying to separate yourself from them.

• Some of your opposite sex friends will resist you because they think that they should have been the one chosen as your partner

• Financial forces will resist you because money is never enough.

The consequences of saying yes?

Marriage is like building a house and you have to consider the cost before you start or else you may not be able to finish it bearing in mind that marriage comes to an end when death separates us.

Today, we are going to talk about what you need to consider before you say yes, I do.

Firstly, you have to consider your family, the family that you belong to and where you are loved and catered for. What is it to consider about it? That you are leaving it forever. The major problem we have with marriage today is that many of us want to keep two family at the same time.

No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon. Matthew 6:24

Therefore, shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. Genesis 2:24.

Before you say yes, I do. You have to consider that marriage brings responsibility. How do we define responsibility?

Responsibility is the state or fact of having a duty to perform with something or having control over someone.

It implies being accountable for one's actions and their outcomes, and it involves fulfilling obligations or tasks that are entrusted to a person.

In a more detailed sense, responsibility includes the following:

Being Reliable. Others can depend on you to complete tasks or meet commitments. Gen. 18:19.

• Being Accountable. Taking ownership of your actions, decisions, and their consequences. Ex. 9:27; Num. 22:24; Jos. 7:20.

• Acting Ethically. Making decisions and taking actions that are morally right and respectful of others/ cultures. 2 Sam. 13:11-13; Lev.18:9.

• Managing Obligations. Handling duties effectively, whether in personal, professional, or societal contexts. Eccl. 9:10;

• Exercising Good Judgment. Making wise decisions that reflect your roles and responsibilities. 1 Kgs. 3:16-27; Lev.19:15. Once you are married you have to play the role of husband or wife. You cannot behave like a bachelor or a child that is under parental tutelage.