Sexual Trash Series

Sexual Trash

Ephesians 5:3

But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people.

Last week we threw away the first piece of trash that we needed to get out of the way as we tossed pride in the trash can…today we are really going to start sifting through the mess…

Have three pieces of trash on the table beside the can…pick up the first one…

Pornography/Lust

1 John 2:16

16 For everything in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—comes not from the Father but from the world.

Explain Slide…

Jesus said…

Matthew 5:28

28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

Slide

Porn has taken over our society and, in my opinion, and the opinion it is the root of many of our societies downfalls…

Porn is the number one issue that I have found among the people that I counsel…it changes a persons mind much like a drug in fact once you click on an image or a video your brain releases epinephrine

PORNOGRPAHY IS ADDICTIVE! And just in case there are still out there a few stubborn hold-outs, research is currently being conducted by some of the world’s leading experts in the neuroscience and neuropsychology fields that will provide the clinical evidence required to officially enter sex and pornography as “addictions in the DSM (Diagnostic Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders).

How big is the porn industry well there are 24.5 million pornographic sites on the web…with more than 23000 videos produced annually…in Hollywood alone the industry amassed over 13 billion dollars. In the USA alone there are over 17 million searches for porn on the internet…

It gets worse there are about 116000 daily searches for child pornography everyday…

When a child is exposed to porn it sets the addiction in place at an accelerated pace…they develop with this addiction engrained within their brain…

The average age that children are exposed to Porn is 11 and

1 out of 10 before age 10

Over 30000 people are watching porn at any given second…

35% of all downloads involve porn

As much as some may try and avoid porn, still over 20% of adults and over 80% of children get exposed to porn unintentionally

34% of internet users report unwanted exposure thru pop-up ads, misdirected links or emails

Its not just a man thing or those outside the church thing…64% of Christian men and 15% of Christian women admit they watch porn at least once a month…

1 in 5 youth minister and 1 in 7 senior ministers admit to struggling with porn …

It’s a real problem and we cant just stick our little heads in the sand and say “if they were really Christians they wouldn’t do that”

What are the effects of being a porn addict…

Feelings of shame and guilt

Emptiness, loneliness, and depression

Creating an emotional attachment with an artificial world

Having troubled relationships

Divorce

Risk of unhealthy sexual engagement

Sex without intimacy

Legal and financial problems

We need to protect ourselves and our loved in any way we possibly can and there are ways to try and avoid as much ass possible…filters and apps that you can put on your computers, tablets, and yes even your smartphones…

Just a few are mSpy, Covenant Eyes, and the one that my family uses is Net Nanny…

Job 31:1 "I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman.”

As Christians we are to pursue a pure life and that means making a covenant with God and our eyes as to what we allow in…

That leads to our next piece of trash

Adultery

In the Bible, adultery generally refers to voluntary sexual relations by a married person—either a man or a woman—with someone other than his or her spouse. (Job 24:15; Proverbs 30:20) Adultery is a detestable thing in God’s eyes. In ancient Israel the penalty for it was death.

In our society it is much more acceptable but yet we still are a society where for the most part we still try and hide it…people sneak around until they are caught so there are two responses that date way back and are common today…

Job 24:15 (NIV)

The eye of the adulterer watches for dusk;

he thinks, ‘No eye will see me,’

and he keeps his face concealed.

And then after they are caught, they shift in this direction

Proverbs 30:20 (NIV)

“This is the way of an adulterous woman:

She eats and wipes her mouth

and says, ‘I’ve done nothing wrong.’

Within the church adultery is running amuck…