Secrets For A Loving Happy Long Lasting Marriage

Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus so how can the two ever live together?

There is no couple having completed their marriage vows that do not desire to have a loving, happy, long lasting marriage. The question is what happens to cause this dream to become a nightmare. Too often after the honey moon, the honey disappears along with the love and the happiness. What happens to a couple to cause them to hate who they once loved? I cannot say I have the answers but I know that by the grace of God having a loving, happy, long lasting marriage is possible.

When God created Adam and Eve he created them with the idea that they would have a loving, happy long lasting relationship but what happened? Sin happened!! That’s what happened!! Satan has and will always seek to destroy the Godly family as it represents the family of God on earth. Without the God ordained family man is on his way to total annihilation. Godly principles are best taught within the confines of a Godly marriage relationship, one in which the partners are loving and happy.

Brothers and sisters one of the first steps in having a loving, happy, long lasting partnership is to recognise that your marriage is a testimony and a witness for God. Satan would have all to believe that marriages cannot work. He would have men to believe that it is better to live in fornication (cohabitation) than to be bonded in a ceremony before God. Married couples must see it as their duty to God to prove this a lie and to show to the world and to the universe that they can be loving, happy, long lasting marriages in this sinful world. This to my mind is the bedrock and the foundation; the underlying philosophy that any two Christians should have if they want to have a loving happy long lasting marriage.

Both parties must set their relationship with God as top priority taking heed to Jesus’ advice when he said in Matt. 22:37

…., Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind.

This is a fundamental and necessary part of the success formula.

Each partner must value his/her relationship with God and should find time to spend quality time with him! Paul Tournier in ‘the Healing of Persons’ wrote and I quote “ When each of the marriage partners seeks quietly before God to see his/her own faults, recognises his sin, and asks the forgiveness of the other, marital problems are no more.” End of quote.

Remember Hannah let us turn to 1 Sam. 1:9-11 So Hannah rose up after they had eaten in Shiloh, and after they had drunk. Now Eli the priest sat upon a seat by a post of the temple of the LORD. 10And she was in bitterness of soul, and prayed unto the LORD, and wept sore. 11And she vowed a vow, and said, O LORD of hosts, if thou wilt indeed look on the affliction of thine handmaid, and remember me, and not forget thine handmaid, but wilt give unto thine handmaid a man child, then I will give him unto the LORD all the days of his life, and there shall no razor come upon his head.

Hannah took time to speak to God alone.

They are things we only want God to hear.

Issues in our lives that only God can solve and

Burdens only God can lift from our shoulder.

Yes we must spend some quiet time with God alone, it does not matter how close your spousal relationship is, God needs to spend some time alone with you and you need to spend some time alone with GOD. It is here that you gain the strength, wisdom and humility to deal with the challenges which will come your way. You can rest assured that the enemy will not rest idly by while you and your spouse build a loving, happy relationship

However, spending alone with God is not sufficient we must also spend time together with God. 1 Sam. 1:19 states: And they rose up in the morning early, and worshipped before the LORD, and returned, and came to their house to Ramah: and Elkanah knew Hannah his wife; and the LORD remembered her.

Before leaving, Hannan ensured that the family worshiped together. When we worshiped together all wrongs are righted. We cannot worship together correctly and walk away still having anger in our hearts. The couple must pray for each other asking God to bless him to help you to be the best spouse that you can be; providing support and encouragement for him. Prayer should not be used as a battering tool to remind the spouse of all that he has done wrong!!