Introduction

Good morning, my dear brothers and sisters in Christ. Today, we're going to explore a story from the Old Testament that deals with some heavy and challenging themes. It's the story of Tamar, a story that confronts us with the reality of abuse, the hope of restoration, and the importance of learning to value ourselves as God's beloved children.

Before we dive into this passage, I'd like to share a quote from the famous Christian author, C.S. Lewis. He gets us pointed in the direction we’re headed this morning with a comment about knowing our worth and value in Christ alone: "We are what we believe we are." What a powerful reminder of the importance of recognizing and embracing our true identity in Christ.

The Abuse of Tamar

The story of Tamar is a tragic one, filled with pain, suffering, and injustice. It is a story that forces us to confront the harsh reality of abuse and the devastating impact it can have on the lives of those who experience it. As we delve into the first point of this sermon, we must be mindful of the many layers of this complex issue and the various ways in which it can manifest in our world today.

At the heart of Tamar's story is the abuse she suffers at the hands of her half-brother, Amnon. This abuse takes the form of sexual violence, as Amnon rapes Tamar, disregarding her pleas for mercy and her attempts to reason with him. This act of violence is not only a violation of Tamar's body but also of her dignity and worth as a human being. The fact that this abuse is perpetrated by a family member, someone who should have been a source of love and protection, only serves to compound the pain and betrayal Tamar must have felt.

The abuse Tamar experiences is not limited to the physical act of rape. It also extends to the emotional and psychological manipulation that Amnon employs in order to carry out his wicked plan. With the help of his cunning advisor, Jonadab, Amnon feigns illness and requests that Tamar come to his bedside to care for him. This deceitful tactic preys upon Tamar's compassion and concern for her brother, exploiting her kindness for his own twisted purposes.

Furthermore, the abuse of Tamar is part of a larger pattern of systemic injustice within her society. As a woman living in a patriarchal culture, Tamar is vulnerable to the whims and desires of the men around her. Her father, King David, unwittingly plays a role in facilitating her abuse by sending her to Amnon's house, despite the fact that he is aware of his son's infatuation with her. This highlights the ways in which societal structures can perpetuate and enable abuse, even when individuals within those structures may not be directly responsible for the harm inflicted.

The aftermath of Tamar's abuse reveals yet another layer of injustice. Rather than receiving support and care from her family and community, Tamar is met with silence and inaction. Her brother Absalom tells her to keep quiet about what has happened, while her father David, though angry, does nothing to punish Amnon for his crime. This lack of accountability and the failure to address the abuse only serve to further isolate and disempower Tamar, leaving her to bear the burden of her trauma alone.

The Restoration of Tamar

Tamar’s restoration emerges from this tragic story, offering a glimmer of hope and healing to those who have experienced abuse and trauma ... View this full PRO sermon free with PRO