Put On The Love Of Christ Series

(Breaking the Chains of Unforgiveness) - Put On the Love of Christ

June 22, 2025

Colossians 3:1

12 Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. 13 Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. 14 And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.

15 Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful. 16 Let the message of Christ dwell among you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom through psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit, singing to God with gratitude in your hearts. 17 And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.

Introduction:

One of my favorite books of all time is one written by a Kentucky preacher named Brian Jones…It’s called “Getting Rid of the Gorilla: Confessions on the Struggle to Forgive.

The back of the book has this paragraph:

[Living with an unforgiving heart is like living with a gorilla…the beast follows you everywhere. He squeezes marriages. He stinks up friendships. He growls at family gatherings and beats his chest at church.

An unforgiving heart ruins relationships, affecting everyone and everything you touch. Maybe you’ve tried and failed to forgive someone who’s hurt you…maybe you aren’t sure you even want to try.]

Forgiveness is the foundation of what real Christianity is all about…Forgiveness is what the cross is all about. Forgiveness is what Jesus is all about…

And yet it’s absolutely a gorilla when it enters our lives…when someone hurts us, or even worse someone we love.

Forgiveness stops being a concept and becomes a very real giant hairy reality!

Here’s the picture the Apostle paints as he writes to the Colossians…it’s a before Christ picture and an after Christ picture. The first is a life of war…and the second is a life of worship…One puts us in an emotional fail…and the other is the key to set us free.

Our text starts with a “Therefore” so what proceeds this powerful challenge is important…it’s a description of

I. A LIFE AT WAR

Most people operate in this battle zone we call life with the same weapons…Our intellect, our emotions and feelings, our physical strength, our desires, our plans. But left to our own devices, outside the influence of God…they create warfare, not peace.

It’s why we read these words

COLOSSIANS 3:5-9

5 Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry. 6 Because of these, the wrath of God is coming.[a] 7 You used to walk in these ways, in the life you once lived. 8 But now you must also rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips. 9 Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices

“Put to death” or “kill” are pretty strong words…But it requires a drastic command for me to “kill” my unforgiving, self pleasing nature…It lusts after stuff, it’s greedy, it’s impure and immoral…my nature has one god it worships…and it’s “me.”

It’s the very reason God poured out His wrath on the cross…and it’s the very reason that if you or I haven’t accepted Christ’s payment…His wrath will be poured out on us when He returns.

And one of the most important Biblical truths is found in Colossians 3:7 “You used to walk in these ways in the life you once lived.”

Our lives before Christ were a war zone. We were fighting with God’s authority…we were fighting with others who got in the way of our desires…and we could lie really well if we got caught.

Anger, rage, malice, slander and filthy language flowed through our hearts and out of our mouths.

We idolized the god of “me” and our nature was to try and get everyone else to see how important this god was.

The practices of this old self were honed to a sharp edge over time…Figuratively (I hope) if you brought fists to the fight, I brought a knife…You bring a knife and I bring a gun…you bring a gun and I bring a grenade.

Let’s make it very clear…anger is a normal response when someone hurts you. It’s usually proportioned…someone is unkind to you, you want to be unkind back…someone kills your loved one…You want to kill them…both reactions are normal responses.

Ephesians 4:26 says “In your anger do not sin.” Anger is not a sin…anger is a God given feeling and emotion…anger is not a sign that you are an immature Christian. Feeling angry when you’ve been hurt is not a sign of weakness…it’s a sign you have a pulse.