THE STATE OF THE UNION
May 15, 2005 Jay Davis Robison GENESIS 2:20-25
Every January the President gives very important address called the state of the Union, gives account of Unique challenges facing the nation.
What are agendas and solutions from President
But there is an even more important union for us today
Family Matters what is the State of the Union: marriage?
Is it easier successful marriage today than it was 15 yrs ago or 50 yrs ago? Now people talk about how long they’ve been together Marriage is mocked in the media, don’t see positive examples.
Marriage is hard today man told me this week, fought everyday. For 5 years not worth it, shouldn’t stay together for kids. Marriage seen as easily disposable, and a battleground. Friend going through divorce, his wife’s friends at work telling her to get shark lawyer take him for all he’s got
Is it an out of date idea, no longer functional?
MARRIAGE Is God’s foundation for society
Creation story Gen 2 God brings all known animals to Adam to find a companion but none of them will do.
Finally God made Eve not from head to rule over Adam
Nor from the foot so he trample her, put from the rib
Under arm so he protect her, & near his heart so cherish her
Now hear me clearly Trinity family has always & will continue to minister, love and support all types of families; Single parents, divorced, single never married, living together.
But Biblically Marriage is God’s foundation for society
God instituted marriage before Government or the church
Shows just how important family matters are to God
Vast majority of us will marry at one time or another in life. Most of us say one of top goals in life to have happy marriage.
Let’s say in group of cars headed to Disney World told half Will not survive how careful would you be ½ marriages end. Anything not used for it’s purpose From pencil to a jet plane, Will be damaged, destroyed & weakened Marriage purpose
1. 2 PARTS OF 1 WHOLE
Marriage is part of the original creative activity of God. We have basic need for companionship Listen to what Adam says looking at Eve Vs 23 NKJV “This is now bone of my bones And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.”
No Question about Adam’s delight, can hear him say WOW!
Underline bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh They have been one as one flesh, no hint of man’s or woman’s inferiority to the other
Ea partner BRINGS SOMETHING other DOES NOT HAVE that means there will be differences between you and spouse it’s supposed to be that way, why you were attracted to each other. The question is how do you deal with the differences.
Share the deepest LEVELS OF COMMUNICATION CLICHÉS, how ya doin? Fine how are you. FACTS, the electric bill is due Tuesday. OPINIONS, I really like this TV show CONVICTIONS, I have always believed FEELINGS, I was so hurt and embarrassed when NEEDS, I need . . this is vulnerable dependent These are elements of any growing relationship
Some of you have been through divorce know pain
When 2 parts no longer 1 whole
Can pull on my right arm right now, pull it hard enough it comes off, how would I feel? Off the ceiling
After divorce people say my heart ripped right out
2. LEAVING AND CLEAVING
Bible especially KJV gives us a picture of the 2 as 1 Marriage Vs 24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, & shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
Ideal of this r-ship does not come easy Sophie & Shirley, 2 elderly widows in Fla adult community, curious about latest arrival in their building a quiet, nice looking gentleman who keeps to himself. Shirley says, "Sophie, you know I’m shy Why don’t you go over to him at pool & find out little about him. He looks so lonely." Sophie agrees, so later that day at pool, she walks up to him says, "Excuse me, mister. I hope I’m not prying, but my friend and I were wondering why you looked so lonely." "Of course I’m lonely, he says, "I’ve spent the past 20 yrs in prison." "You’re kidding! What for?" "For killing my 3rd wife. I strangled her." "What happened to your 2nd wife?" "I shot her." "And, if I may ask, your 1st wife?" "We had a fight & she fell off a bridge." "Oh my," says Sophie. Returning to her friend on other side of pool, she yells, "you’re never going to believe this, Shirley. He’s single."
Supremacy of THE MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP
Love father & mother, I love my mommy and she loves meLove my kids so thankful for them, but Micki first r-ship and you know what, she feels the same about me
Every other human relationship through lens of partner how it will effect him or her focus off in many marriages. Many don’t have level of commitment, spouse secondary Home should be a haven where you can be dusted off, have wounds dressed, and kiss hurts
Suggestions: never criticize in public, don’t make him\her feel small, always build up the other, He may be a pygmy but if you brag on him, he’ll feel like he’s 10 ft tall
In marriage need 10 positive remarks for every 1 neg remark communication breaks down when respect is lost
Having this supreme relationship for life takes work
The Biggest lie “Love MEANS NEVER HAVING TO SAY YOU’RE SORRY comes from 70s movie Love Story. Love true love means have to say sorry a lot key is to mean it Sorry for being sarcastic, I should have taken garbage out It was insensitive of me to not consult you,
Martin Luther Let the wife make the husband glad to come home; and let him make her sorry to see him leave.
3. EXPOSING INTIMACY
In our society we want to run to this love 1st Urge is strong for all of us, Sex is God of USA Used to get job and promotion, to sell cars and toothpaste If I believed all my email pills make sex better
Pornography is multibillion $$ industry, online smut right near where we worship today degrading businesses
So we must say something loud and clear Human sexuality is not MERE INSTINCT but a UNIQUE RELATIONSHIP Animals are said to be in heat, we are not animals! We are created with a mind and a soul. We must have passion in proper perspective.
Now, although Adam and his wife were both naked, neither of them felt any shame. Vs 25 NLT
Felt no shame because nothing to be ashamed of their nakedness in context of relationship
Our bodies gift from God but to be shared in marriage r-ship despite what see on desperate housewives, MTV, or hear in rap or your favorite country song
God’s word and way Hebrews 13:4 NCV reiterates sex in marriage commitment Marriage should be honored by everyone, and husband and wife should keep their marriage pure. God will judge as guilty those who take part in sexual sins.
Ever noticed how much of news has to do with sex young mother and boyfriend sold her baby, sexual abuselives torn apart because sex not in context of 2 as 1
Where there is a leaving and cleaving element
Listen to next text, 1 Cor 7:3-5 the Message The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to “stand up for your rights.” Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. Other versions say women not over own body man is man not over his woman is, point is not taking but giving Message says no stand up for rights, serve the other
What is the state of the union in America today?
What is state of your marriage today?
Biblically 2 become 1, leaving and cleaving
Exposing intimacy
Now what if you have violated God’s will for life
1st of all God is God of love will forgive any sin we repent of Talk to couples today, do you pray for your marriage? Pray for it today, come down aisle as you did yrs ago Maybe to commit self as couple to Trinity
or to come pray for your relationship
THE STATE OF THE UNION
May 15, 2005 Jay Davis Robison GENESIS 2:20-25
Is God’s foundation for society
1.
“This is now bone of my bones
And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman,
Because she was taken out of Man.” Vs 23 NKJV
Each partner the other
Share the deepest
2.
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. Vs 24 KJV
Supremacy of
The Biggest lie “Love
3.
Human sexuality is not but a
Now, although Adam and his wife were both naked, neither of them felt any shame. Vs 25 NLT
Marriage should be honored by everyone, and husband and wife should keep their marriage pure. God will judge as guilty those who take part in sexual sins. Hebrews 13:4 NCV
The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to “stand up for your rights.” Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 the Message
