The Importance of Husbands and Wives Praying Together
Today, we will explore a vital aspect of Christian marriage: the importance of husbands and wives praying together. Though the Bible does not have a single verse that explicitly commands couples to pray together, it is rich with principles and passages that highlight the importance of unity, mutual support, and spiritual intimacy in marriage.
Biblical Foundations for Couples Praying Together
Unity and Oneness in Marriage
Matthew 19:5-6 (NLT) - “And he said, ‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’ Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.”
Jesus reiterates the Genesis account of marriage, emphasizing the oneness that a husband and wife share. This oneness is not just physical but also spiritual and emotional.
The Greek word for "joined" (proskollao) signifies a deep, inseparable bond. Praying together helps to nurture this bond, fostering spiritual intimacy and unity. When couples pray together, they align their hearts with each other and with God, strengthening their relationship.
Imagine two trees planted close together. As they grow, their roots intertwine, providing stability and strength to withstand storms. Similarly, when couples pray together, their spiritual roots intertwine, giving them the strength to face life's challenges.
Tim Keller writes, “Prayer is both conversation and encounter with God. We must know the awe of praising his glory, the intimacy of finding his grace, and the struggle of asking his help—all of which can lead us to know the spiritual reality of his presence.”
Mutual Support and Encouragement
Ephesians 5:25-26 (NLT) - “For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word.”
Paul instructs husbands to love their wives sacrificially, as Christ loves the church, aiming for their spiritual well-being.
The Greek term for "love" (agapao) here implies a selfless, sacrificial love. Praying together is a practical expression of this love. When husbands and wives pray for each other, they support and encourage one another in their spiritual journeys, fostering growth and holiness.
Think of a team of climbers scaling a mountain. Each climber supports and encourages the other, ensuring that everyone reaches the summit safely. In the same way, praying together helps couples support each other in their spiritual ascent.
Stormie Omartian says, “Praying together connects us on a level much deeper than physical intimacy and binds our hearts and spirits together in an extraordinary way.”
Seeking God’s Guidance and Wisdom
James 1:5 (NLT) - “If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking.”
James encourages believers to seek God’s wisdom through prayer, assuring them of God’s generous response.
The Greek word for "wisdom" (sophia) refers to practical insight and guidance. Couples face numerous decisions and challenges, and praying together invites God’s wisdom into their relationship. It helps them discern God’s will and navigate life’s complexities with divine insight.
Consider a ship navigating through foggy waters. Without a clear direction, the ship risks drifting off course. Praying together is like using a compass, ensuring that couples stay on course according to God’s will.
John Piper states, “Prayer causes things to happen that wouldn’t happen if you didn’t pray. The greatest need of every husband and wife is to pray for and with each other.”
Conclusion and Call to Action
In conclusion, praying together as a couple is a powerful practice that fosters unity, provides mutual support, and invites God’s wisdom into the marriage. It is a tangible expression of the oneness that God desires for husbands and wives.
Application: This week, set aside time to pray together with your spouse. Start with simple, heartfelt prayers, and watch how God strengthens your bond and guides your steps.
Prayer: Heavenly Father, thank You for the gift of marriage and the privilege of coming to You in prayer. Help us to grow in unity, support each other, and seek Your wisdom together. May our prayers draw us closer to each other and to You. In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen.
Let us embrace the power of prayer in our marriages and experience the transformative love and guidance of God.
