Ten Commandments for Raising Children Deuteronomy 6:6-7NKJB
What My Parents Taught Me:
My parents taught me TO APPRECIATE A JOB WELL DONE:
"If you’re going to kill each other, do it outside - I just finished cleaning!"
My parents taught me RELIGION:
"You better pray that will come out of the carpet."
My parents taught me about TIME TRAVEL:
"If you don’t straighten up, I’m going to knock you into the middle of
next week!"
My parents taught me LOGIC:
"Because I said so, that’s why."
My parents taught me FORESIGHT:
"Make sure you wear clean underwear, in case you’re in an accident."
My parents taught me IRONY:
"Just keep laughing and I’ll give you something to cry about."
My parents taught me about the science of OSMOSIS:
"Shut your mouth and eat your supper!"
My parents taught me about STAMINA:
"You’ll sit there ’til all that spinach is finished."
My parents taught me about WEATHER:
"It looks as if a tornado swept through your room."
My parents taught me about HYPOCRISY:
"If I’ve told you once, I’ve told you a million times-Don’t Exaggerate!"
“And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. 7 You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up.
These Israelite parents were to teach their children obedience morning and night, so these words would not become a matter of formal legalism, but a response based upon understanding. Remember obedience is formed when its a way of life.
A great preacher once said, “When times are troubled we cry, “God, give us men to match our mountains.” In reply, God gives us children and say’s, “Here’e the building material.”
So what were the scripture that were taught to the children?
Deuteronomy 6:1-5NLT “These are the commands, decrees, and regulations that the Lord your God commanded me to teach you. You must obey them in the land you are about to enter and occupy, 2 and you and your children and grandchildren must fear the Lord your God as long as you live. If you obey all his decrees and commands, you will enjoy a long life. 3 Listen closely, Israel, and be careful to obey. Then all will go well with you, and you will have many children in the land flowing with milk and honey, just as the Lord, the God of your ancestors, promised you.
4 “Listen, O Israel! The Lord is our God, the Lord alone. 5 And you must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your strength.
Here’s the Blue Print~ Are You Ready?
1. These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts.
Parents, if you don’t practice scriptural principles, your children won’t either.
Joshua 1:8NLT Study this Book of Instruction continually. Meditate on it day and night so you will be sure to obey everything written in it. Only then will you prosper and succeed in all you do.
2. Impress them on your children.
1 John 3:18NLT Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.
You must spend time, emphasize, stress, prompt, make clear, drum in and imprint.
3. Talk about them. Kids won’t catch the truth by osmosis.
Look for teachable moments all during the day.
Teach your children to stand up for what is right.
Listen to Proverbs1:10-15NLT My child, if sinners entice you, turn your back on them! 11 They may say, “Come and join us. Let’s hide and kill someone! Just for fun, let’s ambush the innocent 12 Let’s swallow them alive, like the grave; let’s swallow them whole, like those who go down to the pit of death. 13 Think of the great things we’ll get! We’ll fill our houses with all the stuff we take. 14 Come, throw in your lot with us; we’ll all share the loot.” 15 My child, don’t go along with them! Stay far away from their paths.
If our kids are going to stand for God against destructive influences they need instruction in:
The qualities of true friendship.
The inevitable law of consequences~ Reap what you sow.
The right kind of hero’s.
Teach your children to respond the right way to God’s direction and correction. Help them to understand that God’s correction is not rejection.
Proverbs 3:11-12NLT My child, don’t reject the Lord’s discipline, and don’t be upset when he corrects you. 12 For the Lord corrects those he loves, just as a father corrects a child in whom he delights.
4. Teach them to respond correctly to your discipline.
Don’t permit today what you punished yesterday, saying things like, “How many times have I told you?” or, “If you do that again you’re grounded.” (This is a big sign you’re not serious).
5. Teach them to respond correctly to authority figures.
Romans 13:1NLT Everyone must submit to governing authorities. For all authority comes from God, and those in positions of authority have been placed there by God.
Share your own experiences of personal growth through correction. Testimony: “Once I was outside with my dad, he heard a young lady had gotten killed in a collision, I said something smart, Dad pulled me off my bike and wore me out.”
Instead of sermonizing, look for well-chosen times of personal correction when they blow it.
6. Teach your children to handle temptation.
James 1:14NLT Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away.
There’s two powerful forms of temptation. 1. Temptation in the area of sexual sin.
Proverbs 5:1-11NLT My son, pay attention to my wisdom; listen carefully to my wise counsel. 2 Then you will show discernment, and your lips will express what you’ve learned. 3 For the lips of an immoral woman are as sweet as honey, and her mouth is smoother than oil. 4 But in the end she is as bitter as poison, as dangerous as a double-edged sword. 5 Her feet go down to death; her steps lead straight to the grave. 6 For she cares nothing about the path to life. She staggers down a crooked trail and doesn’t realize it. 7 So now, my sons, listen to me. Never stray from what I am about to say: 8 Stay away from her! Don’t go near the door of her house! 9 If you do, you will lose your honor and will lose to merciless people all you have achieved. 10 Strangers will consume your wealth, and someone else will enjoy the fruit of your labor. 11 In the end you will groan in anguish when disease consumes your body.
2. Temptation in the area of addictions.
Proverbs 23:29-35TM Who are the people who are always crying the blues? Who do you know who reeks of self-pity? Who keeps getting beat up for no reason at all? Whose eyes are bleary and bloodshot? It’s those who spend the night with a bottle, for whom drinking is serious business. Don’t judge wine by its label, or its bouquet, or its full-bodied flavor. Judge it rather by the hangover it leaves you with— the splitting headache, the queasy stomach. Do you really prefer seeing double, with your speech all slurred, Reeling and seasick, drunk as a sailor? “They hit me,” you’ll say, “but it didn’t hurt; they beat on me, but I didn’t feel a thing. When I’m sober enough to manage it, bring me another drink!”
Proverbs 23:32-33NLT For in the end it bites like a poisonous snake; it stings like a viper. 33 You will see hallucinations, and you will say crazy things.
7. Teach your children to handle money.
1 Timothy 6:10NLT For the love of money is the root of all kinds of evil. And some people, craving money, have wandered from the true faith and pierced themselves with many sorrows.
8. Teach them that if they honor God financially, He will honor them.
Proverbs 3:9-10NLT Honor the Lord with your wealth and with the best part of everything you produce.10 Then he will fill your barns with grain, and your vats will overflow with good wine.
9. Teach them God’s word regarding borrowing, lending and credit.
Proverbs 22:6-7NASB Bring up a child in the way he should go, Even when he is old he will not depart from it. 7 The rich rules over the poor, And the borrower becomes the lender’s slave.
Proverbs 22:26-27NLT Don’t agree to guarantee another person’s debt or put up security for someone else. 27 If you can’t pay it, even your bed will be snatched from under you.
10. Teach your children the value of hard work.
Proverbs 10:4-5NLT Lazy people are soon poor; hard workers get rich. 5 A wise youth harvests in the summer, but one who sleeps during harvest is a disgrace.
Parents who think letting their kids avoid hard work is doing them a favor, are deluded.
Lamentations 3:27NASB It is good for a man that he should bear the yoke in his youth.
Proverbs 13:4NASB The soul of the sluggard craves and gets nothing, But the soul of the diligent is made fat.
One day your child will thank you for requiring them to participate in family life and do their fair share.
Warren Wiersbe said this, “The Church is always one generation short of extinction, If our generation fails to guard the truth and entrust it to our children, then that will be the end! When you think of the saints and martyrs who suffered and died so that we might have God’s truth, it makes you want to take your place in God’s army and be faithful unto death.”
Benediction.
