INTRODUCTION
Outline.
1. Joseph’s Bride
2. Joseph’s Burden
3. Joseph’s Blessing
Remarks.
1. This lesson deals with a just and honorable man, that took upon himself to be the father of another’s son, a child that was not his own through conception. There are many men like Joseph today in our modern society. I want to honor them - on this - Father’s Day Celebration. Many have taken it upon themselves to be a father to another’s son or daughter. I see the only apparent reason: they have fallen in love with a wonderful woman who has been left with a child without a dad. We all know the spiritual implications of Mary’s conception and its blessing to all humanity. However, what has become lost in this miracle as I see it; is the human drama that Joseph faced regarding his situation. I desire to speak about this lesson in this lesson, on this Father’s Day Celebration. May God bless each of you richly!
2. First, we will consider Joseph’s bride and betrothal of this union. In our Scripture lesson, we find a good man discovering that his betrothal (sweetheart) is with child. Months before the wedding, this is learned; it was without him “knowing her,” but as a result of someone else. His bride is now with a child, but the baby is not his. What does this mean regarding his bride? What does this mean regarding their future together? What does the Law - require? All these questions bring us to our next thought.
3. Second, we will discuss Joseph’s burden as he contemplates this union. This will be no easy decision. Our text reads: “Then Joseph her husband, being a just man, and not willing to make her a public example, was minded to put her away privily,” Matthew 1:19. Matthew describes Joseph as a “just man” not willing to make his bride a spectacle of society. He determined to put her away privately – without public notice and shame. We find in these words the real character of Joseph – one within the lineage of Christ – a heart of love and compassion for Mary. How many men would today agree with their bride?
4. Finally, we will address Joseph’s blessing regarding this union. As a result of an angel’s visit, Joseph has found the confidence and purpose for moving forward with the marriage. He was not marrying damaged goods – but a virgin still. He believed the angel’s message: “Joseph, thou son of David, fear not to take unto thee Mary thy wife: for that which is conceived in her (womb) is of the Holy Ghost,” Matthew 1:20. Today, many families have been likewise blessed by “good men” that looked past the event of conception; and assumed the responsibilities of a father to another’s son or daughter. It was not the announcement of an angel that compelled these unions, but the love for a wonderful woman – and for a child who needed a daddy. Sisters, if God has blessed you with a good man, teach your children to love him as you do, and remind them that he is “their father” not through conception – but by love and acceptance! With this introduction, let’s consider Joseph’s bride.
BODY OF LESSON
I JOSEPH’S BRIDE
A. Mary's espousal to Joseph. Mary, the mother of our Lord, was espoused to Joseph, not completely married, but in a marriage proposal; given in words - a solemn promise made, in the presence of God and family. This we will do “if the Lord so wills.” Luke’s gospel reveals that just before Mary visited her Cousin Elizabeth’s house, the angel of the Lord appeared and revealed unto her that she would be with child, Luke 1:26-56. Observe,
1. The Chasity and Character of Mary:
a. She was a virgin and espoused unto Joseph.
b. Highly favored; the Lord was with her.
c. Called blessed among women.
d. She found favor with God.
e. She considered herself the Lord’s handmaid.
NOTE: Illustrate The Promise of Mary to Joseph. Like our engagement, there was no: “Diamond Ring” or a getaway “honeymoon” in the future.
2. The sign is given by the prophet. The Messiah shall be born of a virgin, Isaiah 7:14. A virgin shall conceive, and, by her, He shall be manifested in the flesh, 1 Timothy 3:16. , the word “virgin” is parthenos, which signifies a virgin in the strictest sense, such is spoken of Mary at the angel’s visit, in Luke 1:26-27. Observe,
a. First, “And the angel said unto her, Fear not, Mary: for thou hast found favor with God. And, behold, thou shalt conceive in thy womb and bring forth a son, and shalt call his name Jesus...Then said Mary unto the angel, how (can) this be; seeing I know not a man?” See Luke 1:30-34.
b. Further, as she responds to the angel, it is clear that: “She had not known a man; nor is she officially married at this time.”
c. Finally, either one of these conditions would keep her from conceiving a child. There must be something divinely; at work, in this conception?
3. The prophets prophetically spoke it; that the “Messiah” or “the Christ” would be born of a virgin. He would be born: “From the seed of a woman,” but “born, not of blood, nor the will of the flesh, nor the will of man, but of God,” John 1:13.
4. Christ was born of a virgin not only because His birth was to be supernatural and altogether extraordinary, but also because it had to be without spot or blemish, pure, and without the will of man and the flesh.
a. Christ would be born, not of an empress or queen; with all the pomp and splendor, in a palace of kings.
b. But of a virtuous handmaiden: “Born in a stable, wrapped in swaddling clothes, and laying in a manger, because there was no room for them, in the inn,” Luke 1:6-7.
c. By a virgin, to teach us of spiritual purity, and to be sinless in all manner of life; to direct us to: “keep ourselves unspotted from the world,” James 1:27.
d. That as children of God; we might be presented as: “Chaste virgins unto Christ,” 2 Corinthians 11:2. I wish I had some help! Glory to this newborn king!
B. Mary is now with child – but not of Joseph. After Mary’s return from Elizabeth's house, "she is bearing a child," Luke 1:56. Observe...
1. Matthew wrote: “Now the birth of Jesus Christ was on this wise: When as his mother Mary was espoused to Joseph before they came together, she was found with child of the Holy Ghost,” Matthew 1:18.
2. Beloved, in the Lord:
a. I have been cautious not to say: “Another man’s child;” because this is not the case at all. There was no human connection in this matter. In this conception, it was the Son of God; Joseph’s bride is now carrying within her.
b. She had conceived Him, by the power of the Holy Spirit, Luke 1:35. This was another Father’s Son! This conception took place as a result of The Heavenly Father, of the child Jesus. Which He would declare: “This is my beloved Son, in whom I am well pleased,” Matthew 3:17; Matthew 17:5.
3. Joseph was not aware of these details. What he was dealing with was human drama in his life and with his promised bride. I’m sure many questions were being considered at this time. Like,
a. How am I going to deal with this situation?
b. How do I explain my bride is carrying another person's child?
c. How do I shield her from ridicule?
d. How can I protect her if the worst is ordered? She might be stoned to death!
4. He needed answers, but Mary does not seem to explain her situation with any clarity or to his satisfaction. He must have said: “Baby, I have to give these elders an answer.” But, “you are not providing me with any sensible explanations.” What are you saying, an angel said? That,
a. “You have found favor with God,” Luke 1:30.
b. “The Holy Ghost shall come upon you,” Matthew 1:18; Luke 1:35.
c. “The power of the Highest shall overshadow thee,” Luke 1:35.
d. “The holy thing which shall be born of thee shall be called the Son of God,” Luke 1:35.
e. “With God, nothing shall be impossible,” Luke 1:37; Matthew 19:26.
5. It is situations such as these; one might be undergoing a test of true faith and love for his bride. Illustrate: Boy expressing his love to a girl on the phone. Baby, I will, Run, climb, swim.
6. These parents will be tested regarding this Son. Notice,
a. First, Joseph, without a doubt, is being tested by God months before the child is born! Joseph is trying to make sense of the birth of Mary’s “firstborn child.”
b. Further, Mary’s test will come hours before Jesus’ death. She will try to make sense of His terrible suffering; and the cruelty of His death on the cross. Remember,
1) In Simeon’s blessing of the lad, Luke wrote: “Behold, this child is set for the fall and rising again of many in Israel; and for a sign which shall be spoken against; (Yea, a sword shall pierce through thy own soul also,) that the thoughts of many hearts may be revealed,” Luke 2:34-35.
2) In Jesus’ suffering, John wrote: “Now there stood by the cross of Jesus his mother, and his mother’s sister, Mary the wife of Cleophas, and Mary Magdalene. When Jesus, therefore, saw his mother, and the disciple standing by, whom he loved, he said unto his mother, Woman, behold thy son! Then saith he to the disciple, Behold thy mother! And from that hour that disciple took her unto his own home,” John 19:25-27. They shall look upon Him, who was pierced, John 19:37; Psalms 22:16-18.
3) Matthew Henry wrote: “Christ shall be a comfort to his mother; but be not thou too proud of it, for a sword shall pass through thine own soul also. He shall be a suffering Jesus; and,”
a) First, “(She) shalt suffer with him, by sympathy, more than any other of his friends, because of the nearness of their relation, and strength of affection, to him. When he was abused, it was a sword in her bones. When she stood by his cross and saw him dying... her inward grief was such that it might... be said, a sword pierced through her soul, it cut her to the heart.”
b) Secondly, (She) shalt suffer for him. Many understand it as a prediction of her martyrdom... In the midst of our greatest delights and advancements in this world, it is (wise to remember) ... that bonds and afflictions abide us,” Matthew Henry’s Commentary, page 1057.
c. Finally, as believers in Christ, we shall also undergo trials of our faith. Notice:
1) James wrote: “My brethren, count it all joy when ye fall into divers temptations; Knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience,” James 1:2-3.
2) The apostles suffered persecution: “His namesake,” Acts 5:41-42; 2 Timothy 3:12.
3) Jesus said: “Blessed are they which are persecuted for righteousness’ sake....for so persecuted they the prophets which were before you,” Matthew 5:10-12.
4) Peter wrote: “Beloved, think it not strange concerning the fiery trials which try you... But rejoice, since ye are partakers of Christ’s sufferings...if ye be reproached for the name of Christ, happy are ye; for the spirit of glory and of God resteth upon you... But let none of you suffer as a murderer, or as a thief, or as an evildoer...Yet if any man suffers as a Christian, let him not be ashamed; but let him glorify God on this behalf,” 1 Peter 4:12-16. As Christians, we will be called upon to bear witness; and suffer for Christ and the good we stand for against evil and Injustice. Let's move forward in this lesson. In doing so, we must consider...
C. Her pregnancy. Here are the facts: “She is pregnant; this occurred before they came together; she is now with child; which she says is of the Holy Ghost.” Remove God from this situation – and what we have is a man facing the hardest decision of his life regarding the one he loves so deeply. Notice beloved in the Lord...
1. First, Joseph’s initial detection of a perceived betrayal came immediately after Mary’s return from her Cousin Elizabeth’s house, with “whom she resided three months,” Luke 1:56. Joseph had to have questions for Mary. (What kind of cousin would permit you to behave in this fashion? Did she watch over you? What happens? How could you behave so unseemingly, Mary?) But, you promised!
a. Matthew Henry wrote: “Her pregnancy of the promised seed; before they came together, she was found with child, which really was of the Holy Ghost... Probably, it was after her return from her cousin Elizabeth, with whom she continued three months (Luke 1:56), that Joseph perceived her to be with child, and (she) did not herself deny it,” Matthew Henry’s Commentary, page 21-22.
b. B. W. Johnson wrote: “She was found (with child). The angel (Luke 1:26) predicted her conception, and when the prediction was verified, she probably did not hesitate to reveal it. Her heart would (have been) filled with joyous pride instead of shame,” The Peoples’ New Testament, Page 43. She did not attempt to hide her condition from anyone.
2. Further, Mary is behaving unseemingly about it; she appears to have no shame about her condition. Mary understands this is the will of God. Joseph, at this time, lacks the details in this entire matter.
a. If there is a time for prayer, it is now, Luke 18:1. Joseph, I suppose did pray to God. Perhaps like this: “O’ God, help me make a wise decision – not to spare me – but Mary whom I love so deeply!” Good men will pray for help and guidance during times of uncertainty, 1 Timothy 2:8.
b. Illustrate: Many Service Men have returned home, having to make a similar decision about their wives. Another child has been added, but it is not his! Lord, give us grace and her mercy! This indeed would be a time of prayer.
c. War, and the unfaithfulness of military spouses, have been the cause of many divorces among our service members.
d. I salute military families; during this Father’s Day Celebration. I know personally your hardships and trials, being absent from the one you love and cherish. What is awaiting Joseph in this time of trial?
3. Finally, Joseph will need to rise to greater heights in this relationship; if not, she will be humiliated and maybe even stoned to death. Things just don’t look right! How does he explain this to others?
D. Fulfilment of prophecy. Here is the answer: “Now all this was done, that it might be fulfilled which was spoken of the Lord by the prophet, saying, Behold, a virgin shall be with child, and shall bring forth a son, and they shall call his name Emmanuel, which being interpreted, God is with us,” Matthew 1:22-23. Consider...
1. First, Isaiah wrote: “Therefore the Lord himself shall give you a sign; Behold, a virgin shall conceive, and bear a son, and (thou) shall call his name Immanuel,” Isaiah 7:14.
a. The name, Emmanuel, has to do with both the human and divine nature of Christ. God is with us.
b. I wonder if Joseph ever read Isaiah; regarding this prophecy?
c. Illustrate, Paul’s Discourse on the Mind of Christ, Philippians 2:5-11.
2. Further, Paul wrote the Galatians: “But when the fullness of the time came, God sent forth his Son, made of a woman, made under the law, to redeem them that were under the law, that we might receive the adoption of sons,” Galatians 4:4-5. He was born: “Not of blood, nor the will of the flesh, nor the will of man, but God,” John 1:13.
3. Finally, this divine conception by a virgin was the fulfillment of Old Testament prophecy and promises. A virgin would conceive and bring forth a son – “and His name shall be called Immanuel – that is God with us,” Isaiah 7:14; Matthew 1:23. Mary was that virgin, and Jesus is that Son.
E. He shall save his people. Matthew continued: “And she shall bring forth a son, and thou shalt call his name JESUS: for he shall save his people from their sins,” Matthew 1:21. Consider,
1. The purpose of this Son, the manner of this birth, was to: “Save His people from their sins,” Matthew 1:21; Luke 2:30-32; Luke 2:38.
2. Joseph has been brought into this blessed event, unaware of all the details regarding Mary’s purpose in this matter.
3. For now, all Joseph sees is a possible betrayal, shame, and heartbreak!
a. You might not be aware of it, ladies, sisters: but a man can also be hurt; in events such as these, especially, a good man. It’s getting a little quiet in this house!
b. We are not as strong as we try to appear in matters such as these.
c. Our hearts can be broken; in such a fashion: that only the grace of God can mend them. I pray someone is listening; to give yourself in earnest to your husband. And guard the fidelity of your relationship with all faithfulness. Let’s consider Joseph’s burden. Stay with me; he’s hurt ’in terribly right about now!
II JOSEPH’S BURDEN
A. Joseph’s trial. “But while he thought on these things,” Matthew 1:20. I imagine; he thought on it a great deal. He was considering all his options. Let’s forget, for now, the rest of the announcement of the angel; and concentrate on this one phrase: “While he thought on these things.” Consider...
1. What things, you might be asking? What might have been some things he was giving thought unto? How about:
a. Should he continue with the marriage plans? Or, should he “put her away”? Matthew wrote: “Then Joseph her husband, being a just man, and not willing to make her a public example was minded to put her away privily,” Matthew 1:19. This was his choice in the matter. Maybe he asked...
b. How could Mary hurt me so terribly? This is the human drama being lived by this man right about now. There is no question in my mind; that this man was hurt terribly; by what appears to be his sweetheart’s betrayal of their vows, one to another.
c. David wrote: “So will I sing praises unto thy name forever, that I may daily perform my vows,” Psalms 61:8.
NOTE: Illustrate Vows in the Marriage Ceremony. Keep thy vows, one to another.
d. Malachi wrote: “You cry out, “Why doesn't the LORD accept my worship?” I'll tell you why! Because the LORD witnessed the vows, you and your wife made when you were young. But you have been unfaithful to her, though she remained your faithful partner, the wife of your marriage vows,” Malachi 2:14.
e. I suppose in many communities, and even in the church, here or somewhere? A brother is/was contemplating what to do in a similar situation. Should I stay; or put her away? Amen, somebody. It’s mighty quiet up in here!
2. While he thought on these things. Matthew now gives us a look into the heart of Joseph and allows us to see his love and compassion for Mary in this condition.
3. The character of Joseph is described as:
a. The son of David, linking him to King David.
b. The husband of Mary, even though the ceremony had not taken place, Matthew declares her to be his wife.
c. Being a just man, Micah 6:8.
d. Compassionate: “Not wanting to make a public example of her.”
e. Considerate: "Would put her away privately."
B. Put her away. Matthew continues: “Then Joseph her husband...was minded to put her away privily,” Matthew 1:19. Notice:
1. First, who was more highly favored among Joseph than Mary, his beloved? Joseph wanted to do the right thing. Being a just man; and not willing to make her a spectacle of the matter, he decided to put her away privately.
2. Further, even in this seeming betrayal, Joseph was willing to treat the situation with genuine love. He wanted to save Mary from any further criticism.
3. Next, what did the Law of Moses require in matters such as these?
a. If she played a harlot, let her be stone, Deuteronomy 22:23-24.
b. If she was overtaken and cried out, she may be spared, Deuteronomy 22:25-26.
c. In Mary’s situation, Joseph doesn’t know the details of either case.
4. Finally, what did Jesus do in John 8:1-11?
a. How did he handle a situation of this kind?
b. Illustrate: Woman caught in adultery.
c. What did Moses’ Law command? She should be stoned to death!
d. What did Jesus do? Jesus asked: “Woman, where are thine accusers? Hath no man condemned thee? She said, No man, Lord. And Jesus said unto her, neither do I condemn thee go, and sin no more,” John 8:10-11.
5. Conclusion: The question before us today; could Joseph be able to rise to this kind of love; during his time of trial? What about one of us? Who here could be as compassionate as Jesus was unto this woman; toward their wife or husband? I hear the silence; it is deafening as the tomb!
a. Peter wrote genuine love: “Cover a multitude of sins,” 1 Peter 4:8; James 5:19-20.
b. Solomon wrote: “Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all sins,” Proverbs 10:12.
c. Love will grant someone another chance. See our lesson: Marriage, Divorce and Remarriage, Matthew 19:1-10. It discusses the “guilty party” and a second chance.
C. Joseph’s intentions. To save Mary from shame, he would do things quietly; he is a just man and truly in love with her. Otherwise, she would have to be exposed. And if exposed, without a suitable explanation – she could be put to death by stoning. Consider...
1. Joseph was struggling with the notion of taking Mary to be his wife, even though it appears she has broken their sacred vows of marriage. It is certain that Joseph heard some rude and unkind remarks about his bride, maybe even, from many of the elders – which knew of his situation.
2. Jesus, during His ministry, endured insults from the Jewish leaders regarding His birth to Mary. During His teaching, they asked: “Is not this the carpenter's son? Is not his mother called Mary? And is his brethren, James, and Joses, and Simon, and Judas?” Matthew 13:55.
a. John wrote, Jesus speaking: “Ye do the deeds of your father,” John 8:41; John 8:44. From their wicked hearts, their mouths spewed out this shameful accusation.
b. John continues: “Then said they to him, We be not born of fornication; we have one Father, even God,” John 8:41. He becomes the subject of illegitimacy from these Jews regarding Joseph, his father.
c. Many scholars surmise that the Jews were hinting at Jesus’ birth. They had rejected the idea that Jesus was the fulfillment of a “son being born to a virgin,” as promised by the prophet Isaiah.
3. Listen, we have heard some nasty comments over the years. And I’m sure some of these wonderful men also have. Comments like...
a. Man, “O’ you wanted a sake and bake family?”
b. Man, “you got the bills; but, none of the thrills!”
c. And, man, “how come you married that woman with all her kids?” Wasn’t there anyone else you could have married?
d. I simply replied: “I loved her.” The children are part of the package!
e. As she has accepted mine; I have accepted hers. We are now a “blended family.” We are trying to make two families – “one,” as it pertains to the children and us.
NOTE: Illustrate the Marriage Proposal in the movie: Hidden Figures. The LTC accepted the woman and the children; they were a package. An example of a blended family! Joseph will rise to this challenge with God's help. So has millions over the years. May God bless them all richly! But for now, we see...
D. Joseph's perplexity. Joseph was concern about what to do regarding Mary’s situation. We may well imagine what heartbreak and disappointment it was for him; to find the woman he loves so, with such regards for her character, has come under the suspicion of betrayal at this time in their engagement. Is this the Mary I love? Notice his struggles:
1. First, Joseph is now betwixt between jealousy and the rage of a man who is believed to have been foolishly used and deceived by his bride.
2. Further, yet on the one hand, he has great affection for her! Most men would not think of the second moment in this situation; they would walk out and never return.
3. Finally, no explanation from her could ever justify the act; or eliminate the hurt he is now bearing. But God will step in to relieve the burden heart and soul of Joseph in a dream. We will speak to this in the last point. But for now...
E. Joseph’s love for Mary. Love is working in Joseph’s life for Mary. He was a religious man, a good person; and therefore inclined to be merciful as God is, and, even to forgive, as God so often does for us, yes, (as God so often does for us), and, we should do for one another, Matthew 6:14-15; Ephesians 4:31-32.
1. In the case of the betrothed bride, if she were defiled in the field, the law was charitably enough if she cried out; and would not punish her.
a. This Law does not apply in this case.
b. Mary is with child of the Holy Spirit.
c. Joseph will learn and obey the will of God.
2. The charity of Joseph is yet weighing upon this matter, and because he is a just man, he will do the best thing for Mary – and that was to stand by her during her hour of trial. Illustrate, Paul's Discourse on Love, 1 Corinthians 13.
3. Peter wrote: “And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins,” 1 Peter 4:8.
4. There have been many men like Joseph, which have stepped up to be the “father of another’s son or daughter.” They have assumed all the responsibilities – yes, even with all the "bills"; and, without any of the “thrills.” Ah, you don’t hear me!
5. Joseph and Mary was the first blended family in the New Testament. He was the earthly father of Jesus. Mary did have other children born in her union with Joseph, Matthew 12:46-50. This made it a “blended family.”
a. There are many men today, like Joseph: it is to them we give great honor unto, on this Father’s Day Celebration!
b. We pray God’s richest blessing on you and the other members of your “blended family.”
c. Now, let’s return to that portion of the text where Matthew wrote: “But while he thought on these things,” Matthew 1:20. As we consider the last point in this lesson.
III JOSEPH’S BLESSING
A. The angel of the Lord. Matthew concludes: “But while he thought on these things, behold, the angel of the Lord appeared unto him in a dream, saying, Joseph, thou son of David...And she shall bring forth a son, and thou shalt call his name JESUS: for he shall save his people from their sins. Now all this was done, that it might be fulfilled which was spoken of the Lord by the prophet, saying, Behold, a virgin shall be with child, and shall bring forth a son, and they shall call his name Emmanuel, which being interpreted is, God with us,” Matthew 1:20-23. Joseph's heard from heaven, an angel speaks to him in a dream.
1. First, “while he thought on these things.” And knew not what should be the best course of action, God graciously directed him what to do, and brought comfort to his heart. Joseph needed direction and guidance. The Lord once again is “on time.”
2. Further, the angel’s words: “Joseph, thou son of David, fear not to take unto thee Mary thy wife: for that which is conceived in her is of the Holy Ghost, and she shall bring forth a son, and thou shalt call his name JESUS: for he shall save his people from their sins,” Matthew 1:20-21. These were assuring words...
a. Don’t fear regarding your intentions “to take Mary as your wife.”
b. For that “which is conceived in her is of the Holy Ghost.”
c. She shall “bring forth a son:”
1) Thou shalt: “Call his name Jesus.”
2) For: “He shall save His people from their sins.”
3. Finally, Angel’s instructions:
a. One, Joseph was instructed to call the child’s name: “Jesus.” God has appointed him to be the Saviour, which was intimated in his giving him the name Jesus, we must accept him to be our Saviour, and, in concurrence with that appointment, we must call him Jesus, our Saviour, Titus 3:11-14.
b. Two, there are two with this name under the Old Testament, who are both types of Christ.
1) Joshua who was Israel's captain at their first settlement in Canaan, Joshua 5:13-15.
2) Joshua who was their high priest at their second restoration from captivity, Zechariah 6:11-12.
3) Illustrate: Take Off Thy Shoes; for where you stand is holy ground.
4) The name Joshua is translated Jesus in the New Testament, Acts 7:45.
c. Three, “And Moses called Oshea the son of Nun, Joshua," Numbers 13:8; Numbers 13:16.
1) Joshua, therefore, means "Jehovah saves" or "Jehovah is salvation."
2) The Greek transliteration of Joshua is "Jesus."
3) It is Jesus: “That is able to save to the uttermost, and neither is there salvation in any other name,” Hebrews 7:25; Acts 4:12.
d. Conclusion: Christ is our Joshua; both the Captain of our salvation, and the High Priest of our profession. And, in both, Jesus:
1) Came NOT to save us under the Law; which the Law could not do, in that “it was weak through the flesh,” Romans 8:3; Hebrews 2:10; Hebrews 3:1; Hebrews 4:14.
2) But, to save us by grace, through: “Our obedience to the faith,” Ephesians 2:8-9; Romans 1:5.
3) The Hebrew writer penned: “Though He was a Son, yet He learned obedience through the things which He suffered. And having been perfected, He became the author of eternal salvation to all them that obey Him,” Hebrews 5:8-9.
B. Then Joseph. Matthew concludes: “Then Joseph being raised from sleep did as the angel of the Lord had bidden him, and took her unto him to be his wife,” Matthew 1:24. Joseph being now convinced that Mary had done no wrong; was willing to go on with the wedding plans.
1. He now takes Mary to be his wife. Illustrate: Good men don’t give out; they pray for guidance and willingly accept instruction from God. God upholds Joseph’s bride’s honor: “For that which is conceived in her womb is of the Holy Ghost.”
2. Young men: keep thyself pure; young ladies: keep thyself pure. Solomon wrote:
a. First, “Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies,” Proverbs 31:10.
b. Further, “A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh (him) ashamed is as rottenness in his bones,” Proverbs 12:4; Proverbs 18:22.
c. Finally, “House and riches are the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife is from the Lord,” Proverbs 19:14.
d. Conclusion: Young people, strive to be virtuous in your daily life. There will be time for romance and marriage as you grow wiser in your selection of a mate.
3. You have nothing more precious; to give to one another in marriage, than your purity in life. This speaks of what you are; what you have been; and what you will be in your union one to another! Illustrate, The purity of marriage, Hebrews 13:4.
4. Paul admonition to the young men that labored with him:
a. To Timothy: “Keep thyself pure,” 1 Timothy 5:22; 1 Timothy 4:12.
b. To Titus: “Young men likewise exhort to be sober minded...Let no man despise thy youth,” Titus 2:6; Titus 2:15.
c. For more guidance of young men, see our lesson: The Minister’s Life and Work, SermonCentral.com.
5. Solomon wrote: “Remember now thy Creator in the days of thy youth, while the evil days come not, nor the years draw night, when thou shalt say, I have no pleasure in them...Let us hear the conclusion...fear God and keep his commandments,” Ecclesiastes 12:1; Ecclesiastes 12:13-14. I wish I had some help!
C. Joseph knew Not Mary. Note here: “And (Joseph) knew her not till she had brought forth her firstborn son: and he called his name JESUS,” Matthew 1:21. The angel of the Lord instructed Joseph regarding the name that should be given to her Son: Thou shalt call his name Jesus, which means a Saviour.
1. Joseph was patient in this case; he was also forbearing throughout the entire process of Mary’s conception, carrying and delivery of the baby Jesus. Matthew wrote....
2. He knew “not his wife.” There was no honey moon!
3. He waited to “know his wife” after “she brought forth her firstborn son,” Matthew 1:25. You’re not listening to me!
4. Keep thyself from fornication: “Flee fornication...he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body,” 1 Corinthians 6:18-20; 1 Corinthians 7:1-2.
D. Joseph’s blessing, a Son. Joseph was directed to proceed in his intended marriage. The angel calls him, "Joseph, thou son of David;” he puts him in mind of his relation to King David, that he might be prepared to receive the promised Messiah, who, everyone knew, was to be a descendant from David, Romans 1:3-4. And the promised seed of Abraham, Galatians 3:16; Hebrews 2:16.
1. Mary’s conception. What she had conceived was by the power of the Holy Ghost; not by the natural man. The Holy Spirit, who produced the world, now produced the Saviour of the world and prepared him a body, as was promised him, when he said, “Lo, I come in the volume of the book…to do thy will, O God,” Hebrews 10:5-7.
2. Hence, it is said that He was: “Made of a woman,” Galatians 4:4. He is also the: “Second man, that is the Lord from heaven,” 1 Corinthians 15:47.
3. He is the Son of God, and the Son of Man: "the fruit of His mother’s womb," Luke 1:42; Psalms 127:3.
4. He is also God, who came to: “Tabernacle among us,” John 1:1-3; John 1:14.
Jesus came to: “Pitched his tent among us.” His time was short with us; his suffering temporal; that all who believe on Him: “Might have eternal life,” John 3:16; 1 John 5:11-13.
5. But we see Jesus: “Who was made a little lower than the angels for the suffering of death... that he should taste death for every man...in bringing many sons unto glory, to make the captain of their salvation perfect through suffering,” Hebrews 2:9-10; Hebrews 5:7-9; Hebrews 12:1-2.
E. Joseph’s blessing, as a father. This is our first record in the New Testament, of a blended family. Joseph was blessed with a Son, from another Father. He would provide care and guidance for Jesus until his adult life.
1. Luke wrote: “Then He (Jesus) went down with them and came to Nazareth, and was subject to them, but His mother kept all these things in her heart. And Jesus increased in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and men,” Luke 2:51-52.
2. First, Paul wrote: “Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise: That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth,” Ephesians 6:1-3. A good son or daughter will be in subjection to their parents.
a. To be brought “up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord,” Ephesians 6:3.
b. A good father gives guidance and direction to the family. He teaches and trains the children to love God and the Lord.
3. Further, Paul continues: “Ye fathers, provoke not thy children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord,” Ephesians 6:3.
a. Good father do not provoke the children; but encourages them to be obedient.
b. Good children: “Will obey their parents in the Lord, for this is right. That it may be well with them and that they may live long on the earth, for this is the first commandment with promise,” Ephesians 6:1-3; Exodus 20:12.
c. NOTE: Illustrate Gray Hair Old Men, why? They loved and obeyed their parents.
4. Next, good children will love their fathers. So many children do not have a father in the home. In many blended families, problems arise when the child of another father; begins to act disrespectfully, to the one in the home. This is the man that accepted you; and now you are behaving rude and ugly to him. This must be corrected immediately by the mother.
5. Sadly, however many mothers, even some of our sisters forget this man’s sacrifice and demonstration of love unto them. They will quickly stand up to defend their child, even when they are wrong. Please hear me, sisters:
a. You welcomed his financial support, care, and provisions to the family; but, too often, you hinder your child's disciplined. Yes, some of you wives, sisters will also yourselves rail against your husband, saying: “He is not your child.”
1) This is done to hurt him for some foolish reason! Well, I want you to know; it does hurt him terribly!
2) This occurs in many blended families, even in mine, over the years.
3) Illustrate, The Dog House! I had to sleep on the couch or in another bedroom.
a) I was in the dog house many a night; because I did not condone the behavior in the house.
b) Mainly, because the wife sided with the child; even when, they were obviously wrong! The mother should have corrected the child early in her marriage.
b. There are children in some of these homes; permitted to break up the marriage; because one or both parents forget they are one, discipline is part of child rearing.
1) I hope someone is listening? I spent too many nights in the “dog house,” because my wife did not understand this most important point.
2) Or worse, she would not abide by it!
c. Don’t let you child run off a “good man.” Discipline them, and stand united in parenting. They will appreciate it later in life. Just ask me: “I’ll tell you so!”
1) NOTE: Illustrate Mother’s discipline on many occasions.
2) I thank her for it every day.
a) I have driven pass many jails and prisons; but, I have not been an inmate of either.
b) This was due entirely to the many beaten; I got for doing wrong.
d. Some children in these blended families; think only of themselves; not of their mother’s happiness; nor of the dad that loves and cares for them. They will create strife and confusion; merely to get the parents fighting each other, just so they can have their own way in some selfish matter. Remember...
1) You are the adults in the home; they are the children! Act like it!
2) Paul wrote: “When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things,” 1 Corinthians 13:11.
a) They are the child. They will behave like it.
b) You are the adult. Put away childish things.
3) Years might pass, but they will always be your children (grown or otherwise).
6. Finally, the child should never be allowed; to strike out verbally or physically, against your husband, and rail: “I’m not your son.” Or, “you are not my daddy!”
a. He’s their daddy when they need school clothes; when he pays their cell phone bill; but not daddy, when they need to be disciplined? Why ladies?
b. Sisters, wives, and friends; you need to handle this early in your marriage. If you want to keep your husband, and, more importantly: save your children. You must demand that they give reverence and respect to your husband; the one trying to be the father to them. And you must show respect and submission to your husband before them and the Lord, Ephesians 5:21-23; Colossians 3:18.
c. If you don’t, you’re going to wake up early one morning (around 2:00 AM); and reach for him, only to feel the cold sheets, where he once laid alongside of you.
1) And, have no doubt about it; the child won’t be at home either.
2) You will eventually, have to put them out; or they will leave because you finally learned how to say: “NO.”
3) What a tremendous price to pay, for a child that is incorrigible.
d. Don’t behave imprudently toward that wonderful man; who accepted your child without conditions, because he loves you so much. Don’t permit this to happen in your home! Do the right things towards him; and for your children, that God might richly bless your “blended family.”
e. I could say more, but the looks on your faces right about now; reminds me of the words of Jesus: “I have yet many things to say unto you, but, you cannot bear them now,” John 16:12. I pray that God will bless you, not only to hear but also to act upon these important admonitions. I pray that I have helped you in some way; on this Father’s Day Celebration. As I conclude, let me quickly summarize what we have discussed today.
CONCLUSION
A. Outline.
1. Joseph’s Bride
2. Joseph’s Burden
3. Joseph’s Blessing
B. Summarize main points.
1. First, we considered Joseph’s bride and betrothal. What we found in our scripture lesson is a good man learning that his betrothal is with child. Months before the wedding this is discovered; him knowing that this pregnancy was not as a result of his “knowing Mary” in this wise; but as a result of someone other than he. His bride is now with child; but, the child is not his. What did this mean regarding his bride? What did this mean regarding their future together? What did the Law require? All these questions brought us to our next thought.
2. Second, we discussed Joseph’s burden as he contemplates this union. Our text states: “Then Joseph her husband, being a just man, and not willing to make her a public example, was minded to put her away privily.” Matthew describes Joseph as a “just man” not willing to make of his bride a spectacle of society. He determined to put her away privately – without public notice and shame. We found in these words the real character of Joseph – one within the lineage of Christ – a heart of love and compassion for Mary. How many men would today agree with their bride?
3. Finally, we addressed Joseph’s blessing regarding this union. As a result of the angel’s visit Joseph has found the confidence and purpose for moving forward with the marriage. He believed the angel’s message: “Joseph, thou son of David, fear not to take unto thee Mary thy wife: for that which is conceived in her (womb) is of the Holy Ghost.” Many families today have been likewise blessed by “good men” that looked past the event of conception; and assume the responsibilities, as the father of another’s son or daughter. It was not the announcement of an angel that compelled these unions; but the love for a wonderful woman and a child who needed a father. Sisters, if God has blessed you with a good man; teach your children to love him as you do; and remind them that he is “their father” not by conception – but by choice and acceptance!
C. Invitation. H, B, R, C, B.
D. Exhortation.
E. Motivation
References:
1. Matthew Henry's Concise Commentary on the Bible, by Matthew Henry, Christian Classics Ethereal Library, Grand Rapids, MI, 1706.
2. The People's New Testament, by B. W. Johnson, Christian Publishing Company, Grand Rapids, MI, 1891.
3. The New Greek-English Interlinear New Testament; United Bible Societies,’ Fourth, Corrected Edition, Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Wheaton, IL, 1990.
4. Textus Receptus, taken from the Greek Text of Stephens 1550, The Englishman’s Greek New Testament, Zondervan Publishing House, Grand Rapids, Michigan, First Zondervan Printing, 1970.
We thank these prolific writers for their wisdom and insight into the Holy Scriptures. We acknowledge here our consultation of their work in this lesson.
