INFANTILE NARCISSISM...AM I IN A VICE-GRIP...
MATURITY MASTERS EMOTIONS... DOES THIS CONTROL ME OR DO I CONTROL IT...
By Wade Martin Hughes, Sr. Kyfinger@aol.com
I. HAVE YOU EVER REALLY IDENTIFIED THE LIGHTNING RODS THAT MOCK YOU AND
YOUR FAMILIES?
FEW SEEK THE REVELATION OF CORRECTABLE SPIRITUAL PROBLEMS...
GREEN-REDDISH STREAKS... EXTERNAL REVELATIONS OF AN INTERNAL PROBLEM...
THE BATTLE GROUND OF THE SPIRIT PERSON FLOWS FROM WITHIN TO WITHOUT...
A. DAVID UNDERSTOOD SEVERAL DEEPER ISSUES OF GOD THHHAT FEW LEARN...
1. External issues reveal internal problems.
2. You will not CORRECT what you can not see as wrong...
3. Sin can be CONTAGEOUS and sin FEEDS MORE SIN...
4. DOING WRONG IS ADDICTIVE AND CAN NEVER BE CORRECTED UNTIL
YOU ACKNOWLEDGE, ADMIT, CONFESS, AND CORRECT...
B. David left the Holy Spirit of God a STANDING INVITATION:
CORRECT ME GOD... TEACH ME, LEAD ME...
Psalm 139:23 Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts:
24 And see if there be any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.
C. FEW TRAVEL TO THE HIDDEN SPIRITUAL AREAS OF THE SPIRIT PERSON...
DANGER AREAS LURK AROUND DARK CORNERS AND CAN BE HIDDEN IN SOME
BIG GARBAGE CANS... FACE THE GIANT, MY FRIEND
1 Corinthians 9:27 But I keep under my body, and bring it into subjection: lest that by any
means, when I have preached to others, I myself should be a castaway.
D. WE MUST INVITE HEALTHY ACCOUNTABLITIY AND SPRITUAL CHASTEMENT AND
DISCIPLINE... OR BECOME A CAST-AWAY?
E. SPIRITUAL PROBLEMS AND BAD ATTITUDES ARE SELF-FEEDING CANCERS,
WE NEED DIVINE REVELATIONS TO KNOW THE HEART OF GOD...
Jeremiah 17:9 The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?
F. SIN AND UNHEALTHY SITUATIONS GREW IN ISRAEL'S HOMES,
THESE WERE OFTEN HIDDENED...
WE NEED AN EXTERNAL SIGN TO REVEAL THE INTERNAL PROBLEM...
Leviticus 13:49 And if the plague be greenish or reddish in the garment, or in the skin, either in
the warp, or in the woof, or in any thing of skin; it is a plague of leprosy, and shall be shewed
unto the priest:
G. GREEN/RED STREAKS REVEALED A UNHEALTHY PROBLEM...
THEN THE PEOPLE COULD CORRECT THE PROBLEM...
Leviticus 14:37 And he shall look on the plague, and, behold, if the plague be in the walls of
the house with hollow strakes, greenish or reddish, which in sight are lower than the wall;
II. HOLY SPIRIT REVEAL AND CONVICT PEOPLE OF SIN AND THE WEIGHTS THAT
HINDER US.
CAN YOU TAKE LIFE AS AN ADULT? OR DO YOU LIVE IN PERPETUAL BABYHOOD...
HAVE WE FOCUSED OUR EFFORTS AND ATTENTIONS TO MASTER OUR
EMOTIONS? IN THE MOST RECENT CALENDAR OF TIME HAVE WE SPENT
TIME AND EFFORT TO MAKE ADJUSTMENTS TO MATURE AND MASTER YOUR
EMOTIONS... MENTAL, PHYSICAL, SPIRITUAL AND FAMILY EMOTIONAL
BEHAVIOR?
KJV
Psalm 37:8 Cease from anger, and forsake wrath: fret not thyself in any wise to do evil.
MESSAGE
Psalm 37:8 Bridle your anger, trash your wrath, cool your pipes—it only makes things worse.
NIV
Psalm 37:8 Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret--it leads only to evil.
TIB
Psalm 37:8 Stop your anger! Turn off your wrath. Don’t fret and worry—it only leads to harm.
NLT
Psalm 37:8 Stop being angry! Turn from your rage! Do not lose your temper— it only leads to harm.
A. DO YOU EVER EVALUATE OR GIVE YOURSELF A REPORT CARD...
OF YOUR:
1. Words
2. Attitudes
3. Thought patterns
4. Habits
B. Evaluate how often you:
1. Feel frustrated?
2. Agitated, irritated, annoyed
3. Bitter, anger,
C. NARCISSUS: In Greek mythology a person who pines away for loving their own reflection and then
turning into a flower...
INFANTILE NARCISSISM (VERY IMMATURE, relating to baby... love of own self, self-absorption.
In Psychology to be IN THE STATE OF CONSTANT ANNOYANCE HAS A
REAL TERM: INFANTILE NARCISSISM...
YOU ARE ANGRY, RESENTFUL OF ANYTHING THAT FRUSTRATES YOU...
YOU DEMAND EVERYTHING YOUR WAY... OR THE HIGHWAY...
TO DEMAND EVERYTHING YOUR WAY IS INFANTILE...
LIFE IS NOT HEALTHY, ...
D. Life becomes so un-healthy you EXPECT IRRITATION IS ACCEPTABLE...
E. DEFINE: PERPETUAL BABYHOOD?
CRY, Milk, Burp, diaper,sleep
CRY, milk, burp, diaper, SLEEP?
STAY THE SAME...
II. WHILE SOME WALK IN THE PERPETUAL BABYHOOD OF ANGER, THERE GROWS ANOTHER
EMOTIONAL DISTURBANCE THAT IS A SELF FEEDING CANCER...
WE CALL THIS EMOTIONAL TRANSFERENCE...
A. is a 30 year old? 40 year old? 50 year old person AUTOMATICALLY MATURE?
WE SELDOM SEARCH OUR HEARTS FOR WHAT IS THE REAL ROOT OF THE
EMOTIONAL PROBLEMS WE GROW AND DEVELOP...
JONAH : 1. WITH WHO ARE YOU ANGRY?
2. WHY ARE YOU ANGRY?
Jonah 4:1 But it displeased Jonah exceedingly, and he was very angry.
3. WHAT PROFIT ARE YOU GETTING BY BEING ANGRY?
Jonah 4:4 Then said the LORD, Doest thou well to be angry?
4. THE TRANSFERENCE OF ANGER ABOUT THE WORM AND THE
GOURD IS NOT WHY JONAH IS REALLY ANGRY...
Jonah 4:9 And God said to Jonah, Doest thou well to be angry for the gourd? And he said, I do
well to be angry, even unto death.
B. As a 3 year old child DEMANDS IMMEDIATE GRATIFICATION...
I want what I want... and I WANT IT NOW!
JONAH WAS PREJUDICE AND HATED THE NIVAHITES,
He knew the real history of how mean they were...
JONAH'S ANGER WAS AN INTERNAL PROBLEM OF UNFORGIVENESS...
C. EMOTIONAL TRANSFERENCE is also known as PECKING ORDER...
Every chicken coop has a real PECKING ORDER...
You can never PECK UP... You always Peck down...
D. YOU KNOW IN THE LAW OF THE PECKING ORDER...
You may not be able TO TAKE OUT YOUR ANGER ON WHO YOU ARE REALLY ANGRY
AT...
You take the problem home with you and:
1. PECK OF THE WIFE...
2. She pecks of the kids...
3. The kids peck on the DOG/CAT/ VIDEO GAME...
VICE-GRIP MENTALITY... THRIVES FROM ANGER, FEAR, WORRY, HATE, UNFORGIVENESS.
IT IS HIGH TIME TO REALIZE THE PROBLEM AND GROW UP... VICE-GRIP
CONTROL ME? ME IN CONTROL?
WHY DO WE KEEP BEATING THE PROBLEM...
THE PROBLEM WE SEE IS NOT THE REAL PROBLEM...
A. HATRED IS A TYPE OF FEAR...
B. Fear breeds anger... ANGER IS DOUBT... murmur, complain,
C. ANGER, DOUBT, FEAR, WORRY MUST FIND A HEALTHY VENT...
D. THE PEOPLE OF GOD MURMURED, COMPLAINED, FUSSED, UNDER-MINDED THEIR
LEADERS... THE VENT WAS A BRAZEN SERPANT... ON A POLE...
E. MOAB IS ANGRY, MAD, HATE RULED...
F. There was a man of God...
HE WAS LOOKING FOR PROMOTION AND A BIGGER SALARY...
Numbers 22:17 For I will promote thee unto very great honour, and I will do whatsoever thou sayest
unto me: come therefore, I pray thee, curse me this people.
G. KEEP IT UP... GOD WILL BECOME YOUR ADVERSITY...
Numbers 22:22 And God's anger was kindled because he went: and the angel of the LORD stood in
the way for an adversary against him. Now he was riding upon his ass, and his two servants were
with him.
H. WARNING, WARNING... STUBBORN ... INFANTILE NARCISSISM...
KEEP BEATING THE DONKEY
Numbers 22:23 And the ass saw the angel of the LORD standing in the way, and his sword drawn
in his hand: and the ass turned aside out of the way, and went into the field: and Balaam smote
the ass, to turn her into the way.
I. INFANTILE NARCISSISM... HURT YOUR FOOT... SLOW LEARNER...
Numbers 22:25 And when the ass saw the angel of the LORD, she thrust herself unto the wall,
and crushed Balaam's foot against the wall: and he smote her again.
J. INFANTILE NARCISSISM... DONKEY FALLS ON YOU... KEEP BEATING THE DONKEY?
Numbers 22:27 And when the ass saw the angel of the LORD, she fell down under Balaam:
and Balaam's anger was kindled, and he smote the ass with a staff.
K. INFANTILE NARCISSISM... THE DONKEY TALKS... DUMB PREACHER...\I WOULD KILL
YOU IF I HAD A SWORD... TEMPER... TEMPER...
Numbers 22:28 And the LORD opened the mouth of the ass, and she said unto Balaam, What
have I done unto thee, that thou hast smitten me these three times?
29 And Balaam said unto the ass, Because thou hast mocked me: I would there were a sword in
mine hand, for now would I kill thee.
L. INFANTILE NARCISSISM CAN ONLY BE CURED BY A REVELATION OF GOD...
Numbers 22:30 And the ass said unto Balaam, Am not I thine ass, upon which thou hast ridden
ever since I was thine unto this day? was I ever wont to do so unto thee? And he said, Nay.
31 Then the LORD opened the eyes of Balaam, and he saw the angel of the LORD standing in the
way, and his sword drawn in his hand: and he bowed down his head, and fell flat on his face.
32 And the angel of the LORD said unto him, Wherefore hast thou smitten thine ass these three
times? behold, I went out to withstand thee, because thy way is perverse before me:
33 And the ass saw me, and turned from me these three times: unless she had turned from me,
surely now also I had slain thee, and saved her alive.
34 And Balaam said unto the angel of the LORD, I have sinned; for I knew not that thou stoodest
in the way against me: now therefore, if it displease thee, I will get me back again.
M. INFANTILE NARCISSISM CAN ONLY BE CURE WHEN YOU ADMIT, ACKNOWLEDGE,
REPENT, CONFESS, AND CHANGE...
CONCLUSION: Do you have greenish/red streaks in your home.
Do you have problems and fail to admit it?
The Holy Spirit has an OFFICE WORK... To convict and draw men to God and away from
INFANTILE NARCISSISM... Are you addicted to porn, TV, big mouth, excessive
temper, causeless, protracted bitterness and anger...
move on, get up, press on and grow...
His servant, Wade Martin Hughes, Sr. Kyfingers@aol.com
