The Four “A’s” ----ANGER Proverbs 19:1111—All Scripture is NKJV
ILL. Ever heard of air rage?...
-As a passenger boarded the Los Angeles-to-New York plane, he told the flight attendant to wake him and make sure he got off when they set down at the mid point in Dallas. The passenger awoke just as the plane was landing in New York. Furious, he called the flight attendant and demanded an explanation. She mumbled an apology and, in a rage, the passenger stomped off the plane. "Boy, was he ever mad!" another crew member observed to her errant colleague. "If you think he was mad," replied the flight attendant, "you should have seen the guy I put off the plane in Dallas!"
A. BUT HAVE YOU EVER LOST YOUR TEMPER? Do you ever do things you wish you hadn’t
done, or say things you wish you had never said?
Well, the Bible has something to say about overcoming anger. Proverbs 19:11 (NKJ), "11The discretion of a man makes him slow to anger, And his glory is to overlook a transgression.
11Sensible people control their temper; they earn respect by overlooking wrongs. (NLT
The secret? If someone offends you, & if you are a man of wisdom (God’s wisdom) then you can overlook it, & not allow the situation to become a major event that overwhelms you.
B. There are 4 types of anger dealt with in the Bible.
1, SUDDEN ANGER-- is to be controlled.
2. SINFUL ANGER--- is to be condemned.
3. STUBBORN ANGER--- is to be conquered.
4. SANTIFIED ANGER---sanctified anger is to be channeled.
I. SUDDEN ANGER IS TO BE CONTROLLED
A. First of all there is sudden anger, & the Bible says that sudden anger is to be controlled.
1. Proverbs 14:17 says, "A quick-tempered man does foolish things."
a. We may blame our quick temper on our red hair Or we may blame it on our heritage.,
we’re Irish
b. But the bottom line is, if we have a short fuse, we’re going to do a lot of foolish things.
c. When we lose our temper we’ll say things we know we shouldn’t have said, & do things
that we’re going to be sorry for later on.
ILLUST:After spending 3-1/2 hours enduring long lines, rude clerks and insane regulations at the Department of Motor Vehicles, Glenn Vaughan stopped at a toy store to pick up a gift for his son. “I brought my selection - a baseball bat - to the cash register,” he said. "Cash or charge?" the clerk asked. "Cash," He snapped. Then apologizing for his rudeness, he explained, "I’ve spent the entire afternoon at the motor vehicle bureau." The woman sweetly replied, "shall I gift-wrap the bat…or are you going back there?"
2. Next, Proverbs 15:18 says, "A hot tempered man stirs up dissension."
a. You have a short fuse, if you’re always losing your temper,
b. if you’re walking around with a chip on your shoulder,
c. if you’re just looking for somebody to say something that
will irritate you,
d. Then you’re going to leave a trail of hurt feelings & unhappiness behind you.
ILL. Will Rogers said, "Whenever you fly into a rage, you seldom make a safe landing." And he
is right.
ILL. Chuck Swindoll said, "I got so angry that I gave him a piece of my mind. And it was a
piece that I couldn’t afford to lose."
The writer of Proverbs said, "A hot temper stirs up dissension."
4. Proverbs 19:19 says, "A hot-tempered man must pay the penalty."
ILL. Have you heard about the dog named "August" who was always trying to chase a mule named "Conclusion?" One day he jumped at Conclusion & bit him, & Conclusion kicked back at August. And that was the last day of August. Think about that for a moment.
Sometimes we jump to conclusions, & Solomon says that it is to our folly & our shame.
1. Doctors tell us that losing our temper consistently brings about high blood pressure,
dryness of mouth, & a fast-beating heart. It could even bring pre-mature death.
2. A hot temper could also mean loss of family & friends. The penalties of losing our temper
are many.
B. So the Bible says, "If you have a sudden temper, then you need to control it." But how can
we do that?
ILL. You say, "Why, I just can’t control my temper. It gets away from me." But you can. Have you ever found yourself engaged in a heated discussion with your voice getting louder & your words becoming more rapid? Then the telephone rings & you say, "Hello." Sure, you can control your temper.
B. So we need to recognize that we have a problem with temper.
C. Then we must confess our problem to God & ask for His help.
SUM. The Bible teaches that when the Holy Spirit guides our life, that one fruit of the spirit is
self control. And if you have a sudden temper, you need to control it.
II. SINFUL ANGER IS TO BE CONDEMNED
A.The second type of anger discussed in scripture is sinful anger.
1. Not all anger is sinful-- But some anger is.
So let me give you some tests to help you determine whether your anger is sinful or not.
B. In Matthew 5:21, Jesus says, "You have heard that it was said to the people long ago, `Do
not murder, & anyone who murders will be subject to judgment.’ But I tell you that anyone
who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment."
C. Now that passage tells us some things about anger that should help us realize when our
anger is sinful & when it is not.
D. Notice first of all that it says, "Anyone who is angry with his brother." Now if you’re a brother
or sister to someone it indicates that you are a member of the same family, whether a
domestic family or the family of God.
1. If we’re brothers & sisters, we ought to be lifting each other up, supporting & helping each
other. We should not spend our time being angry at one another.
2. The King James Version speaks about being angry at your brother "without a cause." If we
are angry & don’t have a legitimate reason for being angry, then this tells us that our anger
is sinful.
3. Then if you’re angry at your brother, that indicates that you are focusing your anger on a
person. We should never focus our anger on people, but rather on the sins they commit.
Jesus was never angry at people, but He was angry at their sins. So look beyond the person. We must love the person, but hate their sin.
-ILLUSTRATION: "It’s enough to make a preacher cuss."
It reminds me of the story about little boy trying to sell a lawn mower. The local pastor walked up and he was able to persuade him to buy the worn out lawn mower. The pastor pulled on the rope several times to make sure the mower would start, but nothing happen. Not even a spit or a sputter.
The boy told the preacher that he would have to kick the mower and say a few cuss words before the mower would crank. The preacher said, "Son, I can’t do that. It’s been years since I said a cuss word."
The little boy replied, "Just keep pulling and it will come back to you."
C. Now in Romans 12:19 Paul says, "Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for
God’s wrath, for it is written: `It is mine to avenge; I will repay,’ says the Lord."
1. So the 2nd test of our anger is this: Is it anger that seeks revenge? Are we always trying to
get even?
2. The Bible teaches that God is the one who has the right of vengeance. Not
us. "Vengeance is mine," says the Lord. We don’t have the right to repay anyone. But
rather, turn that over to God.
So if our anger is geared towards seeking revenge, then it is very definitely sinful anger.
D. If it is vengeful, then most likely it is also an anger that is cherished.
ILL. Remember what Jesus said to the man who was by the pool, waiting to be healed, & he
couldn’t get to the water soon enough? Jesus asked him, "Do you want to be healed?"
Important question!
E. So if anger is cherished, it most certainly is sinful anger.
F. If it is a cherished anger it will also be an anger with an unforgiving spirit.
G. And the secret to getting rid of anger is to be able to forgive. But if you can’t forgive, if you
can’t release it, then it is a sinful anger.
SUM. So here are the 5 tests to tell whether or not our anger is sinful anger.
1. Is it anger directed towards a person?
2. Is it anger without a justifiable cause?
3. Is it anger that seeks vengeance?
4. Is it anger that is cherished?
5. Is it anger that has an unforgiving spirit?
If any of the answers to those questions is "yes," then our anger is a sinful anger. And the Bible says that it is to be condemned.
CONCL. If it is sinful, then we need to repent, to turn away from it, & allow God to forgive us of it so that we can become forgiving people, too.
III. STUBBORN ANGER IS TO BE CONQUERED
A. The third type of anger is stubborn anger. It is an anger that just stays there, day after day
after day.
1. One of the classic passages that deals with anger begins in Ephesians 4:26. The KJV
says, "Be ye angry, & sin not. Let not the sun go down on your wrath." And the next
verse says, "And do not give the devil a foothold."
ILL. One day you go home & you’re angry. You’re carrying a chip on your shoulder, just waiting for someone to knock it off. Then your wife says something you don’t particularly appreciate, & soon heated words are being exchanged. It really doesn’t amount to much, but you’re determined to get your way, & she is determined to get her way. So the argument continues.
The sun goes down & nighttime comes. Then in bed she faces that way & you face this way, & you both make very sure that you don’t touch each other. Do you realize what has happened? The Bible says that you have opened the door, & said, "Mr. Devil, come right on in. We’ll make you welcome here."
2. Then in vs. 31, Paul mentions what happens when Satan begins to do his dirty work.
3. The first result is "bitterness." You begin to think about all the bad things people do &
say to you, all the insults, all of the inconsiderate things that go on.
4. Then Paul says, "After bitterness comes rage & anger." "Rage" is bitterness boiling &
bubbling inside of you. And "anger" is rage being expressed.
5. It is no longer just inside you. Now you begin to kick the cat, & hit the wall. Now you begin
to say all kinds of things, until finally it becomes
6. "Look at this house. It’s a pig sty. I come home every day & these kids are dirty. You don’t
know how to take care of them. What makes you think you’re a homemaker?" And on &
on it goes, back & forth.
And the end result of it all, Paul says, is "malice." And "malice" means that you really desire to harm. That’s why we’re always reading about someone shooting his wife & turning the gun on himself.
The ultimate end of stubborn anger is malice.
SUM. Paul said, "Here is the way to get rid of stubborn anger. Don’t let the sun go down on your wrath." Vs. 32 says, "Be kind & compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you."
ILLUSTRATION:-A young girl who was writing a paper for school came to her father and asked, "Dad, what is the difference between anger and exasperation?" The father replied, "It is mostly a matter of degree. Let me show you what I mean."
With that the father went to the telephone and dialed a number at random. To the man who answered the phone, he said, "Hello, is Melvin there?" The man answered, "There is no one living here named Melvin. Why don’t you learn to look up numbers before you dial?"
"See," said the father to his daughter. "That man was not a bit happy with our call. He was probably very busy with something and we annoyed him. Now watch...." The father dialed the number again. "Hello, is Melvin there?" asked the father. "Now look here!" came the heated reply. "You just called this number and I told you that there is no Melvin here! You’ve got lot of guts calling again!" The receiver slammed down hard.
The father turned to his daughter and said, "You see, that was anger. Now I’ll show you what exasperation means. "He dialed the same number, and when a violent voice roared, "Hello!" The father calmly said, "Hi, this is Melvin. Have there been any calls for me?"
1. There is sudden anger. And it must be controlled.
2. Then there is sinful anger. And it must be condemned.
3. Then there is stubborn anger. And it must be conquered.
IV. SANCTIFIED ANGER
A. Finally, there is Sanctified anger. And that must be channeled in the right direction for God.
Remember, Ephesians 4:26 says, "Be ye angry. . ." It is okay to be angry, but do not sin.
A. Let me read to you from Mark 3:1-5. This is a passage that deals with a situation in the life of Jesus that I think is very revealing. It says:
"Another time he went into the synagogue, & a man with a shriveled hand was there. Some of them were looking for a reason to accuse Jesus, so they watched him closely to see if he would heal him on the Sabbath. And Jesus said to the man with the shriveled hand, `Stand up in front of everyone.’"
"Then Jesus asked them, `Which is lawful on the Sabbath: to do good or to do evil, to save life or to kill?’ But they remained silent."
"He looked around at them in anger &, deeply distressed at their stubborn hearts. . ." You see, the focus of His anger is their hearts. He is angry because of their stubborn hearts & their stubborn anger. The sun has gone down. The sun has come up. And the devil has established a foothold in their lives. And Jesus is angry at their stubborn anger.
Then Jesus said, "Stretch out your hand." And he stretched it out, & his hand was completely restored."
B. The Bible says that Jesus was tempted in all points, even as we are tempted, but He never
sinned.
C. So this passage teaches that Jesus became angry but it wasn’t sinful anger. It was
sanctified anger, channeled anger, anger that has the right focus, & the right object
D. Maybe an infusion of anger is the very thing that the church needs.
E. To become angry at the corruption of the world. at the forces of Evil.
angry at the millions of abortions angry at the increase in crime & murders & rapes.
angry at the abuse of alcohol & drugs in our society. angry because there are millions who
are dying & going to Hell
It is time for the church to become angry, with a sanctified anger, a holy anger, that is channeled in the right places.
SUM. There are all kinds of anger. And if you are wrestling with them, God promises to give you victory, if you’ll let Him.
So be angry, but don’t sin. Don’t let the sun go down upon your wrath. Don’t allow the devil to have a foothold in your life. But channel that anger so it can begin to accomplish victories for Jesus.
Sudden Anger
Sinful Anger
Stubborn Anger
Sanctified Anger
