LESSON TWO
WHAT EVERY WIFE NEEDS FROM HER HUSBAND
Eph. 5:25-29
In most cases when there is trouble at home, the man is at fault.
If husbands will be right & do right.
Then the wives & the children will get in line.
In the majority of cases.
The man is the least willing to accept or seek counsel.
Proverbs 1:5 A wise man will hear, and will increase learning; and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels:
1)EVERY WIFE NEEDS TO BE LOVED:
Ephesians 5:25-29 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
Love is kindness & gentleness!
The gentle wind moves the ship.
However the strong wind breaks the sail.
Love is courtesy & politeness
Love is sincere praise
Love is not overburdening your wife
Love is being just & fair
LOVE IS BEING UNDERSTANDING
Love is sacrificing yourself
Love is a forgiving attitude
Love respects the dignity of the other
Love is romance
Love is meeting the needs of your wife
Men if wives have loving leadership.
They will follow.
Your attitude should not be
“You’ll do it. Or else”
Should be.
“I want you to do it because I love you.”
2) EVERY WIFE NEEDS LEADERSHIP:
God’s plan is for Christ to be the Head of the man.
Man is to be the head of the woman.
Together they are to lead the children.
Men should lead in Spiritual matters
The man should be the most spiritual.
He should be the most dedicated.
He should be the closest to God.
He should be winning the most souls to Christ.
The man should be up first on Sunday Morning to lead the family to church.
Never forget that the man is responsible for his family.
Abraham was blessed by God.
WHY?
Because he lead his house hold well.
Genesis 18:17-19 And the LORD said, Shall I hide from Abraham that thing which I do;Seeing that Abraham shall surely become a great and mighty nation, and all the nations of the earth shall be blessed in him? For I know him, that he will command his children and his household after him, and they shall keep the way of the LORD, to do justice and judgment; that the LORD may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him.
On the other hand Eli was judged by God.
Why?
Because he did not lead his family.
1 Samuel 3:12-13 In that day I will perform against Eli all things which I have spoken concerning his house: when I begin, I will also make an end.
For I have told him that I will judge his house for ever for the iniquity which he knoweth; because his sons made themselves vile, and he restrained them not.
Men, if your boy goes to prison or your girl becomes immoral.
It’s our fault!!!!
God gives us some Joshua’s who will say.
Joshua 24:15 And if it seem evil unto you to serve the LORD, choose you this day whom ye will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell: but as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.
Men should lead in money matters:
If you ever fight about.
Let the man handle the finances.
If the woman does it many times leads to problems.
She is to be protected in this money matters.
Men should lead in household matters:
Men should decide the schedule & make the major decisions.
The wise husband will consult the wife.
However he should make the finial decision on the matter at hand.
I always ask for Jan’s impute.
I have the finial say so.
3) EVERY WIFE NEEDS SECURITY:
Many wives have great difficulties because their husbands do not provide security.
Here are a few ways on how to provide security:
EXPRESS your love to her.
Reassure of your unfailing love for her.
Don’t COMPARE her to other women.
Take her SIDE.
KEEP her informed
Don’t be a DOUBLE-MINDED man.
James 1:8 A double minded man is unstable in all his ways.
4)EVERY WIFE NEEDS ATTENTION:
Men, don’t get too busy for your wife. !!!!!!
Have a date with her at least every other week.
Spend time with every day. Remember special occasions.
5)EVERY WIVE NEEDS APPRECTATION:
Dr. James Dobson has said,
“Low self esteem is a major problem for today’s women.”
I’m not a real big fan of Mr. Dobson; on this one he makes sense.
A man’s self esteem comes from his job.
However; a woman’s self esteem comes from her home.
Wives need to know they are appreciated.
Thank her for a clean & orderly home.
Thank her for the meals; let her know what a great cook she is.
Lie if you have to. (Joking)
Thank her for taking care of the children.
Her faithfulness towards you.
Express your appreciation with compliments; not with all complaints.
This is a must for the “all in the family” mentality.
Women are being put down & we need to raise them up.
Here is very important rule to remember:
Praise her in public.
Correct her in private (when necessary)
6)EVERY WIVE NEEDS ACCEPTANCE:
There will be times when correction is necessary.
(NOTE: Please not like you would correct your child)
She is an adult & treat her as such.
Keep in mind:
Don’t always be “cutting her down”.
Please don’t major on the negative all the time.
A wife is not perfect!
(Neither are you)
Men every wife, I don’t care who she is
“All wives do have positive qualities.”
(1st of all, she married you)
It may her cooking.
Could be that she is a great housekeeper.
Hey it could be that she is faithful.
(You do you know how rare that is in today’s world)
Maybe she keeps up her appearance for you.
Bottom line is this.
“Praise Her Good Qualities”
You may have to look hard in some cases.
Remember she has to do the same.
I Praise God for Jan.
7)EVERY WIFE NEEDS A HOME:
Every Women have a “Nesting” need
A couple in love could be happy living in a tent.
(They say I am happy no matter where we are, just as long as I’m with you)
This will only do for a while.
Believe me!
They will want their own home in the long run.
They need the security of a home.
b) Married couples should never live with their parents.
Wives need their own home.
In Genesis 2:24 says,
“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”
Violating this principle leads to trouble.
No
It leads to a disaster.
8)EVERY WIFE NEEDS A PROVIDER:
1 Timothy 5:8 But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.
The man should be the provider for his family.
(I’m sick of these stay home dads.)
Mom goes to work & dad stays home with the kids)
(This produces a bunch of fags)
(They see the wrong ordnances of the home)
This is God’s way folks!!!
Man is to work:
Bring home the bacon, buy the clothes, & provide an education for the children.
MAN NOT THE WOMAN.
I’m sick of seeing woman doing the job of a man.
Women need to woman & take care of things at home. Man is to be man & work.
Woman needs a provider not a at home mom.
SHE NEEDS A MAN!!!!
9)EVERY WIFE NEEDS A PROTECTOR:
God has assigned man the role of PROTECTOR.
He has also EQUIPPED the man for that task.
The husband should protect her from sexual assault.
She should not be alone at night (anywhere men).
Be certain of her escorts are trusted people.
Watch her method of dress.
(What mat be innocent may not be to someone else)
(If you catch my drift)
The husband should protect her from evil influences
Indecent literature.
(Maybe this should be a wives job to protect her husband)
He should protect from drugs & alcohol
(Don’t bring it home)
Even from Bad Hellavision (TV)
(Jan & I have set rules over TV)
(Any time the Lord’s name is taken in vain or any guy stuff it gets changed)
Even from an evil environment
The husband should protect her from strenuous work
When a woman does masculine work.
It harms both husband & wife.
Harm to the Wife:
It diminishes her femininity
(You have seen it, woman who do a man’s job walks & talks, & even acts like a man)
(I don’t want to be married to me)
She will even lose respect for her husband.
(He is a wimp)
Then it leads to being felt unloved.
Harm to the Husband:
He suffers loss of his masculinity
(Think about it: Wife as tough as you)
He will develop a feeling of quilt.
(He should)
Then comes the negative attitude towards the wife.
The next stage is a nagging wife
(It becomes you allowed this.)
(This is what you wanted)
AND ON IT GOES MEN
LET’S MAKE A DIVIDING LIST:
Woman Men
Washing Out door work
Cleaning wash car
Cooking Heavy lifting
Sewing Maintenance
Shopping
Making the money
The husband is to protect her from difficulties
Guard Her From:
Situations with troublesome people.
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(If you know they are bad or cause problems)
(If they are the types that even give bad advice)
(Get her away from them.)
Financial Pressure
(Pay your bills on time)
Harsh Criticism
Unnecessary Pressures
ALWAYS REMEMBER GOD SAYS THE WOMAN IS THE WEAKER VESSELS
1 Peter 3:7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
