Love Me Tender

- And each one do you think you will marry finally? He said – I think Cecilia, she is the pretty one. I cannot change the others to look like her, great body like a professional model. But I can change her and it will be easier with her, for what I don’t like is inside, it’s not so obvious…

Poor guy… I feel sorry for him…

If you are marrying a Fixer upper and plan on doing a remodeling job on your spouse, let me warn you that you might have instead of a remodeled mansion, an up-side-down cottage on your hands for a looong time. Just remember: you are taking him or her as is, (whatever that means) and begin the journey together as individuals – one flesh, yet two different souls…

The best you can do is to pray that God will bring about circumstances in such a way that YOU may be open for a change, you, not looking that your partner should do and must to do it...

3. The last myth on my list is that marriage is BLISS. I looked up bliss in the dictionary and it said it was a state of “Exceedingly enjoyment” “Perfect Happiness” “Heavenly Joy”. This is a myth. Marriage may not be any of that. Most of the time it’s not.

Happiness is a gift from God and not a byproduct of a marriage bed. Happines is always related to His presence in our life, in your life, Adelin and Vera. Happiness I not related to the presence of money, of bigger plasma TV, newer furniture or…

I am reminded of the way the apostle Paul puts it in Philippians 4:11.He says “I have learned in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content”.

If you haven’t learned yet to be content and how to be content, then you have some studying to do. I’ve heard talk about marriages made in heaven and that he or she married the Right One. Let me tell you something, Marriage is of such a nature that whomever you marry it’s the right one after the wedding.

God has made no provisions for trial and error. We are expected to do it right the first time. …You have to say something a little later about “until death do us part”

First don’t let it cross your mind that you made a mistake after today. If you think you are making a mistake, now is the time to get out of it. That’s why most churches have doors up near the platform so either the Bride or the Groom can slip out quickly.

“Though Difficulties, Perplexities and Discouragements may arise, let neither husband or wife harbor the thought that their union is a mistake or a disappointment.” (Ellen White - MH 360)

In other words don’t even think about it. Don’t think about how you could have done better, but rather how you can be better. If your marriage gets off the track, don’t be thinking about blowing up the train, but rather how to get back on the track.

A flat tire is no excuse to buy a new car. Neither is a argument a reason to get a divorce. But so for many a divorce has been triggered by an argument. Change the tire, not the whole car. And change the tone of the voice, not the partener…

Let me state again now, at the end of this personal message to you Vera and Adelin, and to check you learn so far something from it. Love is an important ingredient of marriage.