Lies We Believe About Our Children Series

Lies we believe about children

Jokes about Children:

A small child is someone who can wash his hands without getting the soap wet.

The trouble with children is that when they’re not being a lump in your throat, they’re being a pain

in your neck.

Children are like wet cement. Whatever falls on them makes an impression.

A child is a person who can’t understand why someone would give away a perfectly good kitten.

Almost every child would learn to write sooner if allowed to do his homework on wet cement.

1. Lie #1: Children are a burden

a. Remember last week’s sermon about marriage and its purpose?

i. The purpose of marriage is not to make you happy. It is to glorify God.

ii. But if you believe the lie that marriage, and your spouse exists to make you happy, then

you should avoid anything that might threaten your idea of happiness, such as

inconveniences, difficulties, anything smelling like hardship…including children.

b. Genesis 1:27-28 “God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him;

male and female He created them. God blessed them; and God said to them, "Be fruitful and

multiply, and fill the earth, and subdue it; and rule over the fish of the sea and over the birds of

the sky and over every living thing that moves on the earth." “…be fruitful and multiply…”

i. Bible mentions “be fruitful and multiply” 11 times

ii. The purpose of marriage is to provide a loving and safe home for children to be

produced, and raised.

iii. It is the norm for marriage to produce children.

c. But it is more than that. Let’s look at Malachi 2:15.

i. Didn’t the LORD make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his. And what

does he want? Godly children from your union. (Mal 2:15).

1. What does He (God) want? Godly Children!

ii. I bet you never heard of this before. It isn’t taught in Sunday School, it isn’t taught at

seminary, it isn’t even preached from the pulpit.

iii. One of the purposes of the marriage union is to produce GODLY CHILDREN!

iv. At the heart of marriage is the calling to produce children who fear and reverence the

Lord

v. Raising Godly children is the highest calling of life.

1. When you and I see this we will put ourselves, our needs, our desires, even our

own fleeting happiness on the back burner and our children will grow up to love

our Lord.

d. Children are not a burden

i. In the bible, we never find that children were thought of as a burden.

ii. They might be a pain, but they are not a burden.

1. I want you to know that no one causes a parent more pain than their own children.

a. Do you know why? Because you love them!

b. When you love someone you leave yourself open to disappointment,

rejection and pain.

c. That is the price of love.

2. In my life, no one has helped me more than my children have.

3. Nobody has helped me to understand life and to understand God’s plan and love

for me, more than they have.

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4. No one has taught me more about my Father in Heaven’s love for me and the

ways that I hurt Him than my own children.

5. Sometimes the hurt and the joy of parenting are mingled together.

6. I’m sure that I have hurt my children when I didn’t intend to -- and I hope I’ve

helped them.

iii. So while our children might produce a heartache for the choices they make, they are

never described as a burden but always as a blessing, an inheritance from God.

1. Mine certainly have been a wonderful blessing.

2. Psalm 127: 3-5 Behold, children are a gift of the LORD, The fruit of the womb is

a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, So are the children of one’s

youth. How blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them.

e. Where have we gotten the idea that children are a burden?

i. I read a quote from a leading feminist says that “the heart of woman’s oppression is her

childbearing and childrearing roles.”

ii. Oppression? Give me a break!

1. Moms, do you feel oppressed by the fact that you can give life to a child?

iii. This idea isn’t found in the bible. It has come about from our fallen society.

iv. In the news this week was an alarming article that in Japan the birthrate has dropped

below the 1.3 per family. Their population is actually declining as more and more

women seek fulfillment in ways that deny the value of a child.