Summary: The goal of parenting is maturity. For the knock-off version, the goal is happiness. God’s goal is spiritual maturity.

As a consumer, I say, “how can I make my life most bearable” NOT “how can I build into my

kids.” The reason why I was a stickler for getting kids to bed wasn’t necessarily building into

them but making my life bearable.

The goal of parenting is maturity. For the knock-off version, the goal is happiness. The kids’

happiness and the parent’s happiness in having a manageable life.

And, God’s goal is spiritual maturity. That is what he is trying to do.

My Most Important Learnings…

1) Enjoy every phase

“I hope it ends soon.”

2) You are the MVP

One of the things I admire about my parents is their handling of money. They have never

had any debt except for a mortgage. They have had adequate savings to buy a brand new

car with cash and then run it for 10 years. They are in retirement and not needing to bum

money off of me. That is a good thing.

But when I was younger I didn’t appreciate this at all. One of the costs of them being wise

financially is that I always got the knock-off brands. I’m old enough that I remember when

Nike first came out. The cheaper big box retailers at the time had tennis shoes that looked

like Nike except the swoosh went down. Instead of and argyle shirt with the little crocodile,

mine had a lion in the same color and proportions.

There is a beautiful original product of marriage, being single and Parenting kids. Our

default is to use society’s rules for marriage, being single or parenting and regardless of

whether those principles work or not, we miss the transcendent depth of the real thing.

They were motivated to this out of a higher goal of financial responsibility. However, most

of us have knock-offs in areas of our life that are much deeper in importance than clothing

and shoes. In fact, we don’t’ even realize we possess the knock-off an there is a deeper and

richer original that was conceived in the mind of God.

3) Build their confidence in every stage

Reds Game

It is never too late to be a great Dad because everyone wants one right now.

The goal is for your kid to be on your level. I will never be on God’s level but His goal is to

mature me.


Jake Peeing on Me

I Thessalonians 2:7

We were gentle among you, just as a nursing mother cherishes her own children.

Psalm 131:2

But I have calmed and quieted my soul, like a weaned child with its mother; like a

weaned child is my soul within me.

Having children doesn’t make you a parent anymore than having a car makes you a

mechanic. To be a mechanic you must work on your car and to be a parent you must work

on your kid.

Hebrews 12:5-9

“My son, do not regard lightly the discipline of the Lord,

nor be weary when reproved by him. For the Lord disciplines the one he loves,

and chastises every son whom he receives.”

7 It is for discipline that you have to endure. God is treating you as sons. For

what son is there whom his father does not discipline? 8 If you are left without

discipline, in which all have participated, then you are illegitimate children and

not sons. 9 Besides this, we have had earthly fathers who disciplined us and we

respected them. Shall we not much more be subject to the Father of spirits and



When you come out of the Nurse phase, No goo goo voices with your kids. There is a very

obvious sign that is time to move from nurse to King: Open Defiance.

Little princesses need to be dethroned.

Kids are “less than…”

Ephesians 6:1-4 (TNIV)

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 “Honor your father and

mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— 3 “so that it may go well

with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.” 4 Fathers, do not exasperate

your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

Acknowldege that this is counter culture…

• “Let your child express themselves.” “Don’t say, the word, ‘no.’”

• “I am my kid’s best friend.”

• “help them understand their choices.”

Understand your choices? Your choice is do this now, or you will be in pain!

1) Only spank to teach, never to vent.

2) Calmly remind the child what they have done wrong

3) Use a neutral object, not your hand.

4) Hug your child and give reinforcement and positive verbal affirmation.

Proverbs 23:13-14

Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish him with the rod, he will not die.

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