Kingdom Marriage Series

As Christians, we are called to live a life that reflects God's kingdom values. One of the most significant decisions we make in life is choosing a life partner. In this sermon we will explore the concept of kingdom marriage and what the Bible says about choosing a spouse.

What is a Kingdom Marriage?

A kingdom marriage is a union between two believers who are committed to living out their faith together. It is a marriage that reflects God's kingdom values of love, respect, and mutual submission. In a kingdom marriage, both partners are committed to serving and loving each other, as well as serving and loving God.

Biblical Principles for Choosing a Spouse

The Bible provides clear guidance on choosing a spouse. Here are some key principles to consider:

Do Not Marry an Unbeliever

2 Corinthians 6:14-15 says, "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?" Marrying an unbeliever can lead to spiritual compromise and hinder our ability to fulfill our calling as Christians.

Do Not Marry an Immature Person

1 Corinthians 13:11 says, "When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me." Marrying someone who is immature can lead to frustration and stagnation in the relationship.

Avoid "Dead" or "Corpse" Marriages

Ephesians 5:14 says, "This is why it is said: 'Wake up, sleeper, rise from the dead, and Christ will shine on you.'" A "dead" or "corpse" marriage is one that is lacking in spiritual life and vitality. Marrying someone who is not spiritually alive can lead to a dull and unfulfilling relationship.

Beware of Narcissistic or Controlling Partners

Proverbs 22:24-25 says, "Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered, or you may learn their ways and get yourself ensnared." Narcissistic or controlling partners can be emotionally abusive and damaging to our well-being.

The Dangers of Marrying an Abuser

As Christians, we are called to live a life that reflects God's love and care for others. When it comes to marriage, it's essential to choose a partner who shares these values and treats others with kindness, respect, and compassion. Unfortunately, some individuals may be hiding a dark secret and a history of abuse.

The Bible's Warning Against Abusers

The Bible is clear in its condemnation of abuse and violence. In 1 Corinthians 6:9-10, we read, "Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor sodomites nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God."

Similarly, in Psalm 11:5, we read, "The Lord examines the righteous, but the wicked, those who love violence, he hates with a passion."

Recognizing the Signs of an Abuser

Abusers often hide their true nature behind a charming facade. However, there are some signs that may indicate someone is an abuser:

Control and Manipulation: Abusers often try to control their partner's actions, emotions, and decisions.

Verbal Abuse: Abusers may use hurtful words, insults, or threats to intimidate and belittle their partner.

Emotional Unavailability: Abusers may be emotionally distant or unavailable, making it difficult for their partner to connect with them.

Jealousy and Possessiveness: Abusers may become excessively jealous or possessive, accusing their partner of flirting or being unfaithful.

Physical Violence: Abusers may use physical force or violence to intimidate or harm their partner.

The Dangers of Marrying an Abuser

Marrying an abuser can have severe consequences, including:

Emotional Trauma: Living with an abuser can cause significant emotional trauma, leading to anxiety, depression, and PTSD.

Physical Harm: Abusers may use physical violence, which can result in serious injury or even death.

Isolation and Loneliness: Abusers often isolate their partner from friends and family, leading to feelings of loneliness and disconnection.

Spiritual Damage: Living with an abuser can damage one's spiritual well-being, leading to feelings of shame, guilt, and disconnection from God.

The Dangers of Marrying Someone Unfit

Impotence: Marrying someone who is physically unable to fulfill their marital duties can lead to frustration, resentment, and unmet emotional and physical needs.

Criminal History: A partner with a criminal record can bring unnecessary stress, danger, and instability into your life and the lives of your children.

Mental and Psychological Issues: Marrying someone with untreated mental health issues can lead to a toxic and abusive relationship, causing emotional harm and damaging your well-being.

Greediness: A greedy partner can bring financial stress, anxiety, and a never-ending pursuit of wealth, leading to an unbalanced and unhealthy relationship.

Beware of the Unloving, Workaholic, and Shameful Partner