Human Sexuality Series

Human Sexuality

Selected Scriptures

We begin a new message series with topics on current concerns. These topics were triggered by Chip Ingram’s “Culture Shock Series”. Topics will include Human Sexuality, Politics, Human Trafficking, Abortion, and Reaching our LGBTQ Neighbors.

Addressing these topics in church will help our people be ready to engage our culture, our family, and our neighbors. In growing young, the book, one of the keys is being a good neighbor. This includes empowering the church to respond to current concerns in a compassionate and biblical manner. We encourage our small groups to use these messages as your sermon based studies in the upcoming weeks.

A pastor became frustrated that a large portion of his congregation went water skiing last Sunday, rather than coming to church. So he said to his wife, “This Sunday, I’m going to preach about the evils of water skiing on Sunday.”

Sunday came and the minister’s wife tried to persuade her husband not to preach against water skiing. He refused to listen to her, so she refuse to go into the sanctuary with him. She said, “just tell people I am not feeling well” and she stayed in the car.

As the pastor walked into the sanctuary, he decided to abandon his water skiing sermon. Instead, he delivered a brilliant sermon on sex.

When the service ended, a lady saw the pastor’s wife in the car. She stopped by to compliment her husband’s helpful sermon. She said, “That is the best sermon on the subject I ever heard!”

The pastor’s wife replied, “I don’t see how that could be; he has never done it before.”

You are not going to hear a brilliant sermon on sex, but I hope you will hear a biblical sermon on sex this morning. This topic may cause excitement for some and discomfort for others. What most have heard about biblical sexuality from the church is: "Don't have sex until you are married (period)." The Bible says much more than this, as we will learn together.

In this message on Human Sexuality, we will look at 4 points. First, the purposes of human sexuality. Second, the place of human sexuality. And third, the passion of human sexuality, and fourth, the purity of human sexuality.

First, the purposes of Human sexuality. I was talking with a gay Christian some time ago. He claimed that there is no difference in the purposes between same-sex marriage and many evangelical Christian heterosexual marriages. The purposes are to experience sexual fulfillment and companionship. He pointed out that having children as a biblical purpose of marriage is no longer taught or considered in many evangelical churches.

There are at least three biblical purposes for human sexuality: Procreation of humankind, picture of Christ's love, and pleasure between husband and wife. Let's take a closer look at each of these purposes

Procreation of humankind or having children, if your health permits, is a biblical purpose of sex within marriage. Genesis 1:27-28 reads, " So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number....” God’s way to be fruitful and increase in number is to have sex.

Malachi 2:15 reads, "Has not the one God made you? You belong to him in body and spirit. And what does the one God seek? Godly offspring. So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful to the wife of your youth."

Having and raising godly children is not just a desire of some but a design of God for sex within marriage. Everything else being equal, children grow up best in families with mother and father. Procreation of humankind is a purpose of God for human sexuality.

Picture of Christ's love is another biblical purpose of sex within marriage. Ephesians 5:31-32 reads, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church.

A man and a woman leave their parent to be united in marriage. This is a picture of Jesus Christ, the Son of God, who left God the Father to love mankind as His bride. He demonstrated His love by dying on the cross as payment for our sin.

Biblical sexuality within marriage is to picture Christ's unselfish love. It is a picture of serving one another. Sex is about meeting the needs of your spouse. Not manipulating to meet your own needs.

Here’s how meeting needs with sex work. In premarital counseling, the question is asked, “How frequent are we supposed to have sex?” Answer: There is no correct number of times per week. It is as frequent as your spouse needs sex.