How To Manage Life Choices

2. Would I want everyone to know about my choice?

Wrongly made choices, ill advised decisions are usually kept in secret. It is an issue of living a life and making decisions of integrity. It’s easy to cut corners, to shade the truth, to walk the tightrope of life, but when you do, it is not something you want everyone else to know about. A serial killer in Spokane was arrested and his wife and children were shocked by the facts of the arrest. Wrong choices are done in secret, you don’t come home and tell everyone at the dinner table, “By the way, last night I just killed my 20th woman.”

Proverbs 10:9 Honesty lives confident and carefree, but Shifty is sure to be exposed.

Sometimes it is a no brainer if it is a right choice or a wrong choice. Romans 14:14 If someone believes something is wrong, then he shouldn’t do it because for him it is wrong.

If you haven’t caught on, when you are in doubt about a life choice, don’t do it.

The next questions you need to ask your self on your life choice is this…

3. By making this choice, will it help me be a better person?

Probably most of the choices we have to make in life is not between good and evil, but between better or best. When I stand in front of the cereal aisle, overcome with choices of cereals, most of which are good, I need to make a choice of what is best for me, and what is best for me may not be best for you in that area. If you are suffering from diabetes, sugar coated mini-wheats, my favorite, would not be your best choice.

Don’t you want to make the best choices in your life? I do. I want to be a better person, and life choices can help me accomplish that goal in life, the right life choices. So why not do what is best. Paul wrote in 1 Corinthians 10:23 "Everything is permissible"--but not everything is beneficial. "Everything is permissible"--but not everything is constructive. Before we had unwrapped the gifts under our Christmas tree, manufacturers were already at work making choices for the next gift giving season. As with everything, selection in making right choices is the name of the game. So we need to ask that big question, will I find improvement in my choices? Then we need to ask…

4. Will my choice become addicting?

Earlier in 1 Corinthians Paul said "Everything is permissible for me"--but not everything is beneficial. "Everything is permissible for me"--but I will not be mastered by anything. In the last question Paul said even though everything is permissible, not everything is constructive. Here he said everything is permissible but he will not allow himself to be mastered, to become addicted by some choices.

For those who are involved in Celebrate Recovery or should be, you know how a life choice has brought you into a recovery group because a choice you made some time back became addicting. Your life choice may have been smoking, drinking, sex, work, a hobby, money, sports, other people. These are just some choices which can dominate a person’s life. And it happens subtly. How do you know if a life choice has become dominating in your life? What is it that you think the most on because what your mind dwells the most on will inevitably become your god.