How To Affair Proof Your Marriage Series

How to affair proof your marriage

Home Improvement Series Part 2 ‘Exodus 20:14’

‘You shall not commit adultery’

Video Clip ‘I do.’

Like the video portrayed a lot of us have flunked commitment and sex. Others of us are in danger of flunking commitment and sex. Were talking about this commandment today ‘you shall not commit adultery.’

The mere mention of this causes pain and heartache for many.

The purpose of today’s message is not to resurrect the past. If you have repented and confessed your sins God has forgiven you. If you feel guilty after confessing that guilt is from Satan. His desire is to beat you down, to make you feel lower than a snake’s navel, keeping you ineffective for Jesus kingdom work.

Some of you have been involved in adultery, either in the flesh, in your mind, Romance novels, or the Internet. It is all adultery. Jesus said “You have heard that it was said, ’Do not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart (Matthew 5:27-28).”

By the power of the Holy Spirit Jesus wants to release you and set you free.

This message then, is to free those who have stepped on this minefield, and prevent the rest from being imploded.

Teenagers and young adults, this message is also for you.

One the players for the Charlotte Hornets, Bobby Phillys, left practice one day in his Porsche and started to race a teammate down a nearby road, reaching speeds of almost 100 mph. Sadly, he topped a hill, slid through an intersection, and was killed. Ask people, “Is drag racing a sin?” Invariably, the answer is a resounding, “Yes.” Then ask them, “O.K., then is it a sin to drag race at the Indianapolis 500?” ANSWER: “Well, no, I guess not.”

So is drag racing sin, yes or no? Drag racing is a sin on a public road; it’s not a sin at a racetrack built for that purpose. Similarly, sex is not a sin if one has sex within God’s guidelines, one man and one woman in marriage. Outside of God’s guidelines, sex only leads to ugliness and death (Proverbs 5:11-14).

Whenever God says a negative He always has a positive purpose behind it. It is not to cause you pain. It is for your protection. God says when you play by the rules you win. God says "You shall not commit adultery."

Nothing destroys a family faster than adultery. God says this is My protection plan. I don’t want you committing adultery.

God invented sex. What a great God. But like everything it must be controlled and limited. All of God’s gifts have limitations. God has given us the gift of water. You can’t live without water. But too much of it and you’ll drown. God has given us fire. Fire can either warm you or burn you.

God says I’ve given you a drive called sex. Properly controlled and expressed within marriage it’s beautiful and fantastic. But outside of marriage it is destructive and detrimental to your health -- emotionally, spiritually, in every way.

God wants us to use sex as a tool for building a marriage not to destroy it (Hebrews 13:5).

It’s easier to get married than to stay married. In Red Lake area there are permissive values that basically say anything goes. Sex is used to sell everything from cars to toothpaste. The media bombards us. We don’t stand a chance of remaining pure unless we follow God’s guidelines for our lives. Readers Digest did a study and said fifty percent of all husbands and probably 35% of all wives have committed adultery. This is happening even among Christians. The Bible say adultery is a trap.

Today were looking at six steps on how to affair proof your marriage.

1. MAKE A COMMITMENT TO GOD’S STANDARDS.

Regardless of your past, regardless of your failures say today, I’m going to make a commitment to maintain God’s standards. That means I agree with God about what He says about sex. God’s standards have never, ever changed. The Bible says that sex is for marriage only -- not before marriage, not outside of marriage. Marriage is for one man for one woman. That is in our constitution, will be on the WEBSITE, and our messages.

Ps. 119:9 "How can a person keep his way pure?" The answer is by living according to..." culture. No! but "by living according to Your word." God’s standard is very clear in His word.

Adultery is never OK, there is no justification for it, no matter what your background is. Joseph in the Old Testament was seduced by Potipher’s wife; he had every reason in the world to give in to that temptation - - I’m young, I’m single, I’m in a foreign country, it’s an acceptable practice in this society, she wants it, my desires want it, I’ve been abused, my mother died when I was young, my father was over-indulgent to me, my brothers hated me and sold me into slavery – sound like a dysfunctional family, Joseph was deprived of love. Instead he said "I will not sin against my God." The Bible says when he was tempted he turned and ran. The Bible gives us this example because like Joseph we need to run.