Desperate Marriages Series

Desperate Marriages

CenterPointe Christian Church

11/13/05

Special Note: This message was built completely around a wedding. We perfomed a mock wedding while pausing to preach at specific moments. This is the whole service. We decorated, had a young couple get married, dressed and all. If interested in more detail e-mail me at brian@mycpointe.com. Very well received by our congregation.

Prelude Music on CD

Narration 1 – Introduction (KEVIN)

Remember when you first fell in love? Remember how you gushed over her, bought her flowers, and took her on dates? Remember how you wanted to share every moment with him and thought he was the best man on earth? Most of us have been there. So we decide to get hitched, settle down, tie the knot…we decide to get married. We make grand plans of what the wedding day will be like. What will we wear? What will we say? Where will we go? We spend months and months and months planning for that one big day, but what about the days, weeks, months, and years to follow? How much time do we spend planning what that will be like? Unfortunately, we can get so caught up in preparing for the wedding that we overlook preparing for the marriage. Now, you’d rather go out with the guys than with your girl, the only flowers you buy are for a day of yard work, and the only dates in your life are shriveled up fruits. If you have to spend another minute together it might be your last, and you wonder if you’d want him if he were the last man on earth. It’s an understatement that our households are desperate. So we’re going to take a step back in time. We’re going to revisit the big day – to look more closely at the things we said and did. Hopefully we will gain some new insight to what we were supposed to be doing. I better go, the ceremony is starting.

I Will Be Here – (Matt Hamyln)

Lighting of Candles: 2 of the ushers

Bridal March:

Dave Kujak on Keyboard

Jim & Charlie Stand up from front row

Aimee enters from back

Welcome – Jim Acquisto & Wedding Party

We warmly welcome each of you to this joyful occasion of the marriage of Charlie Keller and Aimee Hayden.

The Lord God has said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh.’ For this reason a man will leave his Father and Mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” (Gen. 2:18, 22-24).

Teaching #1: God’s plan for marriage (BRIAN)

The pastor was visiting the fourth-grade Sunday School class to talk about marriage as part of the lesson. He asked the class, "What does God say about marriage?" Immediately one boy replied, "Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do."

Did you know what you were doing when you got married?

So many of us went into it blindly, rather clueless.

But we don’t have to be clueless.

So here we are at the marriage altar. What a beautiful scene. So elegant and formal….so well planned and prepared. Many hours have gone into this day.

• She is imagining how she must look to the wedding guests in her lovely dress.

• He is trying to figure out how they make those rented wedding shoes of his so shiny.

• She is concerned that the music didn’t start at the exact right time.

• He is concerned that half the football game will be over before he can get to a radio and get an update on the score.

• She wants them to light the unity candle at the exact same time.

• He wants to know how big he could make the flame on the candle lighter

They are two different people…

Marriage – what an interesting concept. (God really has a sense of humor.)

You take two people – Male and Female who are completely opposite and bring them together to become one. IN MARRIAGE

Why marriage?

MARRIAGE WAS DESIGNED TO MEET THE FIRST PROBLEM OF THE HUMAN RACE: LONELINESS

“And the Lord God said, It is not good for the man to be alone ….” (Gen.2:18-22)

• Man was made for fellowship and not for isolation.

• Picture Adam in this beautiful environment - he had the fellowship of God and the company of the birds and the animals, yet he was alone.

• God saw that this was “not good”. So God created woman - a perfect solution for overcoming the man’s loneliness. Our wise and loving Creator made another creature, like Adam, yet wondrously unlike him.