Coping With Criticism Series

COPING WITH CRITICISM

II CORINTHIANS 10:10

INTRODUCTION: All of us have our critics. It’s a reality. To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing and be nothing. It has been said that “Criticisms are the nails which keep us on the cross dead to self.” Dr. W. Matt Tomlin said, “Pay more attention to the critic than the criticism.” That’s pretty good advice.

When dealing with critics and criticism keep in mind three things.

I. The Origin of Criticism

Paul’s critics were undermining his credentials and trying to weaken his influence. Refer to Phil. 1:15, II Tim. 4:9-18. Paul knew the emotional pain that comes from rejection, rumors and railings.

From where does criticism come? Not all of it comes from Satan. There are those who are constructive critics. They seek to help us. All of us have blind spots and some critics can aid us.

But most of us would agree that most criticism comes from destructive sources. Consider five types of people who are the most likely to be critics.

A. The frustrated person: C.H. Spurgeon wrote, “Who has not, under temporary irritation, said that of another which he has afterwards regretted.”

B. The insecure person: These are people with a low self-esteem whose way of compensation is to bring everyone down to the level they feel.

C. The jealous person: These operate from a sense of rivalry.

D. The perfectionist person: These are critical of themselves and everyone around them.

E. The rebellious person: These are critical of authority.

II. The Consequences of Criticism

Look at the potential results. Criticism can:

A. Discourage us: See Ecc. 7:21-22. Spurgeon in his book Lectures to my Students wrote, “Every pastor should have one blind eye and one deaf ear.” You can’t stop people’s tongues but you can stop your ears!

B. Distract us: Jesus was often strongly criticized but he never let his critics dictate or distract his ministry.

C. Drive us: See Psalm 55:22. Let it drive us to prayer, humility, growth and self-evaluation.

III. The Response to Criticism

A. Don’t be an extremist: If you bend to every critic you will try to please everyone. If you never listen you may miss some benefits from helpful criticism. Some critics are right! They are credible. Some have no clue to what they are saying and shouldn’t be given much attention.

B. Stick to your purpose: God’s purpose is the most important thing.

C. Pray for your critics: Avoid a critical spirit. Be bigger than your critic. Pray for them.

D. Don’t let the critic steal your joy: See John 15:11. No one can take your joy unless you surrender it.

CONCLUSION: All of us face criticism and all of us have played the role of a critic. Even those criticizing will be criticized! There was only one perfect man who walked the face of the Earth. They not only criticized Him they crucified Him! Don’t let the “critics” get to you.