Best Freinds Series

More importantly, consider that Jesus said he would do anything we ask for in his name. What is it you need the most? You may not even know, but Jesus does. Ask him to fill that need and he will do it.

Asking Jesus to bless you and meet your needs is not as selfish as it may sound. A person who has their needs met in Jesus is an incredible witness to the might and love of our awesome God. And a person who is not having their needs met by Jesus, is having them met by someone else - - - and that’s idolatry!!

On the flip side of the coin, would you do anything your friend Jesus asked of you? What kind of friend are you to Jesus. He gave his life for you, the very least you can do is offer him the same in return – no strings attached.

2. BEST FRIENDS SHARE A UNIQUE AFFECTION (1 Samuel 20:41)

So there’s this “mutual attention” component to real friendship. But friendship is so much more than that.

I’ve often admired the mate-ship that’s found among soldiers. I imagine that entrusting your life into the hands of your mates while in the heat of battle is an experience that forges incredibly strong friendships. You’ve faced death together, and may even owe your life to one another.

There seems to be a realness and an honesty in these kinds of friendships that’s hard to find anywhere else.

And this is what we see between David and Jonathan. They shared a unique affection that was real and honest.

After the boy had gone, David got up from the south side of the stone and bowed down before Jonathan three times, with his face to the ground. Then they kissed each other and wept together--but David wept the most (1 Samuel 20:41).

Now let’s get something straight – these guys were not bent! They weren’t Gay. In fact, this was the last time they saw each other. Some in the Gay movement have tried to use this relationship to suggest that the Bible endorses homosexuality. The trouble is, there’s nothing here to suggest that they were Gay. We have to remember that David and Jonathan are of middle eastern origin and this level of affection between men is a common non-sexual means of showing affection – similar to the way Italians or Greeks might kiss each cheek.

What we have here are two kindred spirits. They were mates who had a lot in common – both were soldiers, both were impulsive, equally brave, both leaders of men and both were convinced that God was behind Israel – so they also shared a common spirituality.

There seems to be a realness and an honesty in their friendship that’s hard to find anywhere these days. But if we want to build, strengthen and continue our own friendships today then we must try to develop this kind of emotional connection.

And this is where the church can come into it’s own in our generation. The church is a group of people where real, honest and loving friendships should be the norm. Sometimes Believers will stop at being just friendly on a Sunday but don’t darken the doorstep of each-other’s lives during the week.

But the Bible doesn’t teach us to behave that way. The Bible teaches us that we need each other – both for our own personal growth and for the growth of the kingdom.