5 Foundations To Build A Blessed Family

5 FOUNDATIONS TO BUILD A BLESSED FAMILY

INTRODUCTION - Many buildings that look strong on the outside develop cracks and some collapse, due to the foundation being weak. Bad foundations produce bad buildings! It’s no different with building a blessed family. Didn’t the Lord Jesus Himself give us the parable of the house on the Rock and the one on sand (Matthew 7:24-27)? The house on the Rock stood firm because it had the right foundation. It is therefore vitally important that the right foundations undergird how we build our families, more so because Christian families are under severe attack from the forces of darkness..

That brings me to the main thought for today’s sermon.

PROPOSITION – Lay the right foundations for your family to be blessed.

In this message, I would like to share what I believe are 5 vital foundations for building a blessed family. They are:

1) THE FOUNDATION OF A HUSBAND/FATHER WHO ACTS AS THE SPIRITUAL LEADER

The scriptures tell us the husband is the head (Priest) of the home (Ephesians 5:23). He therefore needs to set the spiritual temperature in the family. This vital role cannot be delegated to the wife. The husband needs to direct the spiritual course of the home through teaching, prayer & example (Deuteronomy 4:9). The family is blessed when the husband takes on this responsibility. Sadly, the Bible has many examples of fathers who failed in this area (Eli, Samuel, David etc).

A family is also blessed when a man learns to graciously love his wife (Ephesians 5:25, 33) and children (Colossians 3:21) in spite of their weaknesses, because that’s how Christ loves His bride, the church (Ephesians 5:25-27, 29). Therefore, let’s respond quickly to their need in times of struggle & illness. I once heard a man of God say, 'One of the best examples of a Spirit filled man is one who lovingly cares for his wife with tenderness'!

Men, let’s remember that there are 3 times more verses for men than for the ladies in the teachings on family in Ephesians 5! As we approach the Christmas Season, a good example for us to emulate is Joseph, Mary's husband and our Lord’s earthly father. He heard from God (Matthew 1:20-21), he had character (righteous- Matthew 1:19), took great care of his wife (Matthew 1:24-25) and handled crisis situations with dignity (Matthew 1:19). To add to it, he taught Jesus spiritual principles (Luke 2:41).

Friend, when was the last time you led prayer at home? The last time you taught God's Word to your children? When did you last lay hands and pray over them prophetically (Genesis 48:14)? Have you spent quality time instructing them in God’s way?

Illustration – A mother was trying to teach her little daughter to say ‘thank you’ when receiving a gift. After instructing her, she gave her a glass of milk and asked, ‘Now, what should baby say?’ The daughter raised her glass and said, ‘Cheers’!

Children will follow our example! Father/Husband, let’s give godly leadership in our homes and that applies to me as well!

2) THE FOUNDATION OF A WIFE/MOTHER WHO IS OF NOBLE CHARACTER

The family is blessed when the wife is a woman of prayer, caring & character; one who is always available and willing to be submissive (Ephesians 5: 22-24). Proverbs 31 shows the finer qualities of such a lady. 1 Pet 3:1-4 speaks of the value of her having inner beauty.

Wives, your prayers and character will carry your husband and children through difficult times. I have found that to be so true in our own family. Such a wife will create a culture of beauty in the home. However, a nagging wife is strongly rebuked in the scriptures (Proverbs 21: 9,19)!

Illustration - A lady came late to church one day and quickly sent up a written prayer request on behalf of her husband to the Pastor, as he was walking to the pulpit to preach. It said, ‘Husband gone to sea: wife requests prayer for protection’. In his haste the Pastor read it as, ‘Husband gone to see wife; requests prayer for protection’!

Wives, prayerfully allow God to bring out all the beauty He has placed inside of you!!

3) THE FOUNDATION OF BLESSED CHILDREN

Children brought up in the fear of the Lord will be blessed by the Lord and they will be a blessing to their families, specially their parents, in return (Psalm 127:5). They will also learn to serve God from a young age. The Bible says, ”Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it” (Proverbs 22:6). I once heard a Pastor clarify that this verse refers to Spiritual training, and not to potty training!!!

Some of the promises of God for the future of our children are as follows: