Overcoming Jealousy And Envy Series

OVERCOMING JEALOUSY AND ENVY

By Rev. Samuel Arimoro

Main Text: James 3:16

"For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work."

Supporting Texts: Galatians 5:19-21; Proverbs 14:30; 1 Corinthians 3:3; Genesis 4:4-8; 1 Peter 2:1

INTRODUCTION:

Jealousy and envy are toxic emotions that have the power to destroy relationships, stifle progress, and open the door to various forms of evil. While jealousy is the fear of losing something you have to someone else, envy is the resentment you feel when someone else has something you desire. Both are rooted in insecurity and pride.

The Bible strongly warns against allowing jealousy and envy to thrive in our hearts. These emotions not only damage our connection with others but also grieve the Spirit of God and hinder spiritual growth. Left unchecked, they can turn even the most gifted believer into a bitter and unfruitful vessel.

In this teaching, we will examine the destructive nature of jealousy and envy, how to identify their roots, and practical steps we can take through the help of the Holy Spirit to overcome them and live in love, contentment, and humility.

1. RECOGNISE THE DANGER OF JEALOUSY AND ENVY

You must first admit that these emotions are destructive and displeasing to God.

a) They Lead to Confusion and Evil Works.

Jealousy opens the door to all kinds of sins (James 3:16).

b) They Are Works of the Flesh.

They war against the Spirit (Galatians 5:19-21).

c) They Destroy Relationships and Fellowship.

They produce division and strife (1 Corinthians 3:3).

d) They Cause Bitterness of Soul.

A heart full of envy becomes poisoned (Proverbs 14:30).

Biblical Example: Cain's envy led to the murder of his brother Abel (Genesis 4:4-8).

2. CULTIVATE CONTENTMENT AND GRATITUDE

A grateful and content heart has no room for envy.

a) Rejoice in What God Has Given You.

Contentment brings peace (1 Timothy 6:6).

b) Focus on Your Unique Calling and Purpose.

You are not in competition with others (Romans 12:6).

c) Celebrate the Success of Others.

Rejoice with those who rejoice (Romans 12:15).

d) Trust God's Timing for Your Life.

His plans for you are good (Jeremiah 29:11).

Biblical Example: Jonathan celebrated David’s rise and remained loyal despite his own potential (1 Samuel 18:1-4).

3. GUARD YOUR HEART AND MIND

You must be intentional in keeping your heart clean from jealousy.

a) Be Honest with Yourself and God.

Confess jealousy as sin (Psalm 139:23-24).

b) Renew Your Mind Daily.

The Word of God transforms your thinking (Romans 12:2).

c) Avoid Comparisons.

Comparison leads to inferiority or pride (2 Corinthians 10:12).

d) Replace Jealousy with Love.

Love does not envy (1 Corinthians 13:4).

Biblical Example: The Pharisees envied Jesus’ influence and sought to destroy Him (Mark 15:10).

4. DEPEND ON THE HOLY SPIRIT FOR INNER TRANSFORMATION

Only the Holy Spirit can change a heart bound by envy.

a) Yield Daily to the Holy Spirit.

He produces the fruit of love, joy, and peace (Galatians 5:22-23).

b) Ask for Help in Prayer.

God helps those who humble themselves (Psalm 51:10).

c) Allow God to Heal Insecurity and Wounds.

Many times, jealousy stems from inner hurts (Isaiah 61:1).

d) Walk in the Spirit, Not in the Flesh.

Fleshly emotions must be crucified (Galatians 5:24-25).

Biblical Example: Joseph forgave his jealous brothers and blessed them (Genesis 50:20-21).

5. PRACTICE HUMILITY AND SERVANTHOOD

True greatness is found in serving others with a humble heart.

a) Be Secure in Who You Are in Christ.

Your identity is rooted in Him (Ephesians 1:3-6).

b) See Others Through God's Eyes.

Everyone is valuable in God's sight (Philippians 2:3).

c) Find Joy in Lifting Others Up.

Help others succeed (Galatians 6:2).

d) Resist the Urge to Compete Carnally.

There is room for everyone in God's Kingdom (John 3:30).

Biblical Example: Jesus washed His disciples’ feet, modelling humility (John 13:12-17).

CONCLUSION:

Jealousy and envy are deadly poisons to the soul, yet many entertain them unknowingly. As children of God, we must rise above these emotions by renewing our minds, depending on the Holy Spirit, and finding joy in God’s blessings in our lives and in the lives of others.

God’s Kingdom thrives on love, unity, and humility—not competition and resentment. When we overcome jealousy and envy, we become vessels of peace, joy, and divine favour.

PRAYER POINTS:

1. Lord, deliver me from every spirit of jealousy and envy.

2. Father, help me to be content with Your plan for my life.

3. Let my heart be filled with love and compassion for others.

4. Holy Spirit, renew my mind and cleanse me from every wrong attitude.

5. Use me to encourage and celebrate the success of others.