A Successful Marriage Depends On Wisdom Of God. Series

“By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established; through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures.”(Proverbs 24:4)

From Genesis to Revelation the Bible often uses the word house to refer to the smallest and most basic unit of society—the family. Knowledge is critical for success and survival in anything. If you desire a successful marriage you have to learn to operate by wisdom. Bible also says “For the LORD gives wisdom; from his mouth come knowledge and understanding.”(Proverbs 2:6) “Unless the LORD builds the house, the builder’s labor in vain. (Ps. 127:1) God is the Divine Builder. “For every house is built by someone, but God is the builder of everything.” (Hebrews 3:4) God’s Word gives some specific plans for building a great relationship between husband and wife. It begins and ends with God’s wisdom. Wisdom is the foundation on which a house must be built. It is the great principle on which all other principles must be founded. But what is this wisdom? Proverbs 9:10 says, “The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom, and knowledge of the Holy One is understanding.”

Book of Proverbs signifying that homes are built with three primary tools: wisdom, understanding and knowledge. Wisdom is the ability to perceive with discernment, to view life as God sees it. Wisdom is application. Understanding is the skill to bring together the elements of life so that one can respond to it or live it with insight. Understanding is comprehension. Knowledge is learning, discovering, growing and living with an eternal perspective. Knowledge is information. In Hosea 4:6a God says, “My people are destroyed from lack of knowledge.” The greatest knowledge of all is the knowledge God. God designed marriage for success, and only His counsel can make it successful. Look at Proverbs 21:30 “There is no wisdom or understanding or counsel against the Lord.”

Marriage is still a good idea because it is God’s idea. He created it. He designed it. He established it and defined its parameters. Marriage is not a human concept. Mankind did not simply dream up marriage somewhere along the line as a convenient way of handling relationships and responsibilities between men and women or dealing with childbearing and parenting issues. Marriage is of divine origin. God Himself instituted and ordained marriage at the very beginning of human history. The second chapter of Genesis describes how God, taking a rib from the side of the man He had already created, fashioned from it a woman to be a “suitable helper” (Gen. 2:20) for the man. Then God brought the man and the woman together and confirmed their relationship as husband and wife, thereby ordaining the institution of marriage. When God created man and woman, He created them to complement each other. He indicated this when He said "It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him" (Genesis 2:18). God formed woman to round out man's incompleteness, so that physically, socially, emotionally, intellectually, and even spiritually, male and female would not be rivals, but mates.

The world’s first wedding took place in the Garden of Eden. There God ordained and sanctified the marriage of the man and woman whom He had created. Chapters 1 and 2 of Genesis portray marriage in its ideal state as God designed it, where Adam and Eve enjoyed a relationship characterized by peace, harmony, and equality, along with continual, unbroken fellowship with their Creator. Genesis chapter 3 presents a starkly different picture: Sin has shattered the harmony of the human couple’s relationship with each other and destroyed their fellowship with God.

Genesis chapters 1 and 2 picture family before the fall, as God designed it. Chapter 3 reveals what family became after the fall, as the world corrupted it. Inside the garden Adam and Eve enjoy mutual love, respect, and equality; outside the garden they experienced the broken relationship within the family. Inside the garden they share the same spirit, the Spirit of God; outside the garden the presence of God has departed and they are like self serving and strangers to each other. Inside the garden they are united in spirit and in flesh; outside the garden all they have is broken family. Chapters 1 and 2 portray family “inside the garden that is God’s presence,” while chapter 3 shows family “outside the garden without God’s presence.”

God established marriage as a permanent relationship, the union of two separate people—a man and a woman—into “one flesh.” When Adam first laid eyes on Eve he exclaimed, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man” (Gen. 2:23,). God’s design for marriage is found in the very next verse: “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife and they will become one flesh” (Gen. 2:24). When God ordained that the man and the woman should “become one flesh” He plainly had a permanent, lifelong relationship in mind. The Pharisees asked Jesus if it was lawful for a man to divorce his wife, pointing out that Moses had permitted it in the law. “It was because your hearts were hard that Moses wrote you this law,” Jesus replied. “But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female. ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one. “What therefore God has joined together let no man separate.” (Mark 10:5-9).