Oops I Didn't Know We Couldn't Talk About... Sex Series

“Oops I Didn’t Know We Couldn’t Talk About… Sex”

Breaking Free from Sexual Pressure

Brian A. Moon

How’s everybody doing tonight? I hope you are doing good and that you all had a great week because tonight we are going to talk about something that some of you might not have ever heard even mentioned in a church… Tonight we are going to talk about sex… “baby, lets talk about you and me, lets talk about all the good things and…” Ok enough singing!

Tonight we begin a brand new series called “Breaking Free” and I hope you will make a commitment right now to being at each week of this series because it will radically change your life. Some of you are like “Dude Brian my life is fine why would I want to change it?” Well let me ask you all a question… How many of you like to be trapped in or help down by something? You know like when you were a little kid and your big brother or sister held you down on the ground and tickled you until you couldn’t take it anymore. Or, maybe when your parents told you that you could not go out tonight and do that thing you wanted to do so badly. We hate that feeling of being trapped and held back, we are creatures of freedom, we like to be free! Well here is the deal, there are a lot of things in the world, that I am going to call junk for the rest of tonight, that try to hold us down and trap us in. Today more than any other time the pressures of sexual temptation, negative thinking, substance abuse, and bad associations are being forced down each of our throats. You flip on the TV or open a magazine down at the hair cut place and BOOM it is adds for dog food with some girl wearing a t-shirt made for a 4 year old and shorts that make Daisy Duke look like a Nun.

The other day I was sitting on my couch and I was watching a little TV before bed and all of a sudden “Da Da… What is sexy…” and the Victoria Secret models come strutting out in the latest lingerie.

You all know what I am talking about and you have experienced the same pressures to jump in head first and experience all the junk that world has to offer.

For some of us we have experienced these things and we are like “Hey I like drinking and I like sex” and you know those things can both give us a sense of pleasure but they also can trap you in and hold you down. We all have, or I promise you, will feel this felling of empty entrapment when this junk does not meet our needs. We try to stop, but the junk has us pinned to the ground like the school bully and it will not let you up no matter how hard you try!!!

But there is hope and that is why this series is going to be so awesome we will learn how to “Break Free” from the junk and tonight particularly how to break free from sexual pressure. As we have talked about there is intense pressure to be sexually active today before you are married and since most of us in the room are still single this applies to you guys so listen up! If you are not sexually active right now the world tells you that you are weird and missing out… “What are you waiting for?” Why should you wait before you mate? Well that is what we are going to talk about and the first place to begin to “Break Free” from the sexual pressure of the world is to understand that:

Sex is a gift

That’s right sex is a gift from God! Here is a statement that would really wake up a Sunday morning crowd at most churches… God loves sex!!! I can just see the old ladies blushing and the elders running to grab the speaker with duct tape for his mouth.

But seriously, God loves sex and he wants each of us to enjoy it to its fullest degree.

The Bible says, “Bless your fresh-flowing fountain! Enjoy the wife you married as a young man! Lovely as an angel, beautiful as a rose-- don’t ever quit taking delight in her body. Never take her love for granted!” Proverbs 5:18-19 MSG

Don’t ever quit taking delight in her body!!! That sounds like a good thing to me! God loves sex, and he designed it for our enjoyment! God wants us to be able to share the passion, the connection, the desire, the pleasure, the total abandonment of time and space that comes from sex. The problem is that while we are growing up lets say in the church first, we hear don’t have sex, don’t have sex, don’t have sex or you are a terrible person… We hear those things and we are programmed to think that God must hate sex and that it is a disgustingly evil practice only intended for continuing the human race. Now let’s look at growing up outside of the church.