IF I COULD JUST CHANGE A FEW THINGS...
Gary Smalley states, "Most couples enter marriage hoping to achieve happiness. And for each of us, that vision of happiness takes a different form...Disappointment hits most couples shortly after the wedding because each partner begins to see faults and chinks in the armor of the other...so your goal of finding happiness in your soul mate must be put aside until you change your spouse into the person you want him or her to be. You buy into the myth that will not die--that if your mate would change just a few key things, your marriage would be great”
(I Promise, pages 108-109)