The Most Important Ingredient In Marriage.

The most important ingredient in marriage.

Mark 10:1-9

First, What God

It is hard for us to understand some words that are said in most weddings. The reason could be we are in a rush to experience the joy of the one we love and are not focusing on the words we say or we are agreeing with.

The words I write of are ‘What God has put together let no man put asunder.’ This sentence starts with the most important ingredient in our life and our marriage. What God. Alone these two words make a questioning statement of intent. What God? As if replying to the call of God into marriage. What, God, do you want us to do. What, God, do you want this family to become?

These words also make the questioning foundational statement of our holy union into matrimony. What God, do we believe in as we become one. Most people never seek to ask this question of themselves or their spouse. What God do we serve?

As we stand before the preacher or justice of the peace, what God are we calling upon to support the marriage? Is it the God of self, the God of plenty, or the God that created us all? If it is indeed the last, then we need to trust him to guide us in our relationship with each other. We must trust him to order the steps of the righteous man or woman in our life. We must trust that all thing will work together for the good of those that love the Lord according to God’s purpose, not ours.

Second, Put Together

The scripture clearly states that the man and the wife shall become one. ‘For Adam no suitable helper was found. So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.’ We are put together. God put Adam to sleep, took a rib from his side, and created woman. We are put back together when we marry our spouse.

Nevertheless, this put together is not with two heads and two bodies. This put together is a spiritual union into the ordered family structure of being one in God. Adam said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ’woman,’ for she was taken out of man. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. This structure is the way God sees the family. Unfortunately, it might not be as the world or we would like the family structure to be. It is formed the way God has it in heaven.

The Lord’s Prayer make a dramatic statement here. Thy kingdom come on earth as it is in heaven. Everything God created here for us is a replica of heaven. We will be married to, put together with Christ. Here is the hard part. If I do not love and take care of my wife on earth how can I say I love Jesus in heaven. If I can not love and obey my husband on earth how can I say I love Jesus in heaven. What God put together was put together for a reason. We need the practice before we get to heaven. Regardless how we believe about it, God will control His house in heaven

Third, Let no man put asunder

In some cases, medical science has done marvelous miracles with much needed reconstructive surgery. However, we have been fooled by the opinions of the world. We think we need to look different than we were created. Therefore, we spend alarming amounts of money on needless plastic surgery. We think God did not know how to make us. The reason why our world continues to spin out of control is man constantly thinks he is smarter than the God that created him.

In some case science has preformed wonderful miracles with preserving the food we consume long enough for it to reach our cabinet shelves. They have contributed to the increase distribution of much needed food and the decrease in hunger all over the world. Nevertheless, the manna God has given us to eat, we pollute with needless preservatives and additives hoping to keep it for a lifetime. We poison the flesh we eat with over abundant amounts of antibiotics and other growth drugs, then serve it to the world. We wonder why we have so many ailments and illness.

Sometimes as we look at the person, we call our spouse we think that we would be happier somewhere else. However, all things work together for the good of those that love the lord according to God’s purpose. We sometimes think to ourselves, only if they would change and things would be better. Nevertheless, they were created in the image and likeness of God and not us. As we enter, continue, or dissolve our marriages, we need first to seek out the wisdom of God. We need to know the reason why God has called us to form this God ordered union of two into one. We need to understand what happens spiritual when we put asunder what God has joined.