The Art Physical Attraction Series

Today we see this same type of thinking in the typical fundamentalist youth group or church ideology: They preach against attraction and sex so much, that in the minds of the students and congregation members, sex becomes synonymous with being dirty, nasty, vile, evil and wrong……. Then they say: So save it for the one you love! ….Really? NO! NO! If it’s that bad then why would we, why would they ever want to save if for the one they love? If it’s bad why respect it?

No! We need to teach that attraction and sex are good! So good you don’t want to mess your future sex-life up by not understanding God’s plan! Parents, your kids need to know that you are attracted to each other and that that is a good thing! They need to see what good healthy biblical attraction is! So they will respect sex! So they will want to have the best sex possible—which is only available to them in a committed relationship. SEX is a gift from God. Like all gifts, from God it should be treasured, enjoyed, celebrated and cultivated in committed marriage.

You know there are Christian couples out there that have grown up hearing sex is bad so much, that they feel bad about being attracted to each other and guilty about enjoying each other in an intimate way in their marriage. They do it quick to get it over with. They only do it with the lights out ‘cause they’ve been taught that it is bad. They know they should think differently about it but it takes years for them to overcome the negatives that have been pounded in their head. We need to teach people sex is so good, so spiritual, you don’t want to mess it up, so you will be attracted to your spouse in the best way possible when you get married!

Be Physically Attracted/Attractive to Your Spouse…

If attraction is permissible and desirable then by all means be attracted to and attractive for your spouse or fiancé(e). Look at verse 3. The woman says: “Pleasing is the fragrance of your perfumes.” Let me stop there. She is saying that her fiancé smells good, that he takes the time to be attractive for her!

Men, if you want to be attractive to your wives, if you want her to say let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth, if you want her to think your lovemaking is intoxicating Brush your teeth and put on some deodorant! Wear some cologne too! Let your wife pick it out for you! It doesn’t matter what you think you smell like! It matters what she thinks! Right? Guys don’t were the old comfortable jeans with the holes in them or the sweats you love every day when you get home. Make effort. Look nice. You tried, key word tried, to look good when you were dating. Why not try to look good every once and a while now. You all know I hate to wear a tie, but from time to time I will put one on to please my wife!

Women, same goes for you! Don’t quit trying just because you’ve got him. Don’t take him for granted by not caring how you look. If you needed makeup when you were dating, then use some makeup today. If you have an outfit he likes wear it every once and a while. You may not like it but he does. Show your husband you care by looking good for him every once and a while like you did when you were dating!