Resolving Conflict As Christians

Introduction

Good morning, beloved brothers and sisters in Christ.

Today, we are going to discuss a topic that is vital to our witness as believers: how Christians should settle conflicts or disputes.

Conflict is an inevitable part of life, but how we handle it can either glorify God or hinder our testimony.

In this sermon, let us explore biblical principles for resolving conflicts, focusing on the idea that Christians should not allow non-believers to judge them.

Main Scripture: 1 Corinthians 6:1-6

"If any of you has a dispute with another, do you dare to take it before the ungodly for judgment instead of before the Lord’s people? Or do you not know that the Lord’s people will judge the world? And if you are to judge the world, are you not competent to judge trivial cases? Do you not know that we will judge angels? How much more the things of this life! Therefore, if you have disputes about such matters, do you ask for a ruling from those whose way of life is scorned in the church? I say this to shame you. Is it possible that there is nobody among you wise enough to judge a dispute between believers? But instead, one brother takes another to court—and this in front of unbelievers!" — 1 Corinthians 6:1-6 (NIV)

1. Biblical Principles for Resolving Conflicts

The Bible provides clear guidance on how Christians should approach conflict resolution. The foundation of these principles is love, humility, and the pursuit of peace.

Scripture: Matthew 18:15-17

In Matthew 18:15-17 (NIV), Jesus outlines a step-by-step process for addressing conflicts: "If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that 'every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.' If they still refuse to listen, tell it to the church; and if they refuse to listen even to the church, treat them as you would a pagan or a tax collector."

Illustration: The Good Shepherd

Consider the parable of the Good Shepherd (John 10:1-18). The shepherd knows his sheep and seeks to restore any that are lost.

Our goal in times of conflicts should be restoration and reconciliation, not winning an argument.

Application:

- Seek Private Resolution: Address conflicts privately first, aiming for reconciliation and understanding.

- Involve Witnesses: If private resolution fails, involve wise and impartial witnesses to help mediate.

- Church Involvement: As a last resort, bring the issue before the church leadership for guidance and resolution.

2. Christians Should Not Allow Non-Believers to Judge Them

Paul's admonition in 1 Corinthians 6:1-6 emphasizes that believers should resolve disputes within the Christian community rather than seeking judgment from non-believers. This is because the values and wisdom of the world often conflict with biblical principles.

Scripture: 1 Corinthians 6:5

Paul writes, "Is it possible that there is nobody among you wise enough to judge a dispute between believers?"

This rhetorical question underscores the expectation that the church should have the wisdom and discernment to handle internal conflicts.

Illustration: A Family Matter

Imagine a family disagreement. Most families prefer to resolve issues within the family rather than airing their dirty laundry to outsiders.

Similarly, the church is a family, and we should strive to handle our disputes internally to maintain unity and uphold our witness to the world.

Application:

- Trust in Godly Wisdom: Believe that God has equipped the church with the necessary wisdom to resolve conflicts.

- Protect Your Witness: Avoid taking disputes to secular courts, which may not uphold biblical values, and could harm the church's reputation.

- Encourage Wise Leadership: Promote the development of wise and discerning leaders within the church who can mediate and resolve conflicts effectively.

3. The Role of Forgiveness and Reconciliation

At the heart of Christian conflict resolution is forgiveness and the pursuit of reconciliation. To hold grudges or to seek revenge is contrary to the teachings of Christ.

Scripture: Colossians 3:13

"Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you." — Colossians 3:13 (NIV)

Illustration: The Prodigal Son

The parable of the Prodigal Son (Luke 15:11-32) beautifully illustrates forgiveness and reconciliation. The father eagerly forgives and restores his wayward son, exemplifying the heart of God towards us and how we should treat one another.

Application:

- Forgive Freely: Be willing to forgive others, recognizing how much Christ has forgiven you.

- Seek Reconciliation: Aim to restore relationships, not just resolve conflicts.

- Practice Humility: Approach conflicts with a humble heart, willing to admit faults and seek forgiveness.

4. The Importance of Peacemaking

Jesus calls His followers to be peacemakers, actively seeking to create and maintain peace in their relationships and communities.