Real Help For Families-Obstructions

Php 4:4 Rejoice in the Lord alway: and again I say, Rejoice.

Php 4:5 Let your moderation be known unto all men. The Lord is at hand.

Php 4:6 Be careful (anxious) for nothing; but in every thing by prayer (earnest worship prayer) and supplication (asking) with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.

Careful - concern or worry respecting some event, future or uncertain, which disturbs the mind, and keeps it in a state of painful uneasiness. it usually springs from fear or serious apprehension of evil

Php 4:7 And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts (thoughts feelings) and minds through Christ Jesus.

Peace – restful freedom from aggravation and disturbance, the prosperity of the Lord

Minds – inclination purpose state of mind ex. Depression, anger etc. how mind is excercised

Php 4:8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

Php 4:9 Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you.

Obstructions that block you from healthy and happy relationships.

1- Everyday stress - a state that arises from an imbalance between demand and capability. You must accomplish something and you do not know how or do not possess the tools you need. On the avg. 60% of Americans report feeling great stress at least once a week. When we constantly push ourselves to the limit emotionally, stress is magnified and hurts our relationships. If someone is stressed out easily and they quickly can go into anger mode something must be dealt with.

2- Satanic Assault – The path of marriage has been forged by God. God has always intended marriage to be a stronghold of honor companionship and love. Any deviation from Gods plan is something that has to be corrected. Eph 5:29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

Eph 5:24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

Eph 5:30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.

Eph 5:31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

Eph 5:32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.

Eph 5:33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence (to be in awe respect) her husband.

Cherish - To treat with tenderness and affection; to give warmth, ease or comfort to. To hold as dear; to embrace with affection; to foster, and encourage; To treat in a manner to encourage growth, by protection, aid, attendance, or supplying nourishment;

To harbor; to indulge and encourage in the mind

The modern day marriage is far from biblical godly principles and precepts. How do we fight off this continual barrage from hell on our homes.

Eph 6:10 be strong in the lord and in the power of his might serve God together, surround yourselves with Godly influences

3- Unrealistic expectations –

a. marriage will complete me – these folks do not realize marriage will not make a broken person whole, you must be whole before you marry.

b. Knight in the shining armor syndrome – the other person will never be moody or have a bad day and will always do what I want.

c. Happily ever after job 14:1 man is of few days and full of trouble

d. Love will keep us together – all you need is love song says

Only divine love conquers all

No one person can fulfill all of your needs, nor will you be the ultimate supplier of all of your spouses needs.

4- Selfishness/sin- I and me are the Gods of today. Marriage was designed to be a team effort. If your relationship is built around just I there is a boundary between you and your spouse but if it is built around us ther is a boundary around us. Me and I are the most poisonous words in marriage.

wives are to be honored according to 1PET 3:7

1Pe 3:7 TLB

You husbands must be careful of your wives, being thoughtful of their needs and honoring them as the weaker sex. Remember that you and your wife are partners in receiving God's blessings, and if you don't treat her as you should, your prayers will not get ready answers.