(2 Sam 13:1-14) "whither shall I cause my shame to go?"
Whether we will admit it or not there is a price to pay for sin.
Tamar knew that even as the VICTIM of a sinful situation, she would have to live with the shame of what had happened to her.
Even the VICTIM of sin has to bear the shame of what the sinful person did to her!
> Tamar knew that she would have to bear the shame of the sin that was done to her!
She said, Amnon, would be as one of the fools in Israel.
This girl knew that there is shame and folly in sin.
> And that even though she would bear the shame, Amnon would be looked on as a fool!
Some people are so ungodly that they have absolutely no shame in their sin.
> They have seared their conscience as with a hot iron!
> They don’t feel guilty at their sin!
> They are not ashamed about it!
> They don’t blush when someone does something in front of them!
Sin has a downward progression even while becoming more acceptable.
When Adam and Eve sinned, they were so afraid that they hid from God.
> They were so afraid they tried to cover up their sin.
One chapter later Cain is murders his brother.
> Mankind progressed from eating the forbidden fruit to murder.
> But, Cain doesn’t hide from God, he just goes about his business as if nothing happened.
Three chapters later, and fewer than ten generations later...
> Men have so corrupted themselves that God decides to destroy every living creature.
> In just nine generations, only 8 people on earth were still faithful to God.
How quickly we get accustomed to sin.
And, how quickly the next generation gets so much more wickeder than the previous.
"There arose a generation that knew not the Lord."
50 years ago homosexuality was perversion...
> Today its an alternate lifestyle.
50 years ago students were disciplined for talking in class, chewing gum, or fighting.
> Today its drugs, rape, and guns.
God hasn’t changed. God still calls sin by name.
> We have changed! And sin has become acceptable.
There was a day in which these things were shameful and hidden.
Jeremiah asked: "Were they ashamed when they had committed abomination? nay, they were not at all ashamed, neither could they blush!
> We are no longer ashamed of sin in ourselves or in others.
> Christians talk of worldly, carnal, sensual things, WITHOUT EVEN BLUSHING?
Tamar, knew what sin would do to her.
> She said, "whither shall I cause my shame to go?"
She knew what sin would do to her abuser.
> She said, "Thou shalt be as one of the fools in Israel".
THE SHAME AND FOLLY OF SIN
I. The King’s Son.
A. Amnon is a type of the Christian.
1. He is a child of the king.
> He is an heir to the kingdom.
> He is loved by his father.
> The picture is of the Christian.
2. Amnon is carnal, but he is still the king’s son.
> Is it possible to be a carnal Christian?
> You know it is...
> Not only is the Bible is full of evidence of the carnal Christian, but look at your own life!
B. Amnon had every reason to live right.
1. Amnon had a reputation (v. 4).
> Amnon was the King’s son.
> He was well favored.
> He had all the silver and gold he could ever want.
> He was royalty.
> He was a prince!
> He could have had any woman in the kingdom, even Tamar (v. 13).
2. Amnon was educated.
> He was no vagabond. He was the king’s son.
> Educated under the very best of teachers.
> He knew the law. He knew the Word of God, therefore it was hard for him to do this sin (v. 2).
3. Amnon had a conscience.
> Amnon would not have overcome his conscience if not for Jonadab’s influence.
II. The Consequences.
A. Sin Dulls the ear.
1. Sin causes the ear to grow dull toward the Word of God.
> Paul said that he had a lot to tell the Hebrew Church about Jesus Christ, but couldn’t...
> "Of whom we have many things to say, and hard to be uttered, seeing ye are dull of hearing."
2. Jesus quotes Isaiah: "The heart of this people is waxed gross, and their ears are dull of hearing."
> SIN DULLS THE EAR!
B. Sin Darkens the eye.
1. Many can no longer see the sin in their life, because the eye has been darkened.
> "Men love darkness rather than light, because their deeds are evil."
2. Amen preacher, Let them have it!
> But, you cannot see how darkened your eyes have become...
> You cannot see your own sin!
C. Sin Diverts the feet.
1. Sin will cause your feet to turn away from God.
> You will not even feel the gradual move away.
2. Sin will lead you places you never thought you would go.
> You will wonder how you ever got there.
> SIN DIVERTS THE FEET.
Dulls the ear...
Darkens the eye...
Diverts the feet...
D. Defiles the tongue.
1. With their tongues they have used deceit, the poison of asps is under their lips.
"The tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity. So is the tongue among our members that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature, and it is set on fire of hell."
2. Some people, for the mere pleasure it gives, will destroy a church, a home, a marriage...
> There is no financial gain.
> There is no spiritual reward.
> The only reason people gossip and slander is for the mere pleasure!
> Its just FUN to destroy homes and churches!
3. What you don’t see is that sin has crept in and has defiled your tongue.
> You are not in control anymore. Your sin has taken over.
> Your tongue has been set on fire, and it is set on fire of hell!
> SIN DEFILES THE TONGUE.
E. Devours the intellect.
1. It makes a fool out of you.
> Do you think Amnon meant to become a fool?
> He was the king’s son. He knew better.
> But sin will make you lose all spiritual insight.
> You become a spiritual ignoramus.
2. Instead of doubting the foolishness of the world, you will doubt God.
> Instead of doubting the gossiping church member, you will doubt the Preacher.
3. Not because of a rational argument, but because of sin.
> Because sin has devoured your intellect, you have become a spiritual moron!
Sin DULLS THE EAR...
DARKENS THE EYE...
DIVERTS THE FEET...
DEFILES THE TONGUE...
DEVOURS THE INTELLECT...
F. Deceives the heart.
1. The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked.
> Sin will make you think you are okay, while in the gutter.
> Sin is deceiving.
2. Wine is a mocker, strong drink is raging, and whosoever is deceived thereby is not wise.
> I don’t see anything wrong with a social drink.
> That’s because Your deceived!
> Jesus drank wine.
> No He did not! Study it out. Jesus made grape juice.
3. I don’t believe that...
> That’s because your deceived!
G. Dooms the soul.
1. "The soul that sinneth it shall die."
> "Sin when it is finished, bringeth forth death."
2. Many will die and go to hell, because of the deceitfulness of sin.
> "For the love of some foolish sin, many will perish."
IF YOU ARE NO LONGER ASHAMED AT YOUR SIN!
It has dulled your ear.
It has darkened your eye.
It has diverted your feet.
It has defiled your tongue.
It has devoured your intellect.
It has deceived your heart.
AND IT WILL DOOM YOUR SOUL!
III. The Instigator (2 Sam. 13:3-5).
A. Sin almost always comes by way of an instigator.
1. There is almost always someone who will entice you toward wickedness.
> "My son, if sinners entice thee, consent thou not!"
> "With her much fair speech she caused him to yield, with the flattering of her lips she forced him."
2. If your afraid of evil, someone will come along and make you comfortable with it.
> If its in your heart to do evil, the devil will bring you an instigator to encourage you.
B. Jonadab was not looking out for his cousins welfare.
1. Jonadab had his own reasons for his involvement
> Jonadab had his own self-interest in mind.
> He knew what would happen in Amnon did this thing.
> He encouraged Amnon on purpose!
2. Later Jonadab would say, "I told Amnon it would come to this..." (v. 30-32).
> Jonadab acts as if Amnon got what he deserved.
> Jonadab acts like he is the King’s best servant, for being so well informed.
C. Jonadab’s true motive is like every instigator’s true motive.
1. Jonadab wants to ruin the relationship between David and his sons, for envious reasons.
> He cannot stand that he is not of the king’s family.
> He is jealous of the king’s kids.
> He knows they are no better than he. In fact they are wickeder.
> Yet they are the king’s kids and he is not.
> The root of his motive was ENVY!
2. This has always been the way of the Instigator.
> Cain killed Abel because the Father showed him favor.
> Ishmael hated Isaac because he was the father’s true son!
> Joseph’s brethren hated him because the father showed him favor.
> They hated and crucified Jesus because they were envious of Him.
"Pilate said unto them, Whom will ye that I release unto you? Barabbas, or Jesus which is called Christ? FOR HE KNEW THAT FOR ENVY THEY HAD DELIVERED HIM."
3. Jonadab’s motive was envy.
> He hated Amnon and wanted his destruction, because Amnon was the king’s son; and he was not!
D. Jonadab is a type of satan.
1. Jonadab was subtle (v. 3).
> The very first thing we find out about satan is that he was subtle
"Now the serpent was more subtle than any beast of the field which the LORD God had made."
> Definition: "So slight as to be difficult to detect or describe; Crafty or sly; devious."
> Be careful of those sly people that bring matters up subtly as if they were helping you.
> They want you to believe that they are spiritually motivated.
> But, they just want to get close enough to stab you.
2. Jonadab was the instigator AND the accuser of Amnon’s situation.
> First he encouraged Amnon to do the deed, then he accuses Amnon to the king.
> This is exactly how satan works.
> That’s why he is called the "accuser of the brethren."
3. Jonadab reveled in Amnon’s destruction (v. 33).
> Oh don’t get upset about this, its only Amnon.
> Don’t take it to heart, he’s only getting what he deserved.
> This is the way the devil does God’s children...
IV. The Sad Conclusion.
A. Tamar’s whole life is destroyed (v. 19-20).
1. She went out crying.
> "Whither shall I cause my shame to go?"
> She was raped by her brother!
> Her life would never be the same.
2. She remained desolate.
> this means she never got married, had children, or a normal life.
> Tamar was the king’s daughter, but she would never have a big beautiful wedding.
3. This was not her fault.
> She was not the perpetrator of this act.
> Yet she would suffer the rest of her life because of it.
4. Your sin effects your family.
> Often for the rest of their life!
B. Amnon’s life is ended.
1. He is killed by Absolom, his brother.
> Amnon rapes his sister, and Absolom kills Amnon.
2. He is dead.
> His sin cost him more than he ever expected.
C. Absomom’s life is ruined.
1. He is a murderer on the run.
> He is in exile.
> He is not living as a king’s son anymore.
2. David’s slack in dealing with Amnon was no doubt part of what made Absolom turn against David.
> Absolom became a runaway refugee murderer.
> But this event also started the wheels of betrayal in his mind.
D. King David has a broken heart (v.36).
1. The king weeps very sore for Amnon.
> He is broken hearted about the death of his son.
> He knows he should have punished Amnon for his crime, and that his slackness caused Amnon’s death...
2. It won’t be very long that king David will be weeping over the death of Absolom.
> "Oh Absolom, my son, my son..."
> "Oh Absolom, my son. Woudl to God that I had died instead of you!"
3. And, while David weeps sore for Tamar, for Amnon, for Absolom....
> He can hear the Prophet Nathan’s words still ringing in his ears:
> "The sword shall never depart from thy house..."
4. What brought the sword on David’s house?
> His sin with Bathsheba!
This whole family suffered greatly because of the consequences of sin!
If king David were here, He would tell you...
Don’t let sin ruin your life!
Don’t allow a Jonadab to influence you!
Don’t be a victim of the Shame and Folly of sin!
