Ungodly Soul Ties & the Measures Needed to Walk in Wholeness
By Gary Tillotson
When we look at the subject of ungodly soul ties we have to remind ourselves of a few pointers that are important.
1. Not all soul ties are ungodly; God created us as a relational being, and intended us to relate to one another. e.g. ( 1 Samuel 18:1 Jonathan & David )
2. It is good for us to have relationships that are spirit to spirit as long as they are in the will of God.
The best place to look at the subject of soul ties is the word of God, by looking in the word we can see how ungodly soul ties can effect us.
One of the most striking things Jesus said is in the book of Luke:
Lu 14:26 (WEB) "If anyone comes to me, and doesn’t hate his own father, mother, wife, children, brothers, and sisters, yes, and his own life also, he can’t be my disciple”.
What Jesus was saying here can teach us a big lesson in the subject of soul ties.
1. Jesus was not saying we are to hate our parents, as this would be contary to the fifth commandment.
2. Jesus was saying we are to love them less in comparison to him.
The call of God on our life should not be interfered with by the relationships we hold in this life, Gods call should always be first, and if we are influenced by His Spirit in our life we will begin to fulfil the call of God on our life.
Ungodly soul ties can and will effect the call of God on our life, and what we determine as a Godly soul tie, as in with a spouse for example, can effect us in a ungodly way as well. Such as their desire for the course that our life should take; taking precedence over what God has called us to be and to do.
When we put Jesus first above all even our own life, as in the desire for ‘self’, we then will find out what is ungodly in our life, and consequently we shall experience the Godly relationships God wants us to experience and enjoy.
We can look at a particular character in the Old Testament whose call was effected by a soul tie. We can also learn some important lessons from his walk and learn how we can be taken off course in our own walk. His name was Samson.
Samson’s mother was barren before he was born, the Angel of the Lord visited her and told her that she was going to give birth to a son: Jg 13:4 (WEB) Now therefore please beware and drink no wine nor strong drink, and don’t eat any unclean thing:
5 for, behold, you shall conceive, and bear a son; and no razor shall come on his head; for the child shall be a Nazirite to God from the womb: and he shall begin to save Israel out of the hand of the Philistines.
• So Samson was consecrated to God to be a Nazirite.
• God had a vision for his life to save Israel.
God had a purpose for Samson and if you read the whole story in Judges chapter 13 to 16, you will find that his desire for women effected him in a way that took him of the course God had for him. He desired the philistine women more then his own. He gave into his desires and that undermined Gods plan for him he had a moral weakness in this area.
Jg 16:4 (WEB) It came to pass afterward, that he loved a woman in the valley of Sorek, whose name was Delilah.
It’s interesting to note the word love in the above scripture is the same Hebrew word referring to the love Jonathan had for David: Ahab ’ahab aw-hab’
or raheb {aw-habe’}; a primitive root; to have affection for (sexually or otherwise): --(be-)love(-d, -ly, -r), like, friend.
Samson’s physical strength enabled him to do exploits, but his moral weakness led
him into relationships that were ungodly especially with Delilah, he had a soul tie with her, because of the love he had for her. This is what happened to him.
1. Loss of control
Jg 16:19 (WEB) She made him sleep on her knees; and she called for a man, and shaved off the seven locks of his head; and she began to afflict him, and his strength went from him.
• Something weaker than him was controlling him.
• He took a detour in his walk with God and he was overpowered.
• He put his trust and security in someone else.
• He had become a slave to sin through the soul tie he had with Delilah.
What can we learn from this?
• Who’s the main influence in our life?
• Jesus should take precedence in all our relationships.
2. Loss of vision
Jg 16:21 (WEB) The Philistines laid hold on him, and put out his eyes; and they brought him down to Gaza, and bound him with fetters of brass; and he did grind in the prison-house.
Without vision the people perish, the Lord had departed from Samson and not only had he lost his vision in the physical, but he had lost it for his life also.
• He lost his direction.
• He could go nowhere.
• His strength had gone.
What can we learn from this?
• We need to walk in the vision God has for our life.
• For our relationships.
• We have to claim our destiny God has for us.
3. Loss of position
The Bible says in chapter 16:21 that they brought him down to Gaza, not only did they bring him down he had Spiritually brought him self-down.
• He was no longer in the plan God had for him.
• His sin led him to have an ungodly soul tie, and sin was his master.
• He had violated the Nazirite vow and the Lord departed from him.
What can we learn from this?
• Avoid anything or anyone that brings us into sin.
• We have to forgive those that have hurt us or taken us out of the will of God.
• We have to cut any of the above loose.
• We should let nothing separate us from God’s purpose for our life.
4. Loss of mobility
• He was spiritually bound before he was bound with fetters, he had lost his mobility.
• He lost his spiritual freedom.
What can we learn from this?
• When we can’t pray or worship God that is when we lose our spiritual mobility.
• We can lose our mobility in our godly relationships when we walk out of the will of God.
• We have to address the relationship or situation that we are in and regain the vision God has for us.
5. Loss of status
• He was in prison.
• The detour from God’s purpose he took, caused him to end up were God didn’t want him to be.
What can we learn from this?
• What we do today can effect were we end up tomorrow.
• We should not blame our circumstances.
• We should seek God on where he wants us to be.
6. Way forward
• Samson had lost everything.
• He was alone.
• He prayed to the lord to remember him and strengthen him.
• The Lord had mercy on him and restored him and his hair grew back.
• He regained his anointing and strength and defeated the Philistines.
What can we learn from this?
• The road to spiritual wholeness starts with prayer and repentance.
• Restoration from sin can take time as the circumstances of the choices we have made may require a lot of prayer.
• When you are looking at physical pain that arises out of emotional wounding, that comes through relationships, that produces a life style that imparts a belief system that effects the way we think, feel and behave. We are unable to change just like that; we have to look at coping mechanism, how we have coped with the pain. We have to look at the substitutes we have put in place, we have to examine the choices we have made, and in those areas restoration and healing are to be understood as a process. However some people have come through that process and are restored and healed.
• We have to learn to wait upon the Lord.
We have seen how an ungodly relationship affected Samson, it ultimately destroyed him. But he also regained God’s favour for his life.
Under the new covenant we are blessed because the blood of Christ cleanses us from all sin, and that includes all manner of spiritual ties. But just as we have learned
the associations we keep with people can effect God’s plan for our life we should always prayerfully seek whom the Lord and what the Lord wants for our life.
To walk in wholeness is impossible with out the Lords guidance Mt 5:6 (KJV) Blessed are they which do hunger and thirst after righteousness: for they shall be filled. We need to hunger and thirst for a right standing in God.
We hear of people training their body i.e. going to the gym, walking etc.
And when you do it for the first time it hurts, you use muscles you thought you never had. It’s good to exercise Paul told Timothy it was of profit but what else did he say?
1 Tim 4:8 (AMP) For physical training is of some value useful for a little, but godliness spiritual training is useful and of value in every thing and in every way, for it holds promise for the present life and also for the life which is to come.
For bodily exercise is of some value. The Greeks gave great attention to bodily training. At Ephesus, where Timothy was, he could still see the remains of the stadium where the athletes displayed their skill. We need to display the same diligence in training for godliness. For the bodily exercise profits little, while the godly training is profitable in all things. It makes you happier, more prosperous, and healthier, and in addition it prepares you for the life to come.
Our spirits need to be trained also, and can be educated just as our minds are, and be built up just like our body when we exercise.
But when we go into new things its hard just like physical training, and in some instances even harder because we have to humble the flesh and quiet the soul.
Here are six rules in which the human spirit can be trained and developed.
1. By meditating in the word
2. By practising the word
3. By giving the word first place
4. By obeying the voice of your spirit
5. By praying in tongues
6. By communicating with God in two way prayer
And after a while just like physical training you will begin to see results, but you won’t see anything until you go to the spiritual gym and keep going!
Because its through our spirit God communicates with us, not through our reasoning or flesh.
Pr 20:27 The spirit of man is the candle of the LORD, searching all the inward parts of the belly. (All the inward depths of his heart)
AMP: The spirit of man that factor in human personality, which proceeds immediately from God, is the lamp of the Lord, searching all the innermost parts.
• By this we know the Lord will enlighten us and guide us.
• And our spirit will commune and be made alive with Gods Spirit.
Joh 14:16 And I will pray the Father, and he shall give you another Comforter, that he may abide with you for ever;17 Even the Spirit of truth; whom the world cannot receive, because it seeth him not, neither knoweth him: but ye know him; for he dwelleth with you, and shall be in you. Gary Tillotson
