INTRO: Define anger and its effects
Anger is
1. Proper use of anger.
Illus: My gun has proper use
25Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to his neighbor, for we are all members of one body. 26"In your anger do not sin"[a]: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27and do not give the devil a foothold.
Ephesians 4:25-27
Anger is:
A-activating
It can be what motivates us to see the right thing happen.
Let anger motivate you: If your spouse isn’t a Christian
If your children rebel
If your kids come home with consistently bad grades
If your spouse mistreats you
If your world seems to be going wrong
If people are mistreating you
BUT IN YOUR ANGER DO NOT SIN
N-normal
Everybody gets angry. Anger isn’t the problem in the world. The problem is
uncontrolled anger. Why does pop corn pop? You need to vent and not allow
things to become to built up.
G-gentle
Some think that because they are angry about something they have the right to make the
rest of the world miserable. They act as if their anger certifies them to take it out on
others. Anger is a motivator, not a warrant for stupidity.
E-effect driven
We don’t want to be angry for the point of being angry. We become angry to strive
toward a goal.
R-resolving
Not only should anger motivate you to action it should also motivate you to bring
the situation to a resolution. An end that is at least understood. It may not be your way
but at least something you understand.
Anger is not:
A-arrogant
To often people think that because we get angry we should get our way. I see
kids do that all the time. Unfortunately I see adults do it just as much. This
is probably one of the leading reasons for divorce today.
N-negative
Believe it or not anger is not negative. The goal of anger is to bring about a
positive resolution and as a result anger is to be seen and treated as a positive
thing.
G-glamorous
I see so many act as if it is cool to be mad all the time. Talk about Melissa and
how it affected her marriage with BJ.
E-expected
YOU DO NOT HAVE TO BE ANGRY. It is not supposed to be part of the daily
routine to get angry. Anger is a special emotion that flares up on occasion. Granted
some times you will be more angry more often than others but we need if we are getting
angry all the time we may need to evaluate our own lives.
R-rude
We are to always be loving. Even in our anger. It is not right to be rude or cruel in your
anger.
2. Calm after the storm
Illus: Tornados in OKC
