Summary: Funeral sermon for Henry Allen, who had lingered in weakened condition for many months, and who had become distanced from everyone, particularly his family.

What you see is not always what you get. What your eyes

tell you is not always the whole truth. Sometimes there is

more going on than you can see.

Have you ever been tricked by an optical illusion? An optical

illusion is something that, when you first see it, you think you

know exactly what it is, but when you look again, you

discover it was something else. If someone holds up a big

red sign, six-sides, with the white letters SPOT in the middle

of it, you will immediately think it says, “Stop”. That’s what

you expected it to say; that’s what you think you saw.

Except that it said “Spot” instead of “Stop”. What your eyes

tell you is not always the whole truth. And sometimes there

is more going on than you can see.

I was reading just the other day about a young man I knew

years ago when he was a student at American University.

He is now a performance artist, who can, with deftness of

hand, make things appear where they are not supposed to

be and make other things disappear without a trace. He

recently helped produce a movie in which he made actor Will

Smith just suddenly appear in the middle of Times Square.

Nobody quite knows how he did that. What your eyes tell

you is not always the whole truth. There is more going on

than you can see.

There is more going on inside people than what you can see,

too. There is a whole lot more than first impressions. I told

the children of the church a story the other day about two

men who showed up at the door of the school, looking for

children. One of them was in raggedy clothes, in need of a

shave, looking like last week’s leftovers, so they called the

security guard to deal with him. The other was dressed in

the latest fashions, driving a sleek car, looking cool, and they

smiled at him. But after a while they found out that the first

man was somebody’s daddy, who looked the way he did

because he had worked all day and all night, and the second

man was a drug dealer looking to recruit kids! You cannot

always tell who a person is just by looking. There is more

going on than meets the eye. The Bible says it, “[Men] look

on the outward appearance, but the LORD looks on the

heart.”

Over these several months, as we visited Henry Allen’s

hospital bed and made our way to his nursing home room,

what we saw was not the whole story. What our eyes told us

was not the whole truth. There was more going on than we

could see. We thought we saw a man in decline; but we

were actually seeing a man in the making. Our eyes looked

at a man turning his face toward the wall, and we thought,

“He is depressed, he has given up, he is dying.” But I

suggest this morning that what was really happening was a

man was gathering his spirit, looking for new hope, and

finding the source of new life. More going on than we could

see.

And when we shrunk back from the array of tubes, lines,

cords, and hoses that Henry had to endure, we did not see

all of that as a gift from God. We did not understand that

God was transfusing Henry with new life, transfusing him not

with saline solution or glucose or blood plasma, but with the

redeeming blood of Christ. Something was going on, far

more than we could see at the time.

From our Scripture, I could imagine the apostle Paul walking

in to Henry’s hospital room, and seeing more than what we

saw. I can imagine Paul saying to Henry:

Even though our outer nature is wasting away, our inner nature is

being renewed day by day. For this slight momentary affliction is

preparing us for an eternal weight of glory beyond all measure.

What did we think we saw? An “outer nature wasting away”.

But what was really going on? An “inner nature being

renewed day by day.” The apostle was able to see beyond

what ordinary eyes see. He saw that all this suffering was

preparation for an “eternal weight of glory”, an inner nature

being renewed.

There is one basic thing that every one of us wants to do

before we die, and that is to reconcile. To settle accounts.

To say what has not been said and to finish what has not

been finished. We want to die in peace, and we cannot do

that unless we are reconciled. I believe that God in Jesus

Christ gave Henry Allen time enough in which to reconcile; I

believe that God transfused new life into Henry, so that he

could accomplish what every one of us wants to accomplish:

reconciliation.

I

For example, we want to reconcile with ourselves. We want

to be at peace in our own minds about who we are and how

we have lived. I am not suggesting that we expect to die

with smiles on our faces or that we will not be happy unless

our laundry list of tasks is completed. Not at all. To

reconcile with ourselves means that we want to understand

what we have done with our lives. We want to know that we

meant something. We want to know that we had value. A

friend of mine wrote a book entitled, “Will It Matter That I

Was?”. Will it make any difference that we took up space on

this planet for a while? We want to reconcile with ourselves.

Henry lived his life somewhat alone. True, there were the

neighbors and the postal patrons, and true, there is the

coffeeklatch crowd. But Henry lived to a great degree in his

own private world. Cooking, fishing, gardening – this is

private stuff. You might have thought that what you saw was

a man who did not know how to reach out, or who thought he

did not need others. But what your eyes see is not always all

that there is. Something more was going on. It was

preparation for this “eternal weight of glory” into which Henry

has entered.

In these weeks and months of Mr. Allen’s illness, when we

look back, we saw him struggling with himself. We saw him

seeking to understand the significance of his life. Some of

us heard him, feeble though he was, asking questions about

what he had done with his time on earth. This morning we

have heard appreciations from some whose lives he

touched; we have discovered in your witness that in him

there was character and integrity. I believe Henry used

these last weeks to discover that in himself. We saw him

receiving, like a transfusion from the Spirit of God, a settled

spirit, reconciliation. We saw him coming to peace with

himself.

When God extends a life beyond what we might expect, it is

God’s gift so that we might learn who we are, we might come

to terms with what we have been about, we might be

reconciled with ourselves.

Even though our outer nature is wasting away, our inner nature is

being renewed day by day. For this slight momentary affliction is

preparing us for an eternal weight of glory beyond all measure.

II

But then, we not only want to reconcile with ourselves. We

also want to reconcile with those whom God has put into our

lives. We want to be sure of our family and our friends. We

want to connect with those whose lives are bound up with

our own. We want to reconcile with those we love.

Sometimes that is very clear, as when someone begs

another to forgive him of past wrongs. Sometimes it is quite

open, as when someone writes a last will and testament and

bridges old gaps and heals old wounds. But sometimes you

can’t see it. Sometimes you think it isn’t there. But

remember, there is always more going on than what you can

see.

We want to reconcile with those we love and those who have

loved us. Friends, have you noticed how all of us get

crossways of one another? Have you noticed that our

biggest problems are with those that are close to us? It’s

always been that way, and presumably always will be. Adam

and Eve got crossways of one another in the Garden -- “I just

did what she told me to, Lord, it’s not my fault”. And before

they got over that issue, their two boys got into a colossal

fight and somebody had to leave home. We just do get our

relationships out of order.

And yet we cannot live forever without reconciliation. We

cannot live and we certainly cannot die without reconciliation.

We really need to know that the connections that have made

so much difference in our lives are firm and strong at the

end. Wilma, you painted for me a beautiful picture of one of

your very last times with Henry: how he called for you, how

he told you that you had been a good mother and a caring

wife. I personally shall cherish, as I know you will, that

picture of a shaking hand, reaching out to find your hand, to

connect. To reconcile. To come home. That arm,

transfused so often with the life-sustaining liquids of

medicine, now became the arm transfused with the spiritual

power of Christ, who in His sacrificing love teaches us to

come home to one another.

Oh, don’t you see it?

Even though our outer nature is wasting away, our inner nature is

being renewed day by day. For this slight momentary affliction is

preparing us for an eternal weight of glory beyond all measure.

Had you been with Wilma and Henry at that moment, you

might have seen nothing but a weary hand floundering for a

bit of steadiness. But something more much more, was

going on!

III

But it is not only that we want to reconcile with ourselves;

and it is not only that we want to reconcile with the significant

people in our lives. In the final analysis, we want to reconcile

with God. We know that it is from God that we came and

that it is to God we must go. We have to reconcile with our

God.

Henry Allen was not a church-goer. He was not invested in

institutional religion. But that is not what I am talking about.

Being a church member does not guarantee that you are

reconciled with God. I sometimes like to say to our folks that

just because a cat is born in a garage, that does not make it

a Cadillac! It’s not just a question of religious formalities. It’s

not just a matter of getting baptized or having your name on

a church roll. These things are important; but they are not

what we mean when we speak of being reconciled with God.

No, to be reconciled with God means that you discover, often

very suddenly and very quietly, that God loves you. You see

what you never saw before: that God loves you beyond your

ability to receive His love. You feel what you never felt

before: that God loves you far more than you have a right to

deserve. Reconciliation with God means that you wake up

and know that nothing you have done has driven Him away.

Nothing you have failed to do has dimmed His care for you.

Nothing you have said has turned God’s heart away.

Reconciliation with God means, as one theologian put it, that

you accept your acceptance! You wake up to the knowledge

that the love of God is deeper far than tongue or pen can

ever tell; it reaches to the deepest depths and plunges to the

lowest hell. And when that happens, there is peace. There

is complete and perfect peace, for you know that you are

going to receive something you could never have earned,

nor could you ever purchase it. You are going to receive a

place in the heart of Almighty God, and nothing can ever

take that away from you. That is what it is to be reconciled

with God. Oh, “Amazing grace, how sweet the sound, that

saved [even] a wretch like me; I once was lost, but now am

found, was blind, but now I see.”

Henry Allen found God’s grace. Better, God’s grace found

him. He was not able to say much; he could not fully

express what was in his heart. But several of us saw

enough and heard enough to know that he did trust Christ,

he did respond to God’s grace, and he did find, at the last,

peace, reconciliation.

There was so much more to Henry Allen’s last weeks and

months than what the eye could see. The Lord transfused

him and extended his time so that he could be reconciled.

Henry’s heart gave out, yes, but listen to the promise of

God’s word:

So if anyone is in Christ, there is a new creation: everything old has

passed away; see, everything has become new!

Henry’s life ended, yes, but hear God’s gift:

Even though our outer nature is wasting away, our inner nature is

being renewed day by day.

Henry’s days here are over, yes, but know what God is

giving him:

For we know that if the earthly tent we live in is destroyed, we have

a building from God, a house not made with hands, eternal in the

heavens

The Henry Allen we saw is no more. But then we did not see

all that was happening anyway. We saw Henry transfused

with tubes and lines, cords and hoses. We now see Henry

transfused with new life by the blood of Jesus Christ:

For [God has] made him to be sin who knew no sin, so that in him

we might become the righteousness of God.

There was a whole lot more going on than met the eye.

Even though our outer nature is wasting away, our inner nature is

being renewed day by day. For this slight momentary affliction is

preparing us for an eternal weight of glory beyond all measure.