Three Things Every Wife Wants Her Husband To Say
November 4, 2001 FBC, Chester, Illinois Mike Fogerson, Speaker
Introduction:
1. Pam and I went to a rummage sale and happened upon dry cleaning box.
A Inside was a beautiful wedding dress.
a On the box, in a woman’s handwriting was a note.
b "One wedding dress, size 10. Worn only once on accident."
B A woman was cleaning out her closet and she came up on her wedding dress and for chuckles and grins....she tried it on.
a Over the years she had put on a little weight and the old dress didn’t fit. She began to weep.
b Her husband came to see what was wrong and saw that the dress was snug. And w/o thinking he said, "Honey, don’t cry. We’ll go buy you a bigger one."
*Sometimes, guys say the dandiest things.
2 Three things every wife wants her husband to say.
A Heb. 13:4
HEB 13:4 Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.
a God wanted marriages to be honored by everybody. (ETS)
b A healthy marriage takes lots of work. (ESS)
B HUSBANDS. I hope you’ll take this message to heart by saying one of these things to your wife this week. (Objective)
a Who will say what needs to be said? (Probing Question)
b Let’s look at three things that every wife wants to hear her husband say.
*pray
1 "No man is luckier than I am."
A Can you imagine stumbling across a large ruby?
a Excited! Your world will forever be changed for the better!
b You would go get appraised, insured, irreplaceable, protect and secure it. Lock it up. Hired an armed guard.
B Prov. 31:10-11
PR 31:10 A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.
a An honorable, noble, virtuous, strong wife is a rare, rare thing.
(A dishonorable, shameful, terrible wife is a dime a dozen.)
b The husband of a noble wife is blessed.
C If you have an excellent wife, you have been doubly blessed. (God doesn’t have to be singularly good to any of us. You could have married a skizzer.)
a No one can take your wife’s place. (Irreplaceable!)
b Look over at your wife and say, "No man is luckier than I am."
T.S.: So far so good. Let’s look at something else our wives want to hear from us.
2 Hone, is there anything I can do for you?
A Billy Graham’s wife, Ruth, tells a beautiful story about her parents Dr. Nelson & Mrs. Virgina Bell.
a They had been married for years and did as much as possible together.
b On day, Ruth Graham went into her elderly parents house to check on them and she found her father on his hands and knees putting Mrs. Bell’s stocking on her feet.
*Dr. Bell looked at his daughter and said, "The greatest privilege of my life is taking care of your mother."
B There is a golden rule.
Matthew 7:12
[12] So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.
a In marriage there is a platinum rule you can live by.
"Do unto your wife as she wants done unto her."
b The greatest privilege in your life is to take care of your wife’s needs.
C The Old Testament says, "As for me and my house...." Men say all the time, "This is my house....."
a That’s right. That means those are your dirty carpets, dirty dishes, dirty floors....
(IL.) In a college psychology class, two students (one male, one female) debated who gave up more when a couple got married. The woman said, "The man gives up more." To the man suprised, he was about to congratulate her on her great insight to how much men give up to be married. But before he could get a word out she said, "The man gives up doing his laundry, gives up doing his cooking, gives up cleaning up..."
b Find out what your wife hates doing around the house and for the next 30 days do it.
*Ask her, "Honey is there anything I can do for you?"
T.S.: Let’s listen to final thing wives want to hear their husband say.
3 Sweetheart, I was wrong. Will you forgive me?
A In 1998, The Minnesota Family Institute did a survey of divorced people and came across an eye-opening discovery.
a 66% of those divorced looked back with REGRET that they didn’t give their marriage a better effort.
b Every marriage is made up of two sinners. Every good marriage is made up with two good forgivers.
B Gentlemen! There is a God and your not it.
a Romans 3:23 "For ALL have sinned and fall short of the glory of God."
*You’ve made a mess!
b If (and when)you do mess up...fess up and ask for forgiveness.
C Ladies! Let’s talk about forgiveness!
MT 6:14 For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. [15] But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.
a Women...When your man asks for forgiveness (genuinely repentent.....forgive.
b If you don’t, you’ve got an obedience problem. The bible tells us too.
Conclusion:
1 There is an old saying, "You get what you pay for." A healthy marriage takes lots of work. (ETS)
A We’ve looked at three things every wife wants her husband to say.
a No man is luckier than I am.
b Honey, is there anything I can do for you.
c Sweetheart, I was wrong. Will you forgive me?
B I hope you’ll take this message to heart by saying one of these things to your wife this week. (Objective)
a You can either try and loose nothing...possible help or
b You can just say forget it. I know what your wife wants you to do!
2 Who will say what needs to be said? (Probing Question)
A In California they did a study about ran down neighborhoods.
a If you want your neighborhood to have its crime rate go up, don’t repair the broken windows in the buildings. If you want violent crimes to increase, don’t cut the grass.
b By letting the building get ran down, your telling the devilish element in the neighborhood you don’t care.
B Men, if are letting your house go to pot...your telling the devil, and your wife, you don’t care.
a Who will say what needs to be said?
*To your wife.
*To the devil.
b I hope you’ll take this message to heart by saying one of these things to your wife this week. (Objective)
*Who will say what needs to be said? (Probing Question)
