Adultery, what a nasty word. It’s no wonder people don’t call it that, they refer to it as an affair of the heart, a fling, illicit love even an extramarital relationship, anything but adultery. After all every one is doing it, aren’t they? Well I know of one person for sure who isn’t. On the other hand in the book "The Day America Told the Truth" we are told that almost one-third or all married Americans have had or are now having an affair. Are Canadians really much different then Americans.
Jesus never seemed to have a problem with calling a spade a spade, you’d never catch him saying digging implement. And so in Matthew 5:27 Jesus Said "You have heard that it was said, ’Do not commit adultery.’ Where does it say Do not commit adultery? Well in Exodus 20:14 God gave the people of Israel the ten commandments and number seven said "You shall not commit adultery." Last week we learnt that Jesus came not to destroy the law but to fulfil it. Remember the Greek word that Christ used for fulfil literally means to level up, to finish or to cram full. And so Jesus said that it wasn’t up to him to change even the smallest part of the law, instead he said he came to complete it.
The law that Christ was referring to was what the Jews called the law and the prophets, the same thing that we now call the Old Testament. The old testament laws were laid down for a nation to keep it from deteriorating into moral decay, and rotting away from the inside. The concepts that Christ goes on to deal with here were meant to hold the moral fabric of Israel together.
But Christ goes on to say that believers, Christian those who would follow Christ had a much higher calling then to simply obey the law and then he illustrates. The law says you shall not murder. That’s cool, in order for society not to destroy itself it needs to respect life from conception to natural death. When we decide that life at any point on the time line is any less or any more valuable then at any other point then we are opening doors better left closed.
And while respect for life is a wonderful concept for society as a whole the believer is required to go a step further and along with not kill they must not even hate. And that can only happen with the help of God.
And so Jesus continues in Matthew 5:27 (NIV) "You have heard that it was said, ’Do not commit adultery.’ This second command comes from Exodus 20:14 and Deuteronomy. This is the second great principle of civilization. The first was the sanctity of life, the second is the sanctity of the family. The sin of adultery was considered so serious under Jewish law that the was death, it’s laid down in the book of Leviticus 20:10 (NIV) "’If a man commits adultery with another man’s wife--with the wife of his neighbor--both the adulterer and the adulteress must be put to death. And while this seems to put an end to the thought of possible reconciliation it certainly cut down on repeat offenders.
The law recognized what adultery does, it creates chaos and destroys the very foundation of the community. We all know that don’t we? If you were a child in a family torn apart because of a cheating parent you’d probably have an even greater appreciation for the law. The Bible actually placed murder and adultery side by side and yet today it is common place and even winked at.
Historian J.D. Unwin studied eighteen civilizations in an effort to best determine which facts accounted for their disintegration and his conclusion was this, "Every society has one of two choices, either sexual promiscuity and decline or sexual restraint and growth."
Christians then in order to act as salt for society are to refrain from adulterous relationships, does that surprise you? Probably not. As a matter of fact, under the law everyone, believer, unbeliever, redeemed, unredeemed is supposed to refrain from adultery, to prevent the family unit and society as a whole from disintegration.
But again Christ says that the Christian is to go beyond the limits of the law. The law says no adultery, Jesus says no lust, listen to his words in Matthew 5:28 (NIV) But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. Ouch! by the way it can be read this way, Matthew 5:28 (NIV) But I tell you that anyone who looks at a man lustfully has already committed adultery with him in her heart. Ladies, what is good for the goose is also good for the gander so this one doesn’t just apply to your husbands and boyfriends.
If our society is to survive then our society will have to practice "You shall not commit adultery" fair enough, but if we as Christians are to point our Country toward God than we need to not just practice the law we need to fulfil it and not even lust after someone who is not our spouse. And if that wasn’t strict enough, Christ says Matthew 5:29 & 30 If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. Jesus goes from the action, adultery, to the thought of the action, lust, to the sight or touch that provokes the thought. Now let’s not confuse this teaching with Islamic law that uses this type of action as a punishment for sin. Jesus isn’t saying this is punishment instead he is saying it is prevention.
Now we all immediately jump up at his point and say, "But Jesus didn’t mean this literally, but figuratively. I mean after all Denn remember how gentle he was with the woman caught in adultery. Let’s keep in mind that we all have those natural urges and cravings." Well be that as it may, it remains that the Christian is to go beyond the law in controlling their sex drive. And Christ tells us to amputate all occasions where we might fall down in this area. I know a gentleman who cannot go to the beach because of his mental reaction to ladies in swim suits. You say that boy’s got a problem, maybe but he’s dealing with it, you might say he’s gouged out his eye in this area by not going to the beach. Maybe that’s not a problem for you maybe it’s the swimsuit issue of Sports Illustrated, and I’ve never understood the sudden fascination that some men have with women’s fashions when that issue comes out Or maybe it’s television, or videos or movies. It’s interesting to note that the television industry spends half their time trying to convince people that they aren’t influenced by television, and the other half of the time convincing advertisers that people are influenced by television, go figure. Maybe it’s none of those situations instead maybe it’s when you are with a specific persons.
And we said it before but it bears repeating this doesn’t just apply to the men, dirty dogs that they are but also to the ladies. God recognizes our sexual needs and desires after all he created them. And he also created the framework in which they are to be exercised and that is called marriage. I love this passage because you ultimately get into the tiresome quest of "what does it mean to look at a woman lustfully?" Is it ok to look at a woman like this, ah, ok then is it ok to look at a woman like this. I have discovered that people who debate how far you can go are usually looking for loopholes. Bottom line is that the Christian can and must control their sexual drives, and not let their drives control them. You ok?
Two ways to control our thought process, the first is to say "I will not think about that." And that is like not thinking about ---, everyone close your eyes. Come on humour me, close your eyes. Now I want everyone to not think about pink and green elephants, don’t think about big green elephants with pink stripes. Ok let’s not think about big flamingo pink elephants with Kelly green stripes. Don’t think of their long trunks swaying as they walk and their big ears flapping on the side of the heads. Don’t think about how much damage a big green elephant could do as they tip toe through your garden. Get the picture?
The second way of course is to fill your mind with good thoughts, another literary question, how many people have read the book, watched the movie or seen the play of Peter Pan? Can you remember how to fly? Peter Pan told John that "You just think lovely wonderful thoughts and they lift you high in the air." There is a computer term that says "Garbage in, garbage out" If you fill your mind with garbage why are you so surprised that your mind is full of garbage. Need a more spiritual quote, then how about this Philippians 4:8 (NIV) Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things. You fill your minds with things that are true, noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable, excellent and praise worthy and I can almost guarantee you won’t have problems with lust.
Now if Christ hasn’t stirred up enough of a hornets nest listen to his next statement in Matthew 5:31 (NIV) "It has been said, ’Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.’ What Christ is quoting here is the only Old Testament regulation concerning divorce. And that is in Deuteronomy 24:1, and the main function of that scripture was to say that if a divorce took place and a woman remarried, divorced the second man then she could not return to the first man, sort of ruin it for Liz Taylor and Richard Burton wouldn’t it?
this ties in with the last statement that Christ made in that it also deals with the family. The Jewish law recognized that the marriage was both sacred and binding. The Rabbis said "The very altar sheds tears when a man divorces the wife of his youth" and the Prophet Malachi wrote in Malachi 2:16 (NIV) "I hate divorce," says the LORD God of Israel, Now that’s fine in theory but it didn’t work well in practice. One of the major problems of the time was that woman weren’t viewed as people nearly as much as they were as things. And so when a man didn’t want his wife anymore he simply showed her the door. Well you can well imagine the effect that this would have on society and so the law brought about a proper procedure to deal with the situation and again it was a law for unredeemed people.
Do you remember Deuteronomy 24:1 (NIV) If a man marries a woman who becomes displeasing to him because he finds something indecent about her The big debate with the Jews was what was meant by the term "Indecent" the most conservative teachers said that it meant adultery, or he discovered that she wasn’t a virgin when they married. Others said that it meant that she made her husband unhappy in some ways. It could be that she couldn’t have children, that she was disobedient, that she was a nag or burnt dinner or that he had found someone that he preferred over her.
It was this second more liberal view that was held by the majority of the Jews at the time, at least the majority of the men. And so if the wife displeased her husband then he gave her a writ of divorce that said Let this be from me your writ of divorce and letter of dismissal and deed of liberation, that you may marry whatever man you wish. This was the law for society and remain so today, if you cannot live with your spouse and you aren’t a Christian you don’t simply desert them you go through the necessary actions and paper work and make it official. That is there to protect the institution of marriage, to provide a waiting period so to speak, to make it a little more difficult then simply walking away.
As Christians we need to keep the law, but we are also required to go beyond it, to fulfil it. and so Christ states Matthew 5:32 (NIV) But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery. And so with those words Christ opened up the biggest cans of worms in church history. I would mention that this is addressed to men because under Jewish law women had absolutely no right to divorce, however today this stands for both men and women. What this says is that the only acceptable reason for two Christians to divorce, and remember this is for two believers, is for adultery, and this permits remarriage. Now I know that not everybody agrees with me on this stand, and that’s not a major concern of mine because I’ve been disagreed with before.
Now before you get up and leave, or sit there figuring out how to change my mind after the service, which by the way you can’t, hear me out. I realize that Matthew is the only place in the New Testament which includes the adultery option. Some maintain that is because it wasn’t a part of the original text, but that becomes the cop out you use any time you disagree with Bible. Other maintain that Christ was talking about the year of betrothal that the Jews observed. Others and I guess I’m in this camp believe that the reason neither Mark or Luke mention it is because in Jewish society divorce wasn’t an option in the case of divorce, it was required. It was immediate and it was mandatory. when adultery happened the marriage vows were considered to be nullified and that was that, was that. And so Mark and Luke didn’t even feel like it needed repeating. The other thing we need to remember is that adultery was a capital offence under Jewish law, you didn’t become a divorcee if your spouse cheated on you, instead you became a widower. There was less paper work that way.
I also believe that divorce that happens before a person accepts Christ is covered by His forgiveness. divorce and adultery aren’t the unforgivable sin, if violating God’s perfect plan for our world excluded us from the Kingdom of Heaven then none of us would qualify. We need to approach marriage as indissoluble, and with two people who are walking with God it will be indissoluble because neither one will commit adultery.
In Matthew 5:33 Christ deals with the next Old Testament principle on the list "Again, you have heard that it was said to the people long ago, ’Do not break your oath, but keep the oaths you have made to the Lord.’ Deuteronomy 23:21-22 contains the law laid down concerning oats, and this simply means promising to do something. The Jewish teachers had always insisted on the paramount importance of a person’s word. The Rabbis declared that "One who gives his word and changes it is as bad as an idolater" As a matter of fact the Rabbinical school of Shammai even forbade normal polite courtesies, like complimenting a bride on her looks when she was in fact plain.
Two things brought oat swearing to a head during the time of Christ, the first was taking oaths on frivolous things, and we do that today don’t we, "Honest, I swear, that truck almost hit me" The second problem was even worse and that was evasive swearing. People had decided that some oaths were binding and others weren’t. So if you made an oath on God’s name it was binding, but if you swore by heaven, or earth or Jerusalem then it was less binding. The thought being that if God’s name was used then he became a partner with you in the statement. Just a little pet peeve here, I think that some people believers included use the name of God much too lightly and I don’t just mean cussing, Angela has a T-shirt that says "God’s last name isn’t dammit" But I mean when we use God as an exclamation in our Conversation, keep it simply the only time you should use the word God is when you are talking about Him or to Him. By the way that was free.
Have you ever sat down and listened to someone seriously trying to explain the difference between lies, white lies and fibbing? Jesus recognized that an unredeemed society needed to have something to govern them other then their innate honesty. Order cannot be maintained without some kind of legal machinery to insure that promises would be kept.
Christ didn’t come to destroy or change law for society, instead he came to fulfil it through the Christian. Not only should the Christian always keep their word they shouldn’t have to swear an oath to make sure they keep it. The thought shouldn’t be going through their minds, "Did I actually promise to do that" It doesn’t matter if you promised or not if you said you would do it then you need to do it. Christ told us in Matthew 5:37 (NIV) Simply let your ’Yes’ be ’Yes,’ and your ’No,’ ’No’; Does that mean that Christians are never to take oaths? And if so how do we explain Paul’s words in 2 Corinthians 1:23 I call God as my witness and again in Galatians 1:20 I assure you before God that what I am writing you is no lie.
There are times that you will have to take an oath, if you are on a witness stand in a court of law you swear to tell the truth, if you join the armed forces or a police department you swear to serve. I realize that sometimes they will let you get away with saying I affirm instead of swear, but really isn’t that just semantics?
Christ explains in the last part of verse 37 anything beyond this comes from the evil one. Very simply if it is necessary to take an oath then it is because of the evil in mankind. If there was no evil then there would be no lies and no need to take an oath. And as well if it is necessary to take an oath it is not a reflection on you but on this evil world. Christ is saying however that those who know you should know that you word is always good. Is it? Remember that your actions the way you live your life should not only be salt to preserve society but also needs to be a light to point people to Christ.
